Husband Washes Wife’s Feet at Wedding Reception Instead of Tossing Garter: “You Deserve to Be Cherished”

[F_Marturana]

Eros is also a type of love.

Agape is the highest type of love.

Philia is brotherly love.

All are good.

 

[F_Marturana]

Then some cultures checked the bed sheets the next day to make sure the bride had been virtuous before hand.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

Do you feel the same way during Easter week?

Easter week foot washing is a symbol of our service to humanity in general.
It does not carry overtones of some kind of PDA or intimacy between a husband and wife.
It also doesn’t raise questions of why husband is washing wife’s feet and not vice versa - and I can imagine the controversy if a new wife were to be washing her husband’s feet in public as part of the Catholic wedding ceremony.

If some couple wants to do this and the priest allows it then that’s their choice, but I find it like I said not my taste. I stopped short of calling it weird, but if my fiance had proposed doing this I would have said, “NO, that’s just weird, ugh.”

I would not want my husband starting our marriage on his knees before me doing something with very private overtones in front of our families and friends. No garter removal and no foot washing. We stand together as equals.

 

[Irishmom2]

Easter week foot washing is a symbol of our service to humanity in general.
It does not carry overtones of some kind of PDA or intimacy between a husband and wife.

And neither did the husband’s gesture. The article said
“ Her husband washed her feet because it signifies Jesus’ sacrificial love.”

 

[Tis_Bearself]

Please understand that these gestures mean different things to different people.
This couple sees it as an imitation of Christ.
I see it as weird, over the top (my husband just made a vow before God to cherish me), overly intimate, putting my husband in an unnecessarily servile position, and slightly gross, especially since as someone else said I would have had to take off a heeled old-fashioned bootie and a stocking and hitch up my gown and basically be getting undressed in front of my guests in church.

Once again this is a matter of personal taste. If I were a guest at this couple’s wedding I wouldn’t express my thoughts on it to them, but you can bet I’d be telling my husband in private, “Man I sure am glad you aren’t the kind of guy who’d want to do that at our wedding.” And he would probably say he was glad I didn’t expect such a thing, not least because he would have worried about spilling water or ripping his pants having to crawl around on the floor in front of everyone.

 

[Irishmom2]

I do understand that. And I said it was a sweet gesture, because for them it was. I get that you personally don’t like it, you have said so three times.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

I’ve said so three times because of the critical comments in the thread towards people who didn’t care for the whole business.

Muting now.

 

[CelticWarlord]

We didn’t do the “garter thing” either

Maybe I’ve been leading a rather sheltered life, but I’ve never actually heard of this. When my wife and I were married 39 years ago I would not have known what was meant if the topic had been raised.