Husband and wife discord over contraception

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I just see a lot of women made to feel guilty or avoid using these medications when they desperately need them (ie horrible pain, anemia etc…) when in fact it will reduce the change of pregnancy loss from when is part of the natural part of conception. The best way to have a healthy conception and pregnancy is a healthy Mom.
 
Thanks Paul. Thanks everybody! I hope that people thinking about marriage come across this and consider the difficulties that theyll encounter if they havent figured this out as a couple before marriage.
 
I don’t think a single person argues that a “mom”. (That’s an odd term when discussing contraception) shouldn’t be healthy. What may be the question is should an unhealthy mom have relations when the chances of a hostile environment to life exists within her body because of a chemical she ingests. That being said, very few people who want to conceive treat their conditions with birth control.
 
Most women I’ve met who have had unwanted pregnancies have had hormonal birth control fail. If the ovulation is so suppressed then why are there a on of single moms raising babies who depended on their ABC?
 
Mrchatsworth said:
If the ovulation is so suppressed then why are there a on of single moms raising babies who depended on their ABC?
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Because they were young and either A) didn’t use contraception at all or B) didn’t use it properly (forgot to take the pill one day, etc…).
 
TheLittleLady said:
C) those who do the research consider withdrawl as a method of contraception,
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Agreed. I almost came back and added that one but figured I covered it with A.
TheLittleLady said:
and consider those who are surgically sterilized yet become pregnant as contraceptive failures.
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That too. One of my wife’s friends had a “whoops” pregnancy after he was snipped. I wouldn’t expect many in that camp to be “young single mothers” though.
 
When I worked in the service industry it was common to know and talk with many women with kids who were quite open about being on contraception, using it, and then getting pregnant. In fact most of them were that way. Very few people use no contraception.
 
Mrchatsworth said:
When I worked in the service industry it was common to know and talk with many women with kids who were quite open about being on contraception, using it, and then getting pregnant.
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Again, there’s using it and then using it properly…unless you just ran into the 2% (it’s lower than that, but we’ll give a little +/- breathing room.) Nobody is going to come out and say they screwed up and didn’t use it right (or realize they weren’t using it right in the first place).
 
Leek said:
Hormonal medication suppress ovulation so it’s less likely that you’ll lose one than the natural loss that occurs.
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urg?

It does not apply to the OP situation.

He mentioned IUD. And also that his wife is breastfeeding. The first intention contraception for a breastfeeding mother is a coper IUD- that is without hormone.
Then barriers methods. Hormonal contraceptives such as pill or hormonal IUD can be given, but a physician would rerely prefer an hormonal IUD if a breastfeeding woman can have a coper IUD.

And for the natural loss versus contraception, sorry but one is natural, one is due to sinful action of birth control.
 
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Because there was something that interferes with the primary function (took wrong time other meds etc…) and then they conceived (and the meds didn’t cause an abortion).
 
I’m not saying this is a good situation for the pill, I’m saying I’ve seen woman (including me) avoid the pill when they should be taking it because everyone bring it up as an abortive medication and basically calls you a murderer ( meanwhile you’re bleeding to death 😦 )
 
Leek said:
I’m saying I’ve seen woman (including me) avoid the pill when they should be taking it because everyone bring it up as an abortive medication and basically calls you a murderer
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Why would your personal business be a topic of conversation? If I were taking the pill for medical reasons, that would be no one’s business but mine, and I don’t know why anyone would be weighing in on it?

No one brings this up in regular conversation, so in what context is everyone calling you a murderer?
 
1ke said:
No one brings this up in regular conversation,
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Perhaps you are fortunate enough to have a social circle where private matters stay private. That’s not the case for everyone. I’m in a family and social circle where more than one person talks openly about their reproductive plans/choices and also don’t hesitate to flat out ask others about theirs. I’ve gotten more “Are you pregnant?”’s than I can count from one particular person in my social circle.
 
Psalm30 said:
I’m in a family and social circle where more than one person talks openly about their reproductive plans/choices and also don’t hesitate to flat out ask others about theirs.
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You can’t control the ill bred manners of others. But you can control your own reactions and contributions to such conversations.
Psalm30 said:
I’ve gotten more “Are you pregnant?”’s than I can count from one particular person in my social circle.
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So reply, “wow, what a rude question”. And walk away.

I mean, why would you answer them? And why would you tell them anything private about your own fertility or female problems?

I don’t understand, truly. If anyone asks me a personal or intrusive question I just give them a look that says, “step back” and that’s the end of it.
 
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