I am so tired...

[knotanes]

My husband doesn’t believe, my friends are still adolescents in their minds, my extended family is either crazy or so self-centered they don’t know their own backsides from a hole in the ground… and I’m so tired. There’s no support. The situations are unrelenting.

Please someone tell me RCIA is worth it, that we can make it, that the future generations of this family won’t be the waste of oxygen the current one is… please. Because I’m so very, very tired of feeling so sad and frustrated. Sometimes I quietly wish for death to take me, because I hate what I see and I fear I’ll have to watch yet another generation succumb to this insanity.

 

[Paul_theApostle]

My husband doesn’t believe, my friends are still adolescents in their minds, my extended family is either crazy or so self-centered they don’t know their own backsides from a hole in the ground… and I’m so tired. There’s no support. The situations are unrelenting.

Please someone tell me RCIA is worth it, that we can make it, that the future generations of this family won’t be the waste of oxygen the current one is… please. Because I’m so very, very tired of feeling so sad and frustrated. Sometimes I quietly wish for death to take me, because I hate what I see and I fear I’ll have to watch yet another generation succumb to this insanity.

God wont overburden you or anyone

rest in Him

talk to him and tell him your worries ,concerns

let him be in charge

let him Be God

maybe U wouldnt make a good ‘God’ in your world being all so tired or worn out and things are out of your control

but God has even the whole Universe in his control

His yoke is light and easy

go to him to find rest

 

[knotanes]

God wont overburden you or anyone

rest in Him

talk to him and tell him your worries ,concerns

let him be in charge

let him Be God

maybe U wouldnt make a good ‘God’ in your world being all so tired or worn out and things are out of your control

but God has even the whole Universe in his control

His yoke is light and easy

go to him to find rest

Thanks, I’m trying to. I just wish I had a normal family and normal friends to fall back on for support. Maybe someday God will help me find that or at least peace with the fact I haven’t found it.

It’s hard to maintain perspective sometimes.

 

[Paul_theApostle]

Thanks, I’m trying to. I just wish I had a normal family and normal friends to fall back on for support. Maybe someday God will help me find that or at least peace with the fact I haven’t found it.

It’s hard to maintain perspective sometimes.

Spiritually ,God will never leave us orphans…

He will nourish,guide us ,be a Father to us and adopt us as his sons…

After 35 years ,myself too i havnt got any Catholic friends i see or spend time with ,apart from seeing people i know a bit at Church.

My brothers and their familes dont go to Church or i never talk about God with them and my mother could do with alot more spiritual orientation also.

but God has given them to me as my family and to love them none the less ,and i pray for them and take them as they are and where they are spiritually

and as for our own souls,i know God is the Great provider and Shepherd of our souls

keep praying friend,the Lord is there for all of us

 

[the_phoenix]

Thanks, I’m trying to. I just wish I had a normal family and normal friends to fall back on for support. Maybe someday God will help me find that or at least peace with the fact I haven’t found it.

It’s hard to maintain perspective sometimes.

If you lived in Ohio, I’d invite you out for coffee.

Single female here, and my main support system consists of a couple of long-distance friends who live out of state that I keep in touch with by phone. Besides of course praying the Rosary daily and visiting Jesus in an Adoration Chapel.

A lot of us seem to be going through something similar these days.

Hang in there, it’s worth it.

 

[familyof4]

Thanks, I’m trying to. I just wish I had a normal family and normal friends to fall back on for support. Maybe someday God will help me find that or at least peace with the fact I haven’t found it.

It’s hard to maintain perspective sometimes.

Take it from someone who faced similar obstacles- it will get better. We have crafted closer relationships with those who are “normal”, and distanced ourselves from the drama. As you get more involved in parish life, I’m sure you’ll find others who will be friends and mentors who will help you on your journey of conversion and faith. It was lonely for a long time, but it’s better now. I pray that you’ll find it similar as you continue!

 

[Edward_H]

Your interior life - God in your soul- is what will sustain you and is what will help mothers. Let your serenity and joy be what attracts others to a deeper relationship with God.

 

[Vigilant]

In the eyes of a lukewarm Catholic, RCIA may not be worth it. To someone who truly understands what catholicism is all about, it is a very small price to pay.

The adversary is doing his best to keep you from going forward with this. There is a reason for that. The realm of Catholicism is immense, and full of eternal treasures. Unfortunately, in order for most people to understand this, they must have already spent a good bit of time as a Catholic.

Don’t give up. Persevere.

 

[Dorothy]

The Lord will not abandon you. If you keep seeking Him you will find Him, and the relationship gets better and better.

In RCIA communities are formed, and you can meet many like-minded searching people there.

 

[CatholicFireman]

His yoke is easy…

Think of those in the beginning who would rather die than deny God and their faith. It went on for hundreds of years. These days we have to face a different kind of lion. Don’t give up.

Tonight I pray with the world for you: comepraytherosary.org/

 

[MS_SURVEYOR]

My husband doesn’t believe, my friends are still adolescents in their minds, my extended family is either crazy or so self-centered they don’t know their own backsides from a hole in the ground… and I’m so tired. There’s no support. The situations are unrelenting.

Please someone tell me RCIA is worth it, that we can make it, that the future generations of this family won’t be the waste of oxygen the current one is… please. Because I’m so very, very tired of feeling so sad and frustrated. Sometimes I quietly wish for death to take me, because I hate what I see and I fear I’ll have to watch yet another generation succumb to this insanity.

I’ve been watching your post for a while now knotanes. I’m no holy man, but seek to live a holy life. I’ve not had the problems you’ve been experiencing, but have had may problems. RCIA is worth the trouble. Satan is working around the clock. Nothing more be said, except Jesus is working over the clock. His Mother. Our Mother Mary is working for our Salvation. Get a Brown Scapular, and have it enrolled for every member of your family. Satan was all over and into my life until I got the Brown Scapular.

The Rosary,
Brown Scapular and
The Sabbatine Privilege

Our Mother Mary Will Protect Us! Satan and all evil is gone!

 

[Contra_Mundum_1]

I sometimes feel the same way. For about 10 years I was completely alone in living my faith, without Catholic friends or family. It was a difficult, lonely time. But things change. You will meet like-minded people who will help you live your faith and grow spiritually. The internet community is a fantastic thing as well and reminds me that there are many Catholics with similar problems out there and that I am not alone in this crazy world. However, don’t put too much hope in the next generation being better and not as crazy and lost. The world is what it is and some things will not change. There will always be crazy family and difficult teenagers and manipulating media, among other things. You have found your way to Christ who is true freedom and true love. Whenever you feel sad or even despair remember that **he has won **over this world. This little reminder always helps me put things in perspective when I start worrying about things that are out of my control.

 

[Moniabay]

Life can be very hard and tiring. I have some similar issues. BUT! I know God is totally worth it. You will be ok. Try to let go of the others a bit. YOU deserve the joy God will give you. Just being with God brings me so much joy. You can find it also!!

 

[Hopemercy]

I opened the thread as I have just retreated to bed as the M.E ( CFIDS ) is very bad and I am SO EXHAUSTED that bed is a blessing.

Over the decades of beng misdiagnosed and scorned by all, I have fought many battles and come through. to a life style and a peace with Jesus.

A sturdy knowledge that it is not how others act or treat us that matters, but how we act and how we treat others.

And to follow the teachings of Jesus when He bids us cast the dirt of a place off our feet when we are now made welcome. For He knew what was and is in man.

Can you spend less time with those who hassle you? ( I am a very practical old soul!) Maybe work with those who would value and appreciate you? So much need; food banks etc.

I cannot even do that, but I can and do knit and pray and sell my work to feed babies in India. And it helps to do that more than I can ever tell.

There is always a way through these things. I was years in situations where I had no one to turn to and no one cared for my soul. Jesus IS and was always there. YOU KNOW THAT!

Let your strength turn to those who will love and nurture; the internet with care can be a great resource . WIth care…

Blessings and peace from the gales of Ireland

 

[Edward_H]

I opened the thread as I have just retreated to bed as the M.E ( CFIDS ) is very bad and I am SO EXHAUSTED that bed is a blessing.

Over the decades of beng misdiagnosed and scorned by all, I have fought many battles and come through. to a life style and a peace with Jesus.

A sturdy knowledge that it is not how others act or treat us that matters, but how we act and how we treat others.

And to follow the teachings of Jesus when He bids us cast the dirt of a place off our feet when we are now made welcome. For He knew what was and is in man.

Can you spend less time with those who hassle you? ( I am a very practical old soul!) Maybe work with those who would value and appreciate you? So much need; food banks etc.

I cannot even do that, but I can and do knit and pray and sell my work to feed babies in India. And it helps to do that more than I can ever tell.

There is always a way through these things. I was years in situations where I had no one to turn to and no one cared for my soul. Jesus IS and was always there. YOU KNOW THAT!

Let your strength turn to those who will love and nurture; the internet with care can be a great resource . WIth care…

Blessings and peace from the gales of Ireland

Something to think about: “Hassles” come from the hand of God. They could be the raw material that allow you to sanctify your life and to help them. I have found when I face these things squarely…as a welcome cross…God often returns double the energy I spend on dealing with such people…in a cheerful, self-donating, generous, humble fashion. As opposed to avoiding such things. This approach to life takes effort, but it leads to even greater serenity, joy, energy, simplicity.

 

[Hopemercy]

Something to think about: “Hassles” come from the hand of God. They could be the raw material that allow you to sanctify your life and to help them. I have found when I face these things squarely…as a welcome cross…God often returns double the energy I spend on dealing with such people…in a cheerful, self-donating, generous, humble fashion. As opposed to avoiding such things. This approach to life takes effort, but it leads to even greater serenity, joy, energy, simplicity.

Not what Jesus says…I go by His word. And not the way for the OP either in this case. Needs discernment.

Staying with Him is not avoidance of others; it is safeguarding your soul from harm.

 

[Edward_H]

Not what Jesus says…I go by His word. And not the way for the OP either in this case. Needs discernment.

Staying with Him is not avoidance of others; it is safeguarding your soul from harm.

Of course it is what Jesus says:

Take up your cross daily
The road is narrow
My father is always working
Be perfect as my heavenly Father

And on and on and on

Jesus never preached the health and wealth and avoid hassles gospel

 

[Hopemercy]

Of course it is what Jesus says:

Take up your cross daily
The road is narrow
My father is always working
Be perfect as my heavenly Father

And on and on and on

Jesus never preached the health and wealth and avoid hassles gospel

Wilful misreading of my posts here… Ah well, if you enjoy judging others…

Each has a cross. Part of mine is posts like this. That disregard the needs of others.

Health and wealth are not part of my life. And perfection takes many forms.

Not letting yourself be ground into the ground is of God’.

I am not going to indulge you by using more verses in this pagan way.

Over and OUT to you, fiend

 

[marlap2]

My husband doesn’t believe, my friends are still adolescents in their minds, my extended family is either crazy or so self-centered they don’t know their own backsides from a hole in the ground… and I’m so tired. There’s no support. The situations are unrelenting.

Please someone tell me RCIA is worth it, that we can make it, that the future generations of this family won’t be the waste of oxygen the current one is… please. Because I’m so very, very tired of feeling so sad and frustrated. Sometimes I quietly wish for death to take me, because I hate what I see and I fear I’ll have to watch yet another generation succumb to this insanity.

I was you 14 years ago. I walked into the RCIA class wanting more in my life. Most of my friends were atheists, my husband an “ex-Catholic” who thought I was crazy. My parents actually did think I was certifiable, and said so to my sisters. All because I wanted more than the “money money money, he who dies with the most toys wins” mentality.

I was sad and frustrated too, but also excited, afraid, and wanting to fall in love with God - a God I didn’t really know that well.

Consider yourself hugged, sister. It’s really going to come down to you and your relationship with God. As He’ll reveal to you, HE is your hiding place, your refuge, your hope, your salvation, your joy.

As He reveals himself to you, your joy will be complete. Don’t worry about the generations to come, and the generations around you. Just keep your eyes on the prize, sister, and they will eventually come home.

How do I know? 14 years with atheist parents and NOW???
(they both pray, and mom will even pray the rosary with me.) Two nieces baptized, son baptized, sister baptized, husband goes to Rome, Paris and Medjugorje with me, and even goes to Mass once in a blue moon… (he’s on his way, if God has anything to do with it, which … duh ’ he does…

And now I teach RCIA. It’s a full circle with God sometimes. Don’t worry. You know that half the problem right now is a spiritual battle that you can’t see. You want to attend RCIA… and you’ve pissed off the evil one… GOOD FOR YOU!

I’m praying for you, as are many people here…

 

[Edward_H]

You can “over and out” all you want.

Your original post on this sub point, in its entirety was:

Not what Jesus says…I go by His word. And not the way for the OP either in this case. Needs discernment.

Staying with Him is not avoidance of others; it is safeguarding your soul from harm.

Any observer would conclude this is either a terse, cryptic response, or it’s written by someone whose first language is not English. No judging here…nice try…but that ploy is way too over-used. You’ll have to defend your point with logic or example instead.

I should have let this one go…that was my mistake…but my point and my subsequent quotes are about the OP’s point about avoiding hassles.

Too many people have bought into the point that we should avoid struggle, avoid hassles, avoid effort…and keep our little peace safe and sound.

This is not Biblical and it’s not Catholic.