I am sorry (I got to let this out)

[Bulldawg]

I have just got to let this out. After this break up with my ex I have to let this out.

I am sorry that I am nice.

I am sorry that I am not a jerk to you.

I am sorry that I would do anything for you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER hurt you.

I am sorry that I compliment you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER insult you.

I am sorry that I would jump in front of a bullet to protect you.

I am sorry that I would run into a burning building to save you.

I am sorry that I put your dreams before mine.

I am sorry that I love you for who you are and not your body.

I am sorry that I sold my PS2 just so I could get you flowers just because I wanted to.

I am sorry that I dont go to clubs and get drunk.

I am sorry that I open your car door for you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER hit you.

I am sorry that I dream about you every night.

I am sorry that I think about you all day.

I am sorry that I cant hardly wait to talk to you on the phone.

I am sorry that I always reply to your texts.

I am sorry that I brag about you to my friends and family.

I am sorry that I have to look at your pics several times a day if I cant see you in person.

I am sorry that I by you little presents just for the heck of it.

I am sorry that Ide miss the Super Bowl or Daytona 500 just to be with you.

I am sorry that I love taking you to Mass with me.

I am sorry that I love taking you out to eat.

I am sorry that I always pay for your food.

I am sorry that your my whole world and no other girl matters to me.

I am sorry that I would walk all the way across the country just to see you if I had to.

And finely I am sorry that I am a nice guy and cant change that.

 

[Emily2009]

Don’t be sorry.
You sound like a really nice guy.

If she doesn’t realize it, or, if she does and still believes it isn’t right,…prayer works best. If you fight for her back, you’ll both end up more hurt. If you give her time and space, and pray, pray, pray, pray that God tells/shows you where to go next, you’ll be better off.

I shall pray for you.
Take it easy and trust in God.

 

[whatevergirl]

Don’t live your life with regrets, Bulldawg. But, if that was just a venting session, I hope it helped! For every situation that turns out seemingly negatively, to us…there really is a silver lining. You learned a lot from dating her…about yourself. You grew stronger, and that is a positive.

I’ll keep you in my prayers, that you can forgive yourself for something that was never your fault to begin with.

 

[chevalier]

Bulldawg, a lot of relationships fail regardless of the fact that we’re nice guys. Sometimes the problem is not about that. Sometimes there’s a lack of communication or lack of common interests.

Don’t think it was about the girl necessarily disliking the fact that you were a nice guy - that’s probably not true. And don’t ever fall in the trap of thinking that you deserve her to stay with you just because you’re nice to her. Love is a gift of a free heart and it can never be bought. Now I’m not saying that’s what you did, but the temptation is always there and it’s difficult to fight. I’ve had some of it too. It’s also somewhat easy to create an image of being a white knight getting blasted for not being mean enough, but that’s also a way of escaping reality. In reality, it was probably lack of communication or lack of common goals. Pray for her and let go.

 

[Joseph_L_Varga]

That’s tough, Bulldawg… It must have been a huge disappointment… Remember, it has to do something with the fallen nature of this world and with the fact that we are all fallen beings. This should have NEVER happened in an ideal world… And it will never happen again after the final victory! There will be no broken hearts and no tears in Heaven. Until then, remember though that you are in good company. Jesus washed the feet of his Apostles, including Judas’ feet. And Judas walked out with his clean and refreshed feet to betray him… I’m sure Jesus knew exactly what was going to happen, and yet He loved Judas just the same as the other Apostles. Also, prayed for his executioners, right there on the cross… So, don’t be mad with her! Just pray for her, and forgive her from the bottom of your heart…

 

[forever_always]

I have just got to let this out. After this break up with my ex I have to let this out.

I am sorry that I am nice.

I am sorry that I am not a jerk to you.

I am sorry that I would do anything for you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER hurt you.

I am sorry that I compliment you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER insult you.

I am sorry that I would jump in front of a bullet to protect you.

I am sorry that I would run into a burning building to save you.

I am sorry that I put your dreams before mine.

I am sorry that I love you for who you are and not your body.

I am sorry that I sold my PS2 just so I could get you flowers just because I wanted to.

I am sorry that I dont go to clubs and get drunk.

I am sorry that I open your car door for you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER hit you.

I am sorry that I dream about you every night.

I am sorry that I think about you all day.

I am sorry that I cant hardly wait to talk to you on the phone.

I am sorry that I always reply to your texts.

I am sorry that I brag about you to my friends and family.

I am sorry that I have to look at your pics several times a day if I cant see you in person.

I am sorry that I by you little presents just for the heck of it.

I am sorry that Ide miss the Super Bowl or Daytona 500 just to be with you.

I am sorry that I love taking you to Mass with me.

I am sorry that I love taking you out to eat.

I am sorry that I always pay for your food.

I am sorry that your my whole world and no other girl matters to me.

I am sorry that I would walk all the way across the country just to see you if I had to.

And finely I am sorry that I am a nice guy and cant change that.

I’m praying for you. This has got to be a tough time for you, i know, i’ve been through it. =\ You sound like a nice guy… you will find the perfect girl that will love you for who you are =]

 

[Pax_Vobiscum_57]

Bulldawg, this sounds like your pain is still very fresh. Even though it seems that your world is crashing down around you, remember to trust in God that He has created the perfect mate for you, and maybe you just haven’t met her yet.

I’m so sorry that you’re hurting so bad. Remeber, I can do all things in Him who strengthens me.

 

[LilyM]

Bulldawg, a lot of relationships fail regardless of the fact that we’re nice guys. Sometimes the problem is not about that. Sometimes there’s a lack of communication or lack of common interests.

Don’t think it was about the girl necessarily disliking the fact that you were a nice guy - that’s probably not true. And don’t ever fall in the trap of thinking that you deserve her to stay with you just because you’re nice to her. Love is a gift of a free heart and it can never be bought. Now I’m not saying that’s what you did, but the temptation is always there and it’s difficult to fight. I’ve had some of it too. It’s also somewhat easy to create an image of being a white knight getting blasted for not being mean enough, but that’s also a way of escaping reality. In reality, it was probably lack of communication or lack of common goals. Pray for her and let go.

Exactly. My sister and her former fiance are both the nicest and best people you could wish to meet. They were just too different in terms of their interests and personality (not that one was worse than the other, just very different) for it to work out.

They split up, which was hard for them, both have since married (also to very nice and good people with whom each is much more compatible) and are happier than they would be together.

 

[noclevername]

Bulldog, I am thankful that I have a genuinely wonderful guy just like you. I almost lost him because I am not use to having a good guy and I almost broke up wiht him. But thankfully I wised up and realized he is wonderful and genuine.

My point is, this girl probably isn’t ready for someone like you. A lot of girls seem to think they need to be in a needy hard relationship. I thank my boyfriend every day for being the way he is and keeping all the drama out of my life.

Hang in there, you will find her I promise.

 

[mlz]

I have just got to let this out. After this break up with my ex I have to let this out.

I am sorry that I am nice.

I am sorry that I am not a jerk to you.

I am sorry that I would do anything for you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER hurt you.

I am sorry that I compliment you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER insult you.

I am sorry that I would jump in front of a bullet to protect you.

I am sorry that I would run into a burning building to save you.

I am sorry that I put your dreams before mine.

I am sorry that I love you for who you are and not your body.

I am sorry that I sold my PS2 just so I could get you flowers just because I wanted to.

I am sorry that I dont go to clubs and get drunk.

I am sorry that I open your car door for you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER hit you.

I am sorry that I dream about you every night.

I am sorry that I think about you all day.

I am sorry that I cant hardly wait to talk to you on the phone.

I am sorry that I always reply to your texts.

I am sorry that I brag about you to my friends and family.

I am sorry that I have to look at your pics several times a day if I cant see you in person.

I am sorry that I by you little presents just for the heck of it.

I am sorry that Ide miss the Super Bowl or Daytona 500 just to be with you.

I am sorry that I love taking you to Mass with me.

I am sorry that I love taking you out to eat.

I am sorry that I always pay for your food.

I am sorry that your my whole world and no other girl matters to me.

I am sorry that I would walk all the way across the country just to see you if I had to.

And finely I am sorry that I am a nice guy and cant change that.

I am sorry you are hurting. Jesus be present in this pain and heal. Restore goodness and your love. Help him see your love for him and that you will NEVER leave or reject him if he loves and follows you to the end. AMEN
mlz

 

[Methodi]

I have just got to let this out. After this break up with my ex I have to let this out.

I am sorry that I am nice.

I am sorry that I am not a jerk to you.

I am sorry that I would do anything for you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER hurt you.

I am sorry that I compliment you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER insult you.

I am sorry that I would jump in front of a bullet to protect you.

I am sorry that I would run into a burning building to save you.

I am sorry that I put your dreams before mine.

I am sorry that I love you for who you are and not your body.

I am sorry that I sold my PS2 just so I could get you flowers just because I wanted to.

I am sorry that I dont go to clubs and get drunk.

I am sorry that I open your car door for you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER hit you.

I am sorry that I dream about you every night.

I am sorry that I think about you all day.

I am sorry that I cant hardly wait to talk to you on the phone.

I am sorry that I always reply to your texts.

I am sorry that I brag about you to my friends and family.

I am sorry that I have to look at your pics several times a day if I cant see you in person.

I am sorry that I by you little presents just for the heck of it.

I am sorry that Ide miss the Super Bowl or Daytona 500 just to be with you.

I am sorry that I love taking you to Mass with me.

I am sorry that I love taking you out to eat.

I am sorry that I always pay for your food.

I am sorry that your my whole world and no other girl matters to me.

I am sorry that I would walk all the way across the country just to see you if I had to.

And finely I am sorry that I am a nice guy and cant change that.

This is a strange phenomena, I found that over the years, a lot of girls dont like nice guys,a lot of them seem to want to be treated badly for some reason, anyway, Good Luck! Hope U meet someone who appreciates You

 

[Eucharisted]

I have just got to let this out. After this break up with my ex I have to let this out.

I am sorry that I am nice.

I am sorry that I am not a jerk to you.

I am sorry that I would do anything for you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER hurt you.

I am sorry that I compliment you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER insult you.

I am sorry that I would jump in front of a bullet to protect you.

I am sorry that I would run into a burning building to save you.

I am sorry that I put your dreams before mine.

I am sorry that I love you for who you are and not your body.

I am sorry that I sold my PS2 just so I could get you flowers just because I wanted to.

I am sorry that I dont go to clubs and get drunk.

I am sorry that I open your car door for you.

I am sorry that I would NEVER hit you.

I am sorry that I dream about you every night.

I am sorry that I think about you all day.

I am sorry that I cant hardly wait to talk to you on the phone.

I am sorry that I always reply to your texts.

I am sorry that I brag about you to my friends and family.

I am sorry that I have to look at your pics several times a day if I cant see you in person.

I am sorry that I by you little presents just for the heck of it.

I am sorry that Ide miss the Super Bowl or Daytona 500 just to be with you.

I am sorry that I love taking you to Mass with me.

I am sorry that I love taking you out to eat.

I am sorry that I always pay for your food.

I am sorry that your my whole world and no other girl matters to me.

I am sorry that I would walk all the way across the country just to see you if I had to.

And finely I am sorry that I am a nice guy and cant change that.

Hey

I’ve been in your exact same position with a girl I once knew, and I realized something: She wasn’t for me. Someone else was - as impossible as that sounds. Trust in God, who is Love itself: He is leading you to your true paradise, to your true whole new world. God loves you.

 

[Just_wondering]

Hey

I’ve been in your exact same position with a girl I once knew, and I realized something: She wasn’t for me. Someone else was - as impossible as that sounds. Trust in God, who is Love itself: He is leading you to your true paradise, to your true whole new world. God loves you.

That’s exactly what I was going to say. I knew a guy - never dated him - who was just how you describe yourself, and who felt that way about me. I would have liked to be the one for him, because he was such a wonderful guy - but he was not for me, and I couldn’t explain exactly why. If we lived in times of arranged marriages, I’d choose him in a heartbeat - but these days we marry for love most of the time, and I didn’t love him. He deserves someone who can give him all those wonderful things he’s offering, too.

It honestly hurt me to hurt him so much by saying no. However, I just couldn’t say yes and be true to myself. You can be the greatest guy in the world, but you’re not necessarily the best guy for her, regardless. Sometimes our hearts get broken even if we do everything right. :console: :hug3:

 

[Joseph_L_Varga]

I was reading Bulldawg’s post a different way. What you mention implies that this relationship was going on for some longer time, maybe 6-12 months, and she accepted your little signs of affection for quite a while, before breaking up with you. If this is not the case, please disregard my comments.

Had I been correct reading you, you fell victim to a typical dating game and after dealing with the initial shock, should celebrate that it’s over. Typically it goes like this: boy shows affection to girl, and girl is not so crazy about boy, but the attention is flattering, and she goes with it for a while. She could’ve revealed her (lack of) feelings and stopped this early, but she didn’t. Then, as the asymmetry of the relationship and his display of affection becomes increasingly embarrassing, or perhaps when another boy (boy2) shows up on the horizon, she dumps boy1. When it’s the other way around, it goes like this: boy, avid hunter, is out to collect trophies. One guy in the army bragged that once he made a dare to pick up 7 girls and date them all simultaneously; and he won the dare. I believe he told the truth, because later on he attended college where I did and he was a famous womanizer indeed. And the strange thing was, some decent girls fell to him and never realized that he was only playing with them.

The common thread is, one person is not honest and forthcoming in a dating relationship but rather takes advantage of someone else’s feelings, out of convenience or for some other less than noble reason. I had the impression that you experienced something like this, Bulldawg. If this was the case, realize: you are in fact one lucky guy, that it’s over.

 

[masha]

I am sorry that I would do anything for you…

I am sorry that I put your dreams before mine. …

I am sorry that I dream about you every night.

I am sorry that I think about you all day.

I am sorry that I cant hardly wait to talk to you on the phone.

I am sorry that I always reply to your texts.

I am sorry that I brag about you to my friends and family.

I am sorry that I have to look at your pics several times a day if I cant see you in person…

I am sorry that your my whole world and no other girl matters to me.

I don’t mean to be harsh, because I know you just broke up and that is very hard, but do you see how some of these sound. This doesn’t sound loving, it sound obsessive and scary. If you really were acting this way in a relationship, it can be really flattering for a girl at first, but it can quickly go to annoying, or disturbing. She beings to wonder why you put all her dreams before your own, why you need to see her everyday, talk to her everyday, and focus your life around her. She begins to think it will always be this way and that she’ll be completely absorbed in your life and have no life of her own. That you’ll want her to feel the same about you and she can’t, even if you does love you, because it’s not the kind of love she wants.

I’m sure you are a really really nice guy, but you don’t seem mature enough to be in a relationship. Develope some passions of your own and learn to love in a way that doesn’t demean yourself and you’ll be an amazing guy.

God bless,
Masha

 

[Island_Oak]

There’s an appaling lack of curiosity here…doesn’t anyone want to know WHY the girlfriend broke it off? She must have given you a reason!

Perhaps, if nothing else, it will give you some idea of what to do or avoid in the next relationship. Be grateful you found out now…rather than later. There is nothing better than finally finding someone who matches your enthusiasm and devotion to the relationship.

 

[Galnextdoor]

Hi,

I get the feeling that she said you were a nice guy.

There are two things I want to share with you. Our culture portrays the bad boys and drama queens as the ultimate in attractiveness. Some girls are only attracted to bad boys that they can try to reform.

The other thing is that there is nothing wrong with being a nice guy. No decent girl will ever ditch a guy because he is a nice guy. Here is an anecdote from my dating years for what it’s worth. I once dated a guy who put me on a pedestal. The air up there was difficult to breath. He showered me with expensive gifts even though I asked him not to. I wanted to get to know him better, but he was determined that he was madly in love with me. He massaged my feet, brought me flowers and jewelry, but after I got to know him I felt like he had created an image of me that was not real. No matter what I did, he couldn’t see me the way I really was. He could only see this perfect person that he put on a pedestal, and believe me, I would be the last in line to be put up there. Is it possible that you came on too strong, before taking time to know who she was as an everyday person?

Regardless, I hope you don’t become jaded. Let go of the girl who you think she was. Just keep looking and you will find your diamond who will appreciate the gem you really are.

 

[jmcrae]

Just speaking for myself, I would never want to be the cause of someone giving up his dreams, or even his PS2 - because, who could possibly live up to the expectations implied in those kinds of sacrifices?

You give those things up for God - not for her. She’s not your God, and she doesn’t want to be your God.

Aside from which, if you give up your dreams, how are you going to take care of her, and of your children? Where will your happiness and self-worth come from? She doesn’t want that burden. And if you give up your PS2, how can she borrow it from you, or share it with you? Maybe your PS2 was one of her favourite things about you.

 

[noodles]

there’s nothing to be sorry about. other people or ur x might think your love is too much but in my opinion, there is a girl out there who wants that kind of affection. its just that you have shown your way to the wrong person. obviously. because if you have given your love or you have shown your love to the right person, i.e. someone who wants to be protected, to receive flowers out of a sold ps2 ect., then she would not break up with you or you wouldnt hear any complaints because that girl will accept you for what you are. don;t give up buldawg. wait for the perfect one. you dont have to change yourself…but hey, you have to remember that you have to love yourself first.

noodles

 

[Joseph_L_Varga]

there’s nothing to be sorry about. other people or ur x might think your love is too much but in my opinion, there is a girl out there who wants that kind of affection. its just that you have shown your way to the wrong person. obviously. because if you have given your love or you have shown your love to the right person, i.e. someone who wants to be protected, to receive flowers out of a sold ps2 ect., then she would not break up with you or you wouldnt hear any complaints because that girl will accept you for what you are. don;t give up buldawg. wait for the perfect one. you dont have to change yourself…but hey, you have to remember that you have to love yourself first.

noodles

Great post.