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A gay male friend of mine has just announced that he’s getting married - to a straight female acquaintance. :confused: They are friends, and there’s about a fifteen year age gap, not that it matters. Neither of them follows a religion.

This will apparently be purely a marriage of convenience. They’ve known each other for two years, and have lived next door to each other for most of that time. They get along well, and both decided to move to another country together. Then they decided it would be easier to be married and live together, in a non-sexual relationship, so that they could get jobs in the same area more easily, and so that eventually they would have passports to each other’s countries.

My friend told me that if they get along, they will stay together as long as they’re happy. If they stop getting along, they’ll get a no-fault divorce and go their separate ways.

Now what on earth would you say to that? He said this by e-mail, so I have time to think of a response.
 
Personally, I wouldn’t be at all surprised. But, then again, I’m in the military and I’ve seen people get married just so they wouldn’t have to live in the barracks. Since neither one of them subscribes to any religious beliefs, there’s nothing terribly shocking about their behavior. I think my question would be whether they intended to remain celibate in their marriage of convenience (since I imagine your gay friend has no interest in copulating with his wife) or whether it would be an “open” marriage where they would still date around. That would bother me more than their marriage being one of convenience.
 
Here is my question. If your friend or his “wife” meets someone they want to be with, how will they explain their situation? Gay men and women claim they want to be treated the same way as straight men and women, however if when I first met my current husband he told me he was living with a gay man and saying they were a couple just for some financial gains, I would have questioned his honesty about other things in life.
 
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A gay male friend of mine has just announced that he’s getting married - to a straight female acquaintance. :confused: They are friends, and there’s about a fifteen year age gap, not that it matters. Neither of them follows a religion.

This will apparently be purely a marriage of convenience. They’ve known each other for two years, and have lived next door to each other for most of that time. They get along well, and both decided to move to another country together. Then they decided it would be easier to be married and live together, in a non-sexual relationship, so that they could get jobs in the same area more easily, and so that eventually they would have passports to each other’s countries.

My friend told me that if they get along, they will stay together as long as they’re happy. If they stop getting along, they’ll get a no-fault divorce and go their separate ways.

Now what on earth would you say to that? He said this by e-mail, so I have time to think of a response.
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You sure some studio ain’t in town filming a TV show?🤷
 
I would wish him well and mind my own business. Unless he’s asking MY opinion, I wouldn’t share it. It’s his life - however freaky I might find it.
 
my standard reply (and I have been asked to congratulate people in freakier situations than this) is to say, “I hope you will be very happy” (even though I am thinking, “that will be well nigh impossible since your actions are militating against happiness”) and “I will be praying for you” (which is sincere at least, and kind of what they might expect me to say). I don’t say what the content of my prayer will be.
 
In the end, I replied with “I suppose congratulations will be in order. I hope things work out between the two of you.”

I hope it doesn’t sound too doubtful, but since it’s a sham marriage, I can hardly be expected to wish them wedded bliss, can I?
 
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In the end, I replied with “I suppose congratulations will be in order. I hope things work out between the two of you.”

I hope it doesn’t sound too doubtful, but since it’s a sham marriage, I can hardly be expected to wish them wedded bliss, can I?
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Not really but still that sounds positive enough. 🙂
 
I don’t think you can say much to this, if they aren’t religious, they aren’t going to take you seriously by considering a religious viewpoint.
 
Since they are non-religious… just pray for them and ask the Holy Spirit to begin His intercession on their behalf for the salvation of their souls…

Just pray…
 
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