Hysterectomy & Avoiding Fatal Pregnancies

[crohnie4life]

I wanted to share my experience. I was dxed with a serious blood clotting disorder last yr. My body throws clots (I had 4 already–1 when I was 21, another at 26 in my right leg, a stroke due to a clot & hemmorhage 2 yrs. ago on my brain, and another clot this past Aug. in my left leg). I can’t take coumadin because I almost bled out while on it 6 months after my stroke & bled out on IV heparin w/one of my dvts.

My hemotologist told me that I am a very high risk for a pregnacy due to this clotting disorder & if I were to conceive I’d have to be hooked up to a heparin IV for the full 9 months but due to my stomach bleeding twice, she said it would be extremely risky to both myself and a baby.

When I saw my ob/gyn, he suggested that I have a hysterectomy to avoid a pregnancy as well as alleviate my IBD symptoms. I just about hit the roof. DH was livid and said NO unless I have uterine cancer (like my mom) then we’d talk. I got the opinions of my other MDs involved & they agreed w/me. Elective surgery is more risky so DH & I have placed our faith in God. We’ve been using NFP for 10 yrs. to avoid and it works.

Yes, it’s hard at times but it has brought us closer spiritually & we don’t take each other for granted. It does require committment at times, but that’s what marriage is all about. We have gained so much from using NFP & have lost nothing.

 

[angiegirl67]

NFP is not hard. A woman only has about 100 hours of fertility per month. It is also very effective when done right. Get some training and move on. Put your faith in God. There are so many children in the world that need to be adopted. Maybe that is your call to parenthood.

Angela

 

[puzzleannie]

having lived through a couple of periods of similar health threats as those faced by other women participating in this discussion, and having been married longer than a lot of you, and having worked with hundres of married couples in my time, all I can offer is this observation: if you are faced with the challenge of maintaining your marriage for period when sexual intimacy is impossible for whatever reason: separation, war, illness, etc.–your intimacy, love and mutual holiness (the goal of marriage) will increase exponentially to the degree of your challenge and sacrifice.

If you refuse to accept the challenge and resort to an immoral means to resolve the dilemma you will find plenty of support even from pastors who should know better, but you will forego an experience of intense love and intimacy that becomes possible for those who do embrace such a sacrifice and challeng to their love.