Yeah, well, that will do it to you. You grow up around it not knowing any other way and it rubs off. There also may be a genetic component.Both his mother and father had OCD.
Yes. It’s a form of obsessive compulsive disorder that makes a person worry that everything they do is a sin. It requires professional help from a priest or therapist. People who are scrupulous come to these forums all the time asking “Did I commit a mortal sin?” The threads are promptly locked and the user sometimes suspended for a time because posting such questions on the forum will likely worsen their condition. I personally suffer from it but do not make such posts as I know it is not the way to handle it. Anyway…yes it’s a thing, and it is a heavy, heavy cross.Is srupulosity a “thing”?
Eh…this is key. My mother is definitely a “know-it-all,” not in a snobby way, but in that, as I said before, it doesn’t matter if someone who is knowledgeable and in authority makes a claim. What she believes and does (which often makes zero, zip, zilch sense) is “right.” It’s very disconcerting and it does fit the category of “know-it-all” but in the case of obsessive-compulsive disorders it’s far from harmless.always thought he was a bit of a harmless “know-it-all”
Red flags are flying. This whole thing screams “underlying issue” and does not exhibit healthy sexuality. Past history of sexual abuse? Intrusive thoughts about another woman, (yes, this is one bizarre way that men cope)?How should I proceed?
No professional therapist worth their ethics will judge a client by calling them “uptight.” They may non-judgmentally explore mental health conditions that get labeled “uptight” but actually deserve compassion and intervention. Can you connect with any of these people in your area? https://www.catholictherapists.com/Any therapist that considers him to be “too uptight about sin” ot seems modern would lose his respect quickly.
Well we do it for the pleasure as well. And according to Catholic tradition that is ok.but we are humans so we do it not for the pleasure but becuse its a tool for reproduction
Well it’s not just ok. It’s a good. The pleasure is part of the unitive aspect, not just a “side effect”. It’s not enough to say that it’s a consequence, it’s one of the good things about it.its ok to feel the pleasure, becuse the pleasure its one of the consequences of the act
I’ve personally been laughed at by a therapist who at another time dropped the F-bomb and acted annoyed with what I was trying to express, so…think again.No professional therapist worth their ethics will judge a client by calling them “uptight.”
You’re pretty far off the mark on this. Where have you learned this information?but we are humans so we do it not for the pleasure but becuse its a tool for reproduction, you are married and your husband’s annulment was valid so you and him have the rigth to do it (and the natural obligation), and as long as the sex is opened to life (dont use contraception and do it in the rigth way) its ok to feel the pleasure, becuse the pleasure its one of the consequences of the act, not the intention of the act itself,
Better yet . . . read again:I’ve personally been laughed at by a therapist who at another time dropped the F-bomb and acted annoyed with what I was trying to express, so…think again.
No professional therapist worth their ethics will judge a client by calling them “uptight.”
Well, you don’t necessarily know whether they’re “worth their ethics” until you have a session with them and they laugh at you. They may have excellent credentials and glowing reviews but still mistreat individual clients.Better yet . . . read again:
Is it possible that your priest thinks this letter might have been from a crank or a troll, and is prioritizing matters he thinks are from people with ‘real’ need?At my request he wrote an email to our priest. We’ve received no answer after 10 days.