husband's alcoholism and anger problems

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please pray for my husband and his proboblems. He drinks and then blows up at little things. this happened tuesday night and he told me to get out he wanted a divorce (because he told me he wanted soup that night to eat and then was mad when I made it for him before he came home since he wanted something different by the time he got home). So, it was this huge thing and then yesterday morning as usual he told me to forget what he said. He called me in the morning and told me he wanted to work it out. We moved and this is a new place so let me give you a recap of what I did with my day

7:30 he left, our son woke up at 8. I fed him and cleaned up - it was about 8:30. I called around until after 10 about daycares in the area since i Have to start work next week and then I took a shower at a little after 10 and gave our son a bath (done after 11 with all the shower and dressing stuff) and then made lunch and eat and clean, so it’s 12:30 and we’re done with lunch and it takes half an hour to get our son down, so it’s 1. I clean up, 1:30 get out the laundry to be ironed, and son waked up at 2:00 already. I try to iron but it takes me till 3 b/c son it hanginng on my leg and wants me of course he’s only 2- give him a snack, and then at 3:30 begin picking up the house so it looked nice. at after 4 I take out our apartment check list and write down what’s wrong with the apartment and take it to the office so I can get our mail key and then I run to the store to get somethings my husband wanted - it’s after 5 and I have to stop at the office one more time for laundry card and then it’s about 5:40, clean up the kitchen a little and put dinner on - husband is home at after 6 a little.

I don’t say this to bore you, but to tell you that I Had a full day and I didn’t get the blinds hung up or the bathroom a clean over and dinner still took 10 minutes after my husband came home to be done (and he didn’t like dinner)- so threfore, I am a horrible wife and once again he wants a divorce. He says I “failed” the test (you know, when he called me in the morning to tell me he wanted to try to work out our marriage was a trick to see the progress I would make during the day and I didn’t get the blinds up and dinner (to his tastebud liking) wasn’t ready the second he came in, so I failed.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to be a single mom and i do love my husband. I want him to be a better person. I want things to work out. Can you please pray? He wants me and our son out early next month (and I will not be starting my new job then after all b/c I will be moving in with my parents and can’t commute from there. it’s 1.5 hours away. and then i do not have a great degree or job so I will have to depend on my parents for years and have to go back to school which is hard on them. both mom and dad have health issues. I don’t know what happend to my husband over the years. I miss who he was. Please pray for us. I don’t want my son to be fatherless.
 
Oh my goodness! Please know you are a good person, and a good wife and mother. You are most definitely in my prayers!!
 
You’ll definitely be in my prayers - you, your husband and your son. I’ll add you to my prayer groups list too so others will keep you in prayer everyday. pax/caritas - Dana
 
thanks for the prayers! he just called and asked me what is up and we talked for a few minutes. Then he said all of a sudden whate have you decided? Meaning when am I going to be moving out. The conversation before that question though seemed like he was softening up a little. He said he would call at lunch. Please keep praying. I always say it’s not over until it’s over and I hope God intercedes for me and saves us and our marriage.
 
Praying for you, but I am also praying that you will get some outside help. Something this confusing is better sorted out when there is some objective person to do it with. Find out if there are any good Catholic/Christian organizations near you to make a referral. I am worried about what I hear, and wish you peace and God’s graces. Please remember that you are responsible for what that child learns, and there are some really terrible consequences for children who witness abuse. If your husband truly loves his family, he will be a man and get control over his actions, but you must be in control of yours , as well, or he won’t have to do his part.
 
You are in my prayers, but your husband needs help with his substance abuse. Nothing will change untill he gets help,:gopray2:
 
You are a brave and good woman, Jenna. I’ll keep you in my daily prayers.
 
Jenna - Nordar is right - having worked in Alcohol/Substance abuse facilities over the years - it’s really very important that your husband get some help with that problem. I’ll be praying for that intention so that from there things may begin to heal for both of you!

pax - Dmari
 
Saint Monica, Pray for us.
Saint Rita, Pray for us.

You both were once married and had to deal with your husband with lots of patience and love. Help us to follow your steps to be patient and loving.
 
Yes,please seek some help from outside your family,nothing will change until your hubby gets help with his alcohol abuse,and you get help dealing with it.Praying for the family,IN JESUS NAME.
 
Eternal Father, please strengthen Jenna. Help her to cope with this and help her to find the earthly help she needs to resolve this, be it counselling to renew the marriage or a lawyer to look after her interests in the event that the marriage is irreparable. Touch, also, the heart of her husband and wake him up to the damage his drinking is causing to all around him. Turn him to Yourself.

In the name of Jesus, Christ
AMEN
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Saint Monica, Pray for us.
Saint Rita, Pray for us.
 
Will keep your husband and the whole situation in prayer with St. Rita - patron of difficult causes.
 
St Monica,

Please intercede on behalf of Jenna, our sister, who is in pain and help her to address each day as positively as she can. Please ask grace be granted unto her to endure this each day. Please ask that angels would be placed to guard her and her child each day. Please bring to her the wisdom she needs to address the situation calmly to bring peace to this family. We pray for the wounded spirit of her husband and ask that he would seek Christ Jesus instead of things of this world. We call upon the heavens to raise up their voices also in prayer.

Amen.

Jenna blessings to you, I read your email and almost cried b/c it looks like my hetic day. Bless you babe, it will get better.
 
Linda_Marie said:
Eternal Father, please strengthen Jenna. Help her to cope with this and help her to find the earthly help she needs to resolve this, be it counselling to renew the marriage or a lawyer to look after her interests in the event that the marriage is irreparable. Touch, also, the heart of her husband and wake him up to the damage his drinking is causing to all around him. Turn him to Yourself.

In the name of Jesus, Christ
AMEN
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Saint Monica, Pray for us.
Saint Rita, Pray for us.
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Amen!!
 
Oh Jenna,
What a strong and faithful women you are to be staying in this situation.
I pray that God is with you and guides you in the right direction.
You dont deserve this shabby treatment at all.
I wish you all the best and that God is with you through this hard time
 
Father, You know the troubles alchohol has caused in my family, and You know that it’s difficult for me to have much compassion for some who use alchohol to excess everyday, but I beg You to take this burden away from Jenna’s husband. It is an albatross around his neck and is causing Jenna, their child, and I’m sure family and friends much discomfort. And Father, please comfort Jenna as she deals with this cross in her life. Let her know she is not the only one who must bear a cross such as hers, and alos give her confidence as a wife and mother, which I feel sure she is great at both. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.
 
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