Husband Washes Wife’s Feet at Wedding Reception Instead of Tossing Garter: “You Deserve to Be Cherished”

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I’m sorry, but this is not my cuppa. A public gesture like this is not how I would want my husband to show that he was planning to “cherish” me. I would hope he had already shown that in 1,000 little private ways before we even got to the altar.

Also, marriages are mutual; if husband is doing this for her then she should do this for him also.
 
I think it was sweet. She obviously did not mind the public show of affection it was, as she wrote about it. The garter thing is stupid and sometimes embarrassing. I did not have that at my reception. Marriages are mutual, but not always equal in what each spouse does.

I wish them every happiness.
 
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We didn’t do the “garter thing” either. I also did not throw a bouquet because pretty much all the women at my small reception were married, except for one woman who was engaged and attending with her fiance.
 
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The garter thing is stupid and sometimes embarrassing. I did not have that at my reception.
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Could not agree more! Plus why do all my family and friends need to see my husband putting his hands up my dress? Awkward.
 
Well, I suppose the argument could be made that this replaces the garter thing, where it is only “one way.”
But since it took place in church, perhaps it symbolized that he is going to take care of her. Yes, I know some people find that to be old fashioned or whatever, but to each their own.
 
All that talk about “Eros” or something in the link. 🤷🙂

Didn’t really read the article. More like glimpsed.
 
I think it was beautiful !

The husband wasn’t placing himself below his wife in this gesture, but showing her that their love isn’t about sexual attraction, but about love as Christ loves.

My wife and myself got married 46 years ago. We didn’t have the garter toss either and some complained about it. Too bad, it’s our wedding and I wasn’t going to subject my wife to the humility that the garter toss often entails.

She did toss her bouquet and the woman who caught it, had an artificial replica of it created. She gave the replica to my wife as a souvenir gift. 😉
 
In some European cultures, there was a moment during the wedding party where the women (including the mother) would take the bride to the bridal chamber, change her into her night clothes and put her to bed, then the men would do the same with the groom.

The bride, of course, was supposed to put up a fuss. It was all in fun.

But people were more earthy in medieval days.
 
It seems to have persisted up to the early 20th century judging by movies I’ve seen with that sort of thing going on.

I agree it is not something I would like at all.
 
While it was a nice gesture by the groom, I think the bride should’ve reciprocated by making him a sandwich or something 😀
 
Weird. Tacky. Creepy.

You don’t need to find a replacement for the garter toss. You can simply. not. do. it.

My wife and I didn’t do any of that stuff. The only extra thing she did was toss her bouquet.
 
“Weird.Tacky. Creepy.”

Do you feel the same way during Easter week? 🤔
 
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