I’m not sure how to be Catholic or if I should be

[Chistian-ity]

As a fifteen year old who hasn’t dealt with this situation you can take or leave my advice as you wish . My advice is to do it! Don’t sweat your faults, God is God… he can handle it. Also don’t be so tough on yourself! If you feel weak know that God works through the weak, if you feel like you aren’t strong enough rely on God’s strength. Seek heaven first and everything will sort itself out. Not saying it’ll be flowers and daisies but it will be a good path to walk. Tune those out who aren’t willing to love and love unconditionally and know that Jesus was most despised among men, but most loved by his Father.

I hope that you find lot’s of compassion and all the answers you seek.

Ps, welcome to the forums!

 

[tommy37]

Wow you have a lot you’re dealing with right now. I really feel for you! It must be so hard to deal with all of this stuff. It’s very hard for me as a heterosexual male to be able to give advice to someone who is struggling with things that I don’t understand and have never struggled with. However, one thing I can do is direct you to those who have struggled with it and have come to a place where they are now not living a transgender/gay life anymore.

I don’t know if you’re aware of a website called sexchangeregret.com. You may want to check that out before you continue on with your desire to transition. There are a number of stories there from many people and maybe these people can be a guide for you. There are articles and videos and links to other Youtube videos. The site was started by a man named Walt Heyer who lived as a woman for many years before realizing that he wasn’t happy. He detransitioned many years ago and is now married. He now devotes his life to helping those like you who are struggling. His story is fascinating!

As far as the bisexuality and same sex attraction. I imagine you may have heard of Courage, which is a Catholic ministry for people struggling with same sex attraction. They have a number of testimonies on their website. You may be able to find help there. There are local chapters around the country.

You also might want to check out the website Changedmovement.com…It for people who left their LGBTQ lifestyles. From their About page it says this:

“Each person in Changed has experienced the compassion as well as the power of God in their journey. These stories disclose a God who is ready to meet us under any circumstance to lead us into His vision for our wholeness and well-being.”

There are also a number of stories there from many people who lived gay lifestyles and are not anymore. Hopefully, these people can guide you to make the right decision for your future.

You might also want to check out the book
Why I Don’t Call Myself Gay by Daniel Mattson

I would say that if others can move beyond these issues through the power of God then so can you. This is a cross to bear, no doubt. But it seems like Jesus is really calling you so I would just say—Pray, pray, pray…if you haven’t already. Go before the Lord in Eucharistic Adoration and begin immediately involving Him in your life and the decisions you’re being led to make here…Pour it all out to Him if you haven’t already done so and even if it feels weird at first.

The Lord is a real Person and his grace is real and will help you live the life He wants for you. It will take time but I encourage you to make the effort to live the way the Lord is calling you to live. And as far as your friends; in time God will give you new friends. God Bless you! You’re in my prayers!