How to Speak to Daughter about sex

[aliciar]

My 12 year old daughter lives with her father a few miles from me. My exhusband got full custody. I am really nervous because many of his brothers and sisters never got married. They just got together and had children. He and I are the only ones who married through the church. His youngest sister got together with a man and had her first child at 14 years old. Now she has four. I never understood why. all my aunts got married in the church. and mexico being a mostly catholic country, I thought everyone was catholic and did all the sacraments. I don’t want my daughter to even think about being with a boy right now. I want her to get a good education way past her 20s first. she hasn’t done the communion yet and I am trying to do things but I can’t do them by myself. And her father is busy working. How can I get her not to do anything until she marries? I don’t know what her stepmom and other aunts are advising her. I don’t want her on birth control, but I am scared. what should I do? I get my kids every other weekends.

 

[flyingfish]

My 12 year old daughter lives with her father a few miles from me. My exhusband got full custody. I am really nervous because many of his brothers and sisters never got married. They just got together and had children. He and I are the only ones who married through the church. His youngest sister got together with a man and had her first child at 14 years old. Now she has four. I never understood why. all my aunts got married in the church. and mexico being a mostly catholic country, I thought everyone was catholic and did all the sacraments. I don’t want my daughter to even think about being with a boy right now. I want her to get a good education way past her 20s first. she hasn’t done the communion yet and I am trying to do things but I can’t do them by myself. And her father is busy working. How can I get her not to do anything until she marries? I don’t know what her stepmom and other aunts are advising her. I don’t want her on birth control, but I am scared. what should I do? I get my kids every other weekends.

Fear of STD’s and pregnancy went a long way toward helping me stay chaste.

I don’t know how you could practically work it into conversation, but showing her some pictures of herpes and hpv (yes they are graphic and your daughter would have to see other womens’ genitals, but they are also extremely disgusting) along with the statistics for how extremely prevalent they are (something like 1/4 for herpes and i think even higher for HPV) might make her think twice since condoms don’t protect against either one of those.

That said, it might be weird for her to have you tell her that. Are there any chastity speakers where you live like Jason Evert?

 

[kage_ar]

go to www.sexrespect.com - order a copy of Mrs. Mast’s work and begin teaching your daughter.