Husband gone for next 5 days

[StratusRose]

My husband’s work has asked him to work 12-hour night shifts (7PM to 7AM) for the next 5 days. In between those hours he will be sleeping at his parent’s house since it’s only 4 miles from his work and our house is 35+ miles away. We’re going to try our best to get together between shifts…

He left this afternoon and I miss him already. Since we’ve been married (only 11 days ago ) we have been soooo nice to each other and have been getting along better than ever. I wish his job had been more understanding that he has a wifey at home now, but I understand they really need him and he will make good money from it. (I’m trying to see the bright side of the situation )

I can’t wait until we move into our new house that’s only 8 miles from his work so he can come home to me when he has to do this.

Sorry about the whiney post, but I just feel sad right now. I’m still at work doing credit time so I won’t have to go home to an empty house.

 

[kage_ar]

Newly weds - how sweet.

I do have to chuckle at 35 miles - I drive 106 miles round trip every day for work, and my days are always at least 10 hours long, and I’m OLD Ya’ll are young, you can do it!

 

[stayathomemom]

Aww, I do feel for you. My hubby is out of town for 2 weeks also, and I miss him so much!:crying: It is very sad not having him home at night, but distance makes the heart grow fonder…and I CANNOT wait until he gets home from this business trip!

 

[catholicrocks]

I’m with you, too! I hate when my husband is gone - even just overnight! We’ve been married almost 3 yrs., no kids yet.

I try to do girly things for myself when he’s not there. I might order a pizza with just what I want on it (no compromises b/c he’s not there to eat it! ), or pick up a pint of chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream on the way home from work. Then I’ll watch a chick flick or some sort of girl show on TV, maybe give myself a pedicure, or call a friend that I haven’t had time to talk to in a while…stuff like that. I don’t like going home to the empty house either, so I work late too! I just try to do some things that maybe I used to do when it was just me, and that now I don’t necessarily have time for. Don’t get me wrong, I much prefer the married life, but it’s fun to just “be a girl” while he’s gone. Hey, it keeps me occupied until he’s back home!

 

[ltbpoe43]

Young and married 11 days - drive 35+ miles (on Virginia’s great roads - what’s that about 45 minutes??) and have to work 7p -7a and then make a tough choice:

1. go home to my beautiful new wife and have a great breakfast
2. go to my mom and dad’s house for 12 hours and miss my wife

No choice - let’s do breakfast

Agree with the other poster - I worked 72 miles away -one way-and went to work and night school (7am - 11pm) and wild horses could not keep me away from my beautiful wife who waited for me at home for 4 years until I finished school (and we moved too).

I know it’s only 5 days - but you’ll be fine.

 

[KCT]

Buy a bottle of your favorite wine and watch chick flicks .
—KCT

 

[StratusRose]

Young and married 11 days - drive 35+ miles (on Virginia’s great roads - what’s that about 45 minutes??) and have to work 7p -7a and then make a tough choice:

1. go home to my beautiful new wife and have a great breakfast
2. go to my mom and dad’s house for 12 hours and miss my wife

No choice - let’s do breakfast

Agree with the other poster - I worked 72 miles away -one way-and went to work and night school (7am - 11pm) and wild horses could not keep me away from my beautiful wife who waited for me at home for 4 years until I finished school (and we moved too).

I know it’s only 5 days - but you’ll be fine.

My friend, have you driven on the roads in Northern Virginia?? Worst traffic ever! Besides, I am at work by 7AM, that is why we’re going to try to do lunch one day.

Thanks for the tips. I forgot about the girly things I can do alone. At least I can watch American Idol, he HATES that show!

 

[Nechasin]

Be thankful that he has a place to stay close to his work. I don’t know if he has worked the night shift before, but I have worked it a few times and it really messes with you. I’m told that if you work it on a regular basis, you get used to it. I was exhausted. A few times I probably should have got a hotel instead of driving the 30 minutes home. When you get to a certain point, driving exhausted is as bad as driving drunk, except most people don’t believe it.

Don’t be upset if all he wants to do during the day is sleep. You will be better off trying to meet him for his breakfast (your dinner).

I’ll keep you and your husband in my prayers.

 

[His_Ruby]

I can relate to the “being nicer than ever” to each other Not that we are normally mean, but the first few days it was completely unreal, he was almost a stranger in some ways, and we were both incredibly sweet to each other

Anyway, I agree with the others. My husband, back when we were engaged (oh so long ago ) had to take a few trips for work to Texas, a week long each. Now if that happens I’ll be going along with him, but I missed him terribly then. I agree with the others who said do things for yourself, veg out, be a total girl while he’s gone. There are shows and movies, like you said, that I love and the hubby doesn’t particularly enjoy – watch them all! Take long baths! Give yourself pedicures and order in your fav food If you’re particularly crafty or like to think up surprises, use some of the time you’re missing him to think up/make a little gift or plan a little something special for him for when he’s back home. That’ll probably ease it a little bit.

 

[deb1]

Buy a bottle of your favorite wine and watch chick flicks .
—KCT

Ugh! I hate chick flicks! Give me a horror movie any day. But then I am strange.

I have three months left until my hubby returns. It is very difficult. I miss him so horribly. I can’t even sleep on our bed anymore because I wake up looking for him. So, I crash on the couch now.

But on the positive side, I have gotten the most sweet, romantic emails from him since he has been gone. I am going to have to print all of them out so that I can keep them forever.

 

[deb1]

Newly weds - how sweet.

I do have to chuckle at 35 miles - I drive 106 miles round trip every day for work, and my days are always at least 10 hours long, and I’m OLD Ya’ll are young, you can do it!

My hubby worked twelve hour shifts and drove a bit further then that to go to work and come home. OF course, we didn’t have the advantage of parents to let us stay at their home. So, my hubby had no choice but to either live at work or return to me.

 

[StratusRose]

Ugh! I hate chick flicks! Give me a horror movie any day. But then I am strange.

I have three months left until my hubby returns. It is very difficult. I miss him so horribly. I can’t even sleep on our bed anymore because I wake up looking for him. So, I crash on the couch now.

But on the positive side, I have gotten the most sweet, romantic emails from him since he has been gone. I am going to have to print all of them out so that I can keep them forever.

Aww! Suddenly I feel sheepish. You have so much more waiting, and here I am complaining about 5 days. God Bless you and your husband.

 

[deb1]

Aww! Suddenly I feel sheepish. You have so much more waiting, and here I am complaining about 5 days. God Bless you and your husband.

Don’t feel foolish. The length of time has nothing to do with how much you miss him.

The military sent my hubby away for training that lasted only a week. I was miserable during that time also. I miss him so much when he is gone.

Try and keep yourself busy so that the time goes by more quickly.

 

[wifenmommy]

:blushing: I’m spoiled…Hubby is too! He will not take a job that will require him to work offshore 'cause he can not stand to be away from home (me actually and dd! ). My best friend on the other hand has 5 beautiful children and her husband works in TRINIDAD for 6 weeks at a time and comes home for 2!!! Soooooo, whenever hubby has to work late, I dont dare complain!!!

…oh and by the way, we are not newlyweds we have been together for 17 years and married for 11!!! Yes, the newlywed feelin’ can last a while!!:blushing:

 

[crohnie4life]

hi Rose, I can relate to missing DH like yourself. When we got married he’d work 10 hrs./day starting at 5 am, 4 days on and 3 days off (he’s a chemist in water treatment) but he’d be on call at night on the days he worked. Sometimes he’d get paged at all hrs. even at 2 am or as soon as he got home. I’d miss him terribly when I’d go to bed if he wasn’t w/me so I’d try to wait up in order to give him a kiss goodnight. On his days off, I’d let him sleep in.

We will be married 10 yrs. in Oct., and to this day, whenever we have to be apart, even if it’s overnight, he makes sure that he calls to tell me that he loves me.

Right now he is sick with a bad cold due to working 12 -10 hr. days without a break. Friday is his first day off so I am doing everything I can to make him comfortable. No phone, no alarm clock, his favorite comfort food, DVDs, & ipod.

God bless you and your husband.