How to Stop Girls From Flirting With You?

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DeniseNY said:
And hers if this girl is just speaking with the OP and he’s completely misinterpreting it.
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True, he has to be sure its actually flirting and is continuing even though he has told her to stop.

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Have this conversation with her, tell her you are devout catholic, which you seem to be, and you are considering vocations of priesthood or single life.

Let people know. They then realise there might be a boundary.

You should discuss your strong feelings of disgust with certain marital activities with your priest. Thats not what God wants us to feel. Yes we should feel aversion to non marital acts of the same, but not those that bring forth new life in married life.

God bless us on our journey home
 
pensmama87 said:
Unfortunately, this misses the point. (Those “certain acts,” if I’m assuming your meaning correctly, are what enables us to become co-creators with God in bringing forth new life. So I’d consider what those acts mean to Him, not so much what they mean to you, before you call them “disgusting.”)

You post all the time - is this a sin? Is that a sin? Over tiny, tiny minutiae. But in your OP you admitted to a huge sin - selfishness. And you just accept that as fine. No matter your calling, God does not want you mired in your own selfishness. It limits your ability to love and honor Him, and prevents you from true freedom.

The situation you’ve posted about is a common thing that happens to almost everyone in every day life. Either the person is actually flirting, or they’re just really friendly and don’t realize the impression they’re making. It should be sufficient to say, “I don’t know if this is what you mean to do, but I’m getting the impression you’re interested in dating me, and if that’s the case I just want to let you know that I’m not interested in dating anyone.” If she says she wasn’t trying to flirt, don’t argue with her - she may be truthful, or she may just be saving face. Just let it go at that.

Please consider how your words could be read and heard by other people. That doesn’t mean falling over yourself as a people pleaser, but I think you are not particularly aware of how you come off to others. Anyone can be “friendly” but that’s not enough to form loving, mutually satisfying relationships (including with family and friends.)

God bless you.
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This is all great advice.

OP: Please don’t misinterpret what I’m about to say as an insult. Just an honest observation. You seem to have a lot of difficulty with overanalyzing everything and social interaction. Are you autistic? Have you ever been tested for Aspergers? I really think you need to talk to a counselor of some kind.
 
Just be friendly and polite but don’t reciprocate.

Although, how do you really know she’s flirting? I’d say guys are more likely to think women are flirting when they’re not than the other way around.
 
philipl said:
He should also see how she interacts to others. At my office there is a young lady that goes out of her way to tell me hi and if we pass in the hall she has to stop and talk. But since she does that to everyone she is just a really friendly person.
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Here is the other thing about the girl in my office she is adorably cute. It would be easy for me to think “Well she must be flirting with me” but then reality sets in and I know better.
 
Melodeonist said:
There’s a young woman at work who just won’t leave me alone. Sure, I don’t mind talking, I love talking. However, I am afraid she likes me. It’s kind of annoying because I just like her as a friend.

I am not interested in dating anyone. Yes, I am attracted to women, but no I don’t want to deal with that kind of stuff as I know I do not want to get married and I think intimate stuff related to marriage absolutely disgusting. I would be happiest being single or being a priest. I also know I would be miserable being married because I hate making compromises in my personal life.

What should I do to convince her to stop flirting with me? Thanks! 👍
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You can not make anyone do anything. As adults, we can only control our responses to things. When you consistently don’t respond the way she wants (flirting back) she will lose interest and move on. But if it’s disruptive at work, tell your immediate supervisor.
 
Melodeonist said:
I’m sorry, but I disagree. I don’t believe I have any social issues as people always are saying I’m very friendly. I don’t think marriage is disgusting, I think certain acts that some married people perform are disgusting. 🤷
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What is it you perceive as disgusting about lovemaking?
Maybe what you really disdain is a distortion you have been taught/picked up about what sex should be(if that makes sense).
 
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