I am Catholic...my husband is not

[MLNPC]

You have to wait for God to act on your husband. Continue to pray for your husband. Ask the Holy Spirit to put in your husband’s heart the desire to know more about the Catholic Church and to increase His faith, and ask our Blessed Mother to lead your husband to her Son, Jesus. God never forces or rushes us to follow Him, He patiently waits for us. You have to do the same. Don’t focus on what your husband is not doing right now. Keep your focus on God and His way. Read the story of St. Monica and St. Augustine. Ask God to show you how to serve Him. This way, your eyes are on God, and in the process, your husband is taken care of. Believe me because I have been there.

 

[Magdalen2013]

Had you considered setting up a prayer corner in your house? If you set prayer times for yourself and observe them regularly, you can always invite him to join you.

Sometimes an example is better than words.

 

[PennyinCanada]

Thank you for coming on CA and sharing your life with your non-Catholic husband.
I’ve been on here for a while, and often there is a young man or woman that come on here that is dating a non-Catholic person, or a Muslim, or a Jewish person, or an atheist. They always say their faith means a lot to them, but they are in this relationship. Your experience that you’ve shared with us today could certainly be shared with them and I invite you to do so. It will carry more weight then something I might say who married a Catholic.

My best wishes to you. You are very fortunate to have a large Catholic family. I came into the Church as an adult and it did not go over very well with my family, but thankfully I found a dear Catholic man to share my life with. Your husband will be blessed by being included in your extended family and may God grant him the gift of faith.

 

[Hawkiz]

Maine52;11663002:

If you wanted to marry a man who would share your Catholic faith, pray with you, discuss religion with you, etc., then you needed to consider that when you were dating him.

It’s not that I want him to be Catholic or do things the “Catholic” way. Its more about a prayer life together. He doesn’t understand the Rosary and things like that. I understand that and put myself in his shoes and don’t expect him to dive into Catholicism. I was mostly seeking advice on how to incorporate and encourage a prayer life together when we are of two different faiths. I love my husband very much. We are joined together by Christ through the sacrament of marriage and we both take that very seriously. I do not regret it at all and neither does he. I am not unhappy…Like I sad I was just seeking advice on how to incorporate a prayer life. We considered religion a lot while we were dating. We are growing and developing our routine and family dynamic so I was just seeking simple advice .

You are not alone. My wife is an evangelical Christian.(her father a minister - THAT makes for some ‘fun’ dinners!) I am Catholic. Twenty years ago, most people would have counseled us to not get married. We have some similar issues to what you are experiencing, and I understand what you mean when you say you feel ‘alone’ in your faith. I will encourage you by reminding you over and over again that you are not alone. Christ is with you, He is in your marriage, and He is working in your husband - and He is working on you! One of the hardest lessons that I had to learn was that Iwas not ever going to change my wife’s heart - only the Holy Spirit can do that. You can and should continue to live your faith - be a shining example for your spouse. And like others have said: don’t push to hard. Our Pope is a great example to follow: bring them in with love. And if that doesn’t work on the first 500 tries, love them some more! It IS possible. Stand firm. Don’t compromise. Don’t give up. Keep praying. Be thankful in each moment. I am praying with you and for you. Be confident that you and following the Lord’s will and remaining true to your faith. Continue to treat it like the blessing that you know it is to live life as a Catholic!

May He bless you and keep you all the days of your life!

 

[CathConvert2013]

I’m in the same boat. Back off. Pray for him. Know that it may take years for him to convert.

 

[Sujo]

You need to stop making yourself unhappy by imagining this perfect marriage that isn’t yours. Your non Catholic husband attends Mass with you each week and practices NFP. That is more than some Catholic husbands do.

Of course you can continue to pray for your husband, that he grow in faith and love God. But you need to adjust your expectations before you cause a problem. You knew him for 4 plus years before marriage. If you didn’t pray together or do devotions then, you shouldn’t demand it now. Be focused on your own prayer life. Find a devotion and prayer routine that works for you to do on your own, be grateful for what your husband does do and don’t push him away with demands that he’s not ready to fulfill now.

Love him and concentrate on other aspects of your relationship.