Humanae Vitae and 2018

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I refer you to Jay Lyn’s post above…

And I don’t believe you can be as good a mother to double numbers of children as you can to two or three…

The sheer logistics of keeping a family of a dozen or more clean and fed would allow little one on one time with any of them…

Jay says she is exhausted and at the end of her tether with her brood, a situation that was all too common for my grandmother’s generation…

Loving children doesn’t mean you can cope with large numbers of them, or support them financially - except in Cloud Cuckoo Land.
 
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JayLynn,
I read your post with deep sympathy. I do not know how to reply to you. Would it help to talk to a sympathetic priest?
 
Prayers that you can reach out to your parish community and find some support. We modern Catholics have become very cold and un-fraternal, we are often shirking our duty to “bear one another’s burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ”.
 
TheLitleLady,
many thanks for your most constructive reply.
I am concerned about what we Catholics should be doing at present and your advice to support each other is excellent.
 
Thanks for your prayers. I am afraid I painted a bleak picture of my life and motherhood in general. The truth is that my husband and I wanted a big family and for the most part, it’s been wonderful.

My concern is just if I were to get pregnant again, I don’t think I’d manage very well. I am getting older and my last labor really scared me and we live in the country so the nearest hospital is half an hour away. I am having a harder time coping with the sleepless nights and keeping up with the house cleaning.

I suspect I have a touch of postpartum depression this round which is adding to my feelings of overwhelm.

I went to confession the other night and have to admit I feel much better after that.

On the plus side to big families is that the kids are never lonely. They always have someone to play with and our youngest baby has really brought joy to his older siblings, everyone loves him like crazy! It does force kids to share and doesn’t allow my husband and I to spoil them, even if we’d like to. I have no regrets over the children that I do have. I just am afraid of getting pregnant again. And I’m not sure it’s fair to ask my husband to live a celibate life for 10-15 years while we wait for menopause.

I’ll just have to reread all my NFP material and pray that God has mercy on us!

Financially, I know things will improve. The economy tanked in my area right after I got pregnant and my husband lost his job, but he’s been crazy busy setting up his own business and things have been tight while he’s been working on that, but I think things are finally starting to get better as we have gotten past the worst part and income is starting to outnumber expenses.

Thanks again for your prayers and for letting me express myself. I find I always feel better after I am able to vent and let off some steam. And sometimes I’d rather do that from behind a computer than to someone I know.

I hope that makes sense!
 
More hugs. Perhaps you can look into a different method? For me Creighton worked what I now feel was too well, not one “surprise”.

If I were still in the childbearing years phase of life and had your good reasons to avoid, I’d likely look at Creighton plus one of the new monitors (Marquette or one of the new type monitors that you wear at night).
 
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