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here are some things form the Cannon Law:

Can. 978 §1. In hearing confessions the priest is to remember that he is equally a judge and a physician and has been established by God as a minister of divine justice and mercy, so that he has regard for the divine honor and the salvation of souls.

Can. 983 §1. The sacramental seal is inviolable; therefore it is absolutely forbidden for a confessor to betray in any way a penitent in words or in any manner and for any reason.

§2. The interpreter, if there is one, and all others who in any way have knowledge of sins from confession are also obliged to observe secrecy.

§2. A person who has been placed in authority cannot use in any manner for external governance the knowledge about sins which he has received in confession at any time.

Hope this helps!!! 👍 vatican.va/phome_en.htm a great resource!!! 👍
 
Rildir said:
Hello everyone. If you have read my meet and greet post then you know I wish to become Catholic. Yet there is something I am very scared of…My first Confession. There are some things I have done in my life that I regret. I wish I could go back in time and change them. I sometimes get whoozy just thinking about them:(
When I go to confession, I do intend to tell the priest everything. I am just afraid what he will think of me. Has anyone gone through this? I am very scared and would appreciate any advice please! :hmmm:
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There’s probably nothing you can tell a priest that he:
a. hasn’t heard before
or
b. hasn’t been prepared to hear (if new to the priesthood)

The verse that comes to mind is: …there is truly nothing new under the sun…

Things are in such a state in our world and even in our Church that the priests are are probably more relieved by repentants coming to Confession than dismayed by what they say there. 🙂
 
Yes we have all been in your shoes at some point in life but it is important to remember that the priest is standing in God’s place and it is God you are talking to.

Remember four things:
1 - tell the priest you need his help as you make your confession
2 - be honest and open with him
3 - confession is there to bring to back to a personal relationship with God.
4 - pray for the priest before you go in.

I wish you all the best on your journey:)
 
I went to confession yesterday. I was worried what the priest would say about one of my serious mortal sins. I had 5 sins I wanted to confess so I wrote them down so I wouldn’t forget.
The priest said to me that any sins that I may have forgotten to mentioned were forgiven and not to worry about it because he had asked God to forgive me for all of my sins.
You must remember the priest said “Forgotten”. If I had omitted any sin on purpose then the confession would not have been acceptable to God.
It was truly tough for me to have the courage to confess my sins. But it helped me a lot to go early to church and sit and pray and cry to release my stress. I am a very emotional person. It helped to cry in advance so I wouldn’t be crying during my confession.

I plan to go to confession more often so I don’t get over stressed by having to confess too many sins. It is too hard on me.

All of the priests have been really nice to me during confession. They know that I am being sincere and truly sorry for my sins.

“WHEW” What a relief… I am glad I have already done my confession because now I am free to recieve the Holy Eucharist on Sunday Mass.
 
I returned to the church after about 30 years…I sometimes went to Mass, but not Confession from probably 1969 to 2006. I was terrified, but my mother was about to die, and I wanted to receive Communion – and do it legitmately – at her funeral. The priest was wonderful, as I cried my eyes out and tried to talk. I hope I can always go to him…if he leaves the parish I’ll have to follow him for Confession.

And the others who have said it before are surely right…there’s NOTHING he hasn’t heard before. There are lots of us sinners out here.

BTW, my mother died about 30 minutes after I got home from confession.
 
daeve, I am so happy for you that you finally confessed your sins. I know what that is like.
I am sorry for your lose of your mother but I am sure she was happy that you went to confession. She died in peace knowing that you had returned to the church. I am sure she knew in her heart that you were at church right before she died. We mothers know when our sons are having a hard time with life. Her spirit was with you to console you. I am sure you already know that.
 
LaLucia said:
daeve, I am so happy for you that you finally confessed your sins. I know what that is like.
I am sorry for your lose of your mother but I am sure she was happy that you went to confession. She died in peace knowing that you had returned to the church. I am sure she knew in her heart that you were at church right before she died. We mothers know when our sons are having a hard time with life. Her spirit was with you to console you. I am sure you already know that.
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Hi. Thanks. My mother returned to God a few days before she died. The beginning of that week she asked me to have a priest come see her. That was a great relief for me.

BTW, daeve isn’t Dave. It’s first initial, middle initial and the first three letters of my last name. I’m Debby.
 
Hi Debby, I realized I had made a mistake with your gender when I looked at your user name again. I have two sons and my sons have always been very close to me.

Presently, I am trying to get my old dad to see a priest but my mom is afraid if he sees a priest my dad will die. Usually that is true because most old folks wait until they get their final blessing before they decide to let go of this lifetime.

My dad’s birthday is April 3rd. He will be 96yrs old. We are all hoping he lives for his birthday. Luci
 
LaLucia said:
Hi Debby, I realized I had made a mistake with your gender when I looked at your user name again. I have two sons and my sons have always been very close to me.

Presently, I am trying to get my old dad to see a priest but my mom is afraid if he sees a priest my dad will die. Usually that is true because most old folks wait until they get their final blessing before they decide to let go of this lifetime.

My dad’s birthday is April 3rd. He will be 96yrs old. We are all hoping he lives for his birthday. Luci
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Wow. 96 is quite an accomplishment. My grandfather made to 95, then broke his hip. A couple days before she went into the coma, Dad mentioned that she told him she wanted to start going to Mass again, when she was better. She was pretty far gone by then, and could never have gone to Mass. I miss her so much every single day. For the last 20 years she was my best friend and favorite playmate. I’ll be praying for your grandfather and your whole family. Deb
 
Deb, please pray that my dad gets to see his 96th birthday. I know you will. My old dad had wanted to let go during Dec. before Christmas. I went into his bedroom and had a talk with him that he needed to live until the Holidays were over. Now my mom is saying she wants him to live for his birthday. That is how we have kept my dad alive all these years. We all give him reasons to live.
I had a talk with him and told him his birthday was coming soon. That made him happy.

It is also going to be hard to let go when my parents cross over to the other side. I am hoping I don’t cry too much. I will miss them both very much when they are gone. Luci
 
You should have a priest come, though. And don’t forget that, if he makes his confession, he can be brought Communion every week!

I would hate to be homebound without any of the Sacraments.
 
Rildir said:
Hello everyone. If you have read my meet and greet post then you know I wish to become Catholic. Yet there is something I am very scared of…My first Confession. There are some things I have done in my life that I regret. I wish I could go back in time and change them. I sometimes get whoozy just thinking about them:(
When I go to confession, I do intend to tell the priest everything. I am just afraid what he will think of me. Has anyone gone through this? I am very scared and would appreciate any advice please! :hmmm:
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I went to confession yesterday, and it was an especially tough one for me. Yet, the priest listened, talked to me gently like a true father - in the paternal sense - and gave me absolution. I went out of there feeling so free!

Confession is a great gift. One of the most humbling things you can do is to talk about your sins to another and pour out your soul and ask for forgiveness. When the priest forgives you, Jesus is forgiving you. Take advantage of that gift. Make an appointment with the priest if you feel it might take time. He has heard it all! Go, and do not be afraid. And please tell us how you feel afterwards! 🙂

God Bless!
sneakers
 
LaLucia said:
Deb, please pray that my dad gets to see his 96th birthday. I know you will. My old dad had wanted to let go during Dec. before Christmas. I went into his bedroom and had a talk with him that he needed to live until the Holidays were over. Now my mom is saying she wants him to live for his birthday. That is how we have kept my dad alive all these years. We all give him reasons to live.
I had a talk with him and told him his birthday was coming soon. That made him happy.

It is also going to be hard to let go when my parents cross over to the other side. I am hoping I don’t cry too much. I will miss them both very much when they are gone. Luci
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Luci, I haven’t been here for a few days. I certainly will pray for your dad.

It was really hard when Mom died, but she’d been so sick for so long, it was also a relief that the pain was finally gone. But I can’t imagine what I’ll do when Dad goes too. I’ve moved in with them in 2000, when I was injured, and never left because Mom got sick. Now it’s pretty much Dad and me, and I think either of us would be truly bereft without the other.

On the other hand, I’m so grateful to have had them both for so long. I can’t imagine how hard it would be to grow up without one of your parents. I know that it’s really hard when parents are divorced (like me) but to know you’ll never see them again…how awful for a kid.
 
Hi Deb, thank you for your prayers for my dad. He has made an amazing recovery after we got him a hospital bed for his bedroom. He truly loves his new bed because he can sit up and look out of the window at the birds. He loves birds.
He wasn’t saying much before and now he is talking and making jokes. It is truly amazing what prayers can do for a person. I know in my heart that he will now live to see his 96th birthday.
Luci
 
LaLucia said:
Hi Deb, thank you for your prayers for my dad. He has made an amazing recovery after we got him a hospital bed for his bedroom. He truly loves his new bed because he can sit up and look out of the window at the birds. He loves birds.
He wasn’t saying much before and now he is talking and making jokes. It is truly amazing what prayers can do for a person. I know in my heart that he will now live to see his 96th birthday.
Luci
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That’s wonderful. The human spirit can be very resiliant and surprising…a few prayers thrown in can only help. I hope he has a joyous birthday.
 
To all this excellent advice I would add two things that helped me with this natural reluctance. The first was that I offer to Our Lord my fear of confessing, as part of my apology to Him. The second was that I began weekly confessions. The benefits of this practice were many. On a practical level, it didn’t leave me enough time to acquire a long list of sins between confessions.
On a Spiritual level, it provided me with grace to understand that the important part of confession was telling my Friend and Lord that I was sorry for hurting Him. In light of what He had done for me, returning to his friendship by asking for and receiving his forgiveness was the least (most) I could do.
Over time this grace develops in you a humility that permits advancement in your relationship with Our Lord.
It is also good practice should we have to ask Him for mercy at our Judgement.
 
sneakers said:
I went to confession yesterday, and it was an especially tough one for me. Yet, the priest listened, talked to me gently like a true father - in the paternal sense - and gave me absolution. I went out of there feeling so free!

Confession is a great gift. One of the most humbling things you can do is to talk about your sins to another and pour out your soul and ask for forgiveness. When the priest forgives you, Jesus is forgiving you. Take advantage of that gift. Make an appointment with the priest if you feel it might take time. He has heard it all! Go, and do not be afraid. And please tell us how you feel afterwards! 🙂

God Bless!
sneakers
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This is something I wish we could convey to our Protestant and Evangelical brethern when they tell us confession to a priest isn’t necessary. It really does feel good afterwards. Sometimes we can ignore sins, but not when we have to say them outloud and be accountable to another person. And they have heard it all before. There’s nothing new under the sun, as they say.
 
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