How to release anger?

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**Just met with my spiritual director and was informed that I am filled with anger!

First reponse - anger…guess it was an accurate statement.

I was not given any direction on how to rid myself of the evil influence in my life. Other than to notice when I am angry.

Suggestions?**
 
Sometimes I think that anger is the fruit of resentment. Dislodge that resentment from your heart seems best.
 
First, Drive away any evil spirit that may be picking away at your anger by saying, “In the name of Jesus, I renounce the spirit of anger and I command it to leave.”

This way you are left only dealing with yourself and not any undue oppression.

Anger is usually deep deep sorrow. Anger can probably find it’s root in some form of un-forgiveness; whether it be someone who injured you, circumstances not working out the way you wanted, or you need to forgive yourself for hurting yourself or someone you love. It could also be a result of some form of grief. I don’t know if you can just “release” the anger, you may have to “feel” it and let it work it’s way out of you. Exercise and physical exertion work for most people.

I also would try a full body cleanse to clean out your cellular memory.
 
Lady_Love said:
First, Drive away any evil spirit that may be picking away at your anger by saying, “In the name of Jesus, I renounce the spirit of anger and I command it to leave.”

This way you are left only dealing with yourself and not any undue oppression.

Anger is usually deep deep sorrow. Anger can probably find it’s root in some form of un-forgiveness; whether it be someone who injured you, circumstances not working out the way you wanted, or you need to forgive yourself for hurting yourself or someone you love. It could also be a result of some form of grief. I don’t know if you can just “release” the anger, you may have to “feel” it and let it work it’s way out of you. Exercise and physical exertion work for most people.

I also would try a full body cleanse to clean out your cellular memory.
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Good suggestions!

A clear conscience is an absolute must. Try a heavy bag or some agressive sort of exercise, too. Fun and a great way to focus on something in order to clear your head. I can’t tell you how many times I have an epiphany while exercising! Usually mountain biking…or drumming…
 
Thanks for sharing your concerns and trusting us to offer some help. Most likely, your S.D. just observed your tendency to blow up, but was not able yet to discern the root cause. The Holy Spirit is an excellent Counsellor. It would be good to spend time with him in prayer before bedtime, asking for help in uncovering the root from which the tree springs.

Here are a few ideas to help p(name removed by moderator)oint those areas.

  1. *]Impatience. That is a biggee for me. To avoid my former SoB expletive, I now bellow out “Sacré bleu!” - it helps a little. :o I can get flustered whenever I drop or spill something or when things disrupt my ordinary routine.
    *]Resentment. Often due to very real or perceived injuries that seem to have no solution with regard to the offender.
    *]Stress. It leaves us open to attacks of impatience and frustration. Can we eliminate all the extras and focus only on what is a priority? Learn to say “no” to overloads.
    *]Selfishness. Wanting our way, and when it is thwarted, we become heated.
    *]Unforgiveness. We need heavy doses of understanding God’s mercy; first to ourselves, since we too are sinners, and asking for help in loving the “enemy” as He loves them. Not easy. I saw a really good meditation on Prov. 24:17 that helped me the other day. “Don’t rejoice when your enemies fall.” We are naturally prone to wish our adversary gets his come-upins, but God calls us to a higher standard, to love as He loves them. That may involve cooperating with His justice to bring about correction.

    Just a few ideas for thought. Maybe others will chime in. This is a difficult thing to overcome, but it is wonderful when we finally learn to live in peace with all.
 
I had a lot of anger at one time too…and had a horrible temper. I am much better now. Prayer sometimes works for me…when it does not, I go to the gym. An hour of weights and cardio makes my anger go down the drain
 
These are all great responses, but I would just like to add: learn to play the drums, my friend. 👍
 
Praying my rosary helped this month when I was angry at a family member who is in a cult, for persecuting me for becoming Catholic three years ago. Persist, say it as many times a day as it takes for the anger to leave.
 
If you met me you would say I am very calm, felxible and I rarely raise my voice. I am not saying that outward appearance means I am not angry…I trust my SD to notice me more than I motice me. This has my head reeling - what have I missed? How to I get beyond this?
 
Armor_of_Light said:
A clear conscience is an absolute must. Try a heavy bag or some agressive sort of exercise, too. Fun and a great way to focus on something in order to clear your head. I can’t tell you how many times I have an epiphany while exercising! Usually mountain biking…or drumming…
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This… truly works. I know for a fact because it works for me! 👍
 
jmjconder said:
If you met me you would say I am very calm, felxible and I rarely raise my voice. I am not saying that outward appearance means I am not angry…I trust my SD to notice me more than I motice me. This has my head reeling - what have I missed? How to I get beyond this?
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I think “noticing” when you get angry is a good start. Take notice of what triggers it, maybe keep a journal. You may see consistencies in what angers you. This will indicate to you what the source of the problem is. I heard a statement once, “We work out our past in the present.”

For example: You might notice that every time someone cuts you off in conversation you get angry. This might indicate a source of pride in the need to be noticed, respected, or regarded. A subtle desire to be heard rather than listen, to have the attention on the self rather than being available to others.
 
jmjconder said:
**Just met with my spiritual director and was informed that I am filled with anger!

First reponse - anger…guess it was an accurate statement.

I was not given any direction on how to rid myself of the evil influence in my life. Other than to notice when I am angry.

Suggestions?**
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Maybe he wants you to notice first, and then recognize that/if you have a problem before he gives any advice.

It’s no good giving advice if the person doesn’t believe in the problem.
 
jmjconder said:
**Just met with my spiritual director and was informed that I am filled with anger!

First reponse - anger…guess it was an accurate statement.

I was not given any direction on how to rid myself of the evil influence in my life. Other than to notice when I am angry.

Suggestions?**
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I believe no-one can completely change what they are by character,they can only learn and pray to control themselves and conform.This is our life long cross to bear.Remember that God knows all,and if you were but to think about injuring your neighbour,you will be hurting Him first before your neighbour even sees or hears of you.
 
**I serve 1000’s of people every year and I can give you testimonies of my kindness, care, concern for others, and joyful spirit. So when my SD told me that I am an angry person this was a completely taken aback. Please know this is so foreign to me - I do not doubt the observation since SD’s are meant to see each of us in a more truthful light than we do ourselves. Now I am questioning every “nice” gesture I make and wonder if I am being genuine.

I do not raise my voice or shout at others. Guess I have known angry people and many of them are openly angry - I am not. It must be an emotional or spiritual anger that I am unaware of. Please help me understand what is going on.**
 
Remember anger is not a sin itself but only when anger resolves to violence it should be stopped and tolerated and treated.
But if your anger is not violent its ok to keep because its in your heart for the process of healing.
But if it leads to violence and sin this is what i do count to 3 then breathe in thru the nose and out thru the mouth. Its good relaxation.

Sincerely,
Ad Infinitum:thumbsup:
 
Ad_Infinitum said:
Remember anger is not a sin itself but only when anger resolves to violence it should be stopped and tolerated and treated.
But if your anger is not violent its ok to keep because its in your heart for the process of healing.
But if it leads to violence and sin this is what i do count to 3 then breathe in thru the nose and out thru the mouth. Its good relaxation.

Sincerely,
Ad Infinitum:thumbsup:
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**Please know that I do not want to sound filled with pride. People that know me and encounter me on a regular basis say I am so gentle, friendly and kind. Those are traits I always strive for. I am an active Catholic who is more than a once a week Mass goer. I have been faithfully serving the Catholic Church for over 25 years.

Any anger that may be seen by my SD is not from an outward expression…it can only be inward. That is why I am so lost in this.**
 
Just humbly ask your SD what it is they see.

Don’t beat yourself up or second guess yourself - yet;) - just try and notice things in a detached sort of way.
 
triumphguy said:
Just humbly ask your SD what it is they see.

Don’t beat yourself up or second guess yourself - yet;) - just try and notice things in a detached sort of way.
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I agree. BTW self destruction is a sin 👍
 
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