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Hi everyone. I am extremely depressed and I could really use your prayers. The reason why I am so depressed is because I am missing my Grandma and I am incredibly depressed over the fact that she isn’t going to be celebrating Christmas with this year since she died this past Summer. The grieving process just never seems to end. I seem to go through phases of not being too depressed and not thinking about it a lot and then eventually I get depressed again and start thinking about it way too much. I feel like I am going to be grieving for the rest of my life and I don’t know what to do about it. I have talked to my therapist a little about this but not enough. Anyway, please pray for me.
 
O loving messenger of the Incarnation,
Descend upon all those for whom I wish peace and happiness.
Spread your wings over the cradles of the new-born babes,
O thou who didst announce the coming of the Infant Jesus.

Give to the young a lily petal from the virginal scepter in your hand.
Cause the Ave Maria to re-echo in all hearts that they
may find grace and joy through Mary.

Finally, recall the sublime words spoken on the day of the Annunciation–
“Nothing is impossible with God,” and repeat them in hours of trial–
to all I love–that their confidence in Our Lord may be reanimated,
when all human help fails.
Amen.

Lord God, thou knowest what I am and where I belong.
Have mercy upon me and strengthen me,
that I may not through weakness stay in the darkness.
Lead me out into the light;
and may I find my way and be contented with it.
Amen.
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The Lord bless you
and keep you;
the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace.” Num 6:24-26
 
Holly3278 said:
Hi everyone. I am extremely depressed and I could really use your prayers. The reason why I am so depressed is because I am missing my Grandma and I am incredibly depressed over the fact that she isn’t going to be celebrating Christmas with this year since she died this past Summer. The grieving process just never seems to end. I seem to go through phases of not being too depressed and not thinking about it a lot and then eventually I get depressed again and start thinking about it way too much. I feel like I am going to be grieving for the rest of my life and I don’t know what to do about it. I have talked to my therapist a little about this but not enough. Anyway, please pray for me.
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You are in my prayers, Holly.

Let me also say that you are not grieving too much for your Grandma. It is normal for us to grieve the loss of our loved ones. In fact, if we do NOT grieve, trying to preoccupy ourselves with other things, this may lead to more serious consequences later on. Also, grieving often comes in waves, and sometimes it may increase the second year. However, in time it does lessen and there is no exact timetable for everyone. You will never forget your Grandma, but you will experience other, joyful things in your life that make you happy. Have faith that G-d is always there for you.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death
Amen.

St. Jude, pray for her!
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death
Amen.

St. Joseph please pray for her. Amen
 
Dear Holly,

It takes time. My parents died in 2006 and I still miss my mother. Christmas is always a hard time so I don’t try to do too much. I just go to Mass and pray.

My parish has a grief support group. Maybe you could find something like that. We will hold you in our prayers.
 
When people we love pass, it leaves a hole in our lives the time we used to spend with them occupied. It seems like the more love we shared, the bigger the hole and grieving just takes as long as it takes. The first set of holidays is always a very hard time. I want to honor and respect your pain here, before I say something about what you wrote:
Holly3278 said:
The reason why I am so depressed is because I am missing my Grandma and I am incredibly depressed over the fact that she isn’t going to be celebrating Christmas with this year since she died this past Summer.
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You know, Holly, your Grandma didn’t die, her body died. She is fine. And she will be there at Christmas with you. Now, being reminded of her then just makes you more aware of her physical absence, so that can make it very painful. But in fact, she’s right here, right with you and her family because love doesn’t ever die. I don’t mean in some symbolic way, I mean there is no time or space or barrier that keeps them from us. We are separated from them, but they tend to show up at all our weddings and holidays and special moments.

Talk to her about this. Honor her continuing place in your life. You will still have grief, but you’ll also be moving toward establishing a new kind of relationship with her.

Peace of Christ be with you, Holly, and may the Holy Spirit bring the Light of Divine Love to your darkness.
 
I once had the grieving process described as being a zigzag, like a lightning bolt. Sometimes it’s at a low point, and then it can reach upwards again. Please don’t lose hope; what you’re feeling is normal.

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death

Amen.
 
Holly: Try to be conscious of the fact the she is in bliss before Our Lord. Would you deny her that? 🙂 Think of HER and not of how much YOU want her around. I know it’s tough. God bless you.
 
ChrisRedfield47 said:
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death
Amen.

St. Jude, pray for her!
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Praying hard for you, it’s not easy at all to get out of this, but you have to be strong, believe and lift yourself.

God bless you and help you.
Love,
M.
 
May the Infant Jesus and his holy Mother shower graces upon you this Christmas day. May you try to focus on our Lord’s loving presence more than on your dearly beloved grandmother’s absence. Your grandmother wants you to be happy this Christmas and doesn’t want you to be so sad. May our Lord help you to focus on Him this Christmas season … please focus on Him to make your grandmother happy, Holly. Amen.
 
First of all, I want to thank everyone who has posted on this thread for their prayers and sympathy. I am feeling better now but I don’t know how long that will last.
meltzerboy said:
You are in my prayers, Holly.

Let me also say that you are not grieving too much for your Grandma. It is normal for us to grieve the loss of our loved ones. In fact, if we do NOT grieve, trying to preoccupy ourselves with other things, this may lead to more serious consequences later on. Also, grieving often comes in waves, and sometimes it may increase the second year. However, in time it does lessen and there is no exact timetable for everyone. You will never forget your Grandma, but you will experience other, joyful things in your life that make you happy. Have faith that G-d is always there for you.
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Meltzerboy, thank you very much for your prayers. That said, when you say that grieving often comes in waves, does this mean that at times I will be fine and at other times I will be grieving a lot? 🤷:confused:
 
Hey everyone. I am also in a lot of physical pain right now. I am not having much of the emotional pain at this point in time but I am having another fibro flare and it is causing me a lot of physical pain. If you would please pray that it would alleviate as soon as possible, I’d appreciate it. Please also pray that I won’t be having a lot of physical fibromyalgia pain at my Grandpa’s house tomorrow during the celebration. I really don’t want to ruin the celebration for everyone just because my fibromyalgia decides to act up. I do take pain pills four times a day on a regular basis as directed by my pain management doctor but sometimes I still have a lot of pain. So the pain medicine I take four times a day should help prevent a painful celebration but I never know when I am going to have breakthrough pain that the pain medicine won’t kill.
 
Father of all mercies and God of all consolation,
You pursue us with untiring love
and dispel the shadow of death
with the bright dawn of life.
Give courage to Holly in her loss and sorrow.
Be her refuge and strength, O Lord,
reassure her of Your continuing love
and lift her from the depths of grief
into the peace and light of Your presence.
Your Son, our Lord Jesus Christ,
by dying has destroyed our death,
and by rising, restored our life.
Your Holy Spirit, our comforter,
speaks for us in groans too deep for words.
Come alongside Holly,
remind her of Your eternal presence
and give Holly Your comfort and strength.
Amen.

Praying for your pain to be alleviated and a wonderful day tomorrow

Watch, O Lord, with those who wake, or watch, or weep tonight,
and give Your angels and saints charge over those who sleep.

Tend Your sick ones, O Lord Christ.
Rest Your weary ones.
Bless Your dying ones.
Soothe Your suffering ones.
Pity Your afflicted ones.
Shield Your joyous ones, and all for Your love’s sake.
Amen.
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Julia_Mae said:
When people we love pass, it leaves a hole in our lives the time we used to spend with them occupied. It seems like the more love we shared, the bigger the hole and grieving just takes as long as it takes. The first set of holidays is always a very hard time. I want to honor and respect your pain here, before I say something about what you wrote:

You know, Holly, your Grandma didn’t die, her body died. She is fine. And she will be there at Christmas with you. Now, being reminded of her then just makes you more aware of her physical absence, so that can make it very painful. But in fact, she’s right here, right with you and her family because love doesn’t ever die. I don’t mean in some symbolic way, I mean there is no time or space or barrier that keeps them from us. We are separated from them, but they tend to show up at all our weddings and holidays and special moments.

Talk to her about this. Honor her continuing place in your life. You will still have grief, but you’ll also be moving toward establishing a new kind of relationship with her.

Peace of Christ be with you, Holly, and may the Holy Spirit bring the Light of Divine Love to your darkness.
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Julia, I didn’t notice this post when I replied earlier or I would have replied to it. I’m sorry. That said, I want to thank you for this moving and very nice post of yours. And you are right, she probably is right here with me right now and she is probably right with all of my family members right now if that is possible. I know she will be with us during our Christmas celebrations in spirit and that does make me feel better. That said, is this stuff okay to believe as a Catholic? It doesn’t go against any Catholic doctrine does it?
Bix said:
Father of all mercies and God of all consolation,
You pursue us with untiring love
and dispel the shadow of death
with the bright dawn of life.
Give courage to Holly in her loss and sorrow.
Be her refuge and strength, O Lord,
reassure her of Your continuing love
and lift her from the depths of grief
into the peace and light of Your presence.
Your Son, our Lord Jesus Christ,
by dying has destroyed our death,
and by rising, restored our life.
Your Holy Spirit, our comforter,
speaks for us in groans too deep for words.
Come alongside Holly,
remind her of Your eternal presence
and give Holly Your comfort and strength.
Amen.

Praying for your pain to be alleviated and a wonderful day tomorrow

Watch, O Lord, with those who wake, or watch, or weep tonight,
and give Your angels and saints charge over those who sleep.

Tend Your sick ones, O Lord Christ.
Rest Your weary ones.
Bless Your dying ones.
Soothe Your suffering ones.
Pity Your afflicted ones.
Shield Your joyous ones, and all for Your love’s sake.
Amen.
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Thank you so much for your prayer Bix. I am still in quite a lot of pain. Right now my ears are hurting really bad, especially my left ear. Sometimes I get water in them when I take a shower and that makes them ache really bad when I wake up in the morning. Of course, it could be an ear infection developing too. I sure hope not. I do get ear infections sometimes but thankfully not very often.
 
Holly3278 said:
First of all, I want to thank everyone who has posted on this thread for their prayers and sympathy. I am feeling better now but I don’t know how long that will last.

Meltzerboy, thank you very much for your prayers. That said, when you say that grieving often comes in waves, does this mean that at times I will be fine and at other times I will be grieving a lot? 🤷:confused:
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Yes, Holly, there are highs and lows in the early phase of the grieving process. In time, however, that will disappear and you’ll focus on other experiences in life, both the happy and not-so-happy ones. As I said before, you’ll always remember your grandma; but they’ll be other people to think about and other things to do as well. I know this in part from my studies in psychology but, most of all, from my own life experience.
 
Mourn. Stop indulging in depressing thoughts. Mourn. And have a Mass said for grandma. Those who mourn will be comforted; and so we pray:

Lord, You promised eternal life; and thousands of years later science confirms matter and energy cannot be destroyed. We mourn our loved ones just as the King of Kings, Jesus Christ, mourned the death of his friend, Lazarus, even though shortly he was to be raised by Him from the dead. We beg of You that cleansing sadness of knowing that our separation will be only a short one. Have mercy on all the souls of the faithful departed, and bless all those left behind with Your comfort, Your peace that passes all understanding. Thanks. AMEN
 
Holly3278 said:
That said, is this stuff okay to believe as a Catholic? It doesn’t go against any Catholic doctrine does it?.
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Holly, we believe in the communion of Saints, in Eternal life and the efficacy of prayer between both sides, we believe in the “exchange of spiritual goods” as one Pope puts it. Besides, she’s not a theological construct, she’s your Grandma and she loves you.
 
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