I Believe i'm an introvert is This Bad?

[i_need_helpp]

i Like to Thing’s Solo, i Don’t Really Like Going Place’s if i Do, i Wanna be alone. It’s Not That i hate People, i that i think im an introvert because i Don’t Mind being alone & Being at Home.

i Really Don’t Know

For Example:

i Think i’d Rather Be on an Island alone Than Being with People.

i Don’t Know if i’m an Introvert Really Even if i Am, is This a Sin?

Thanks, i appreciate it.

 

[i_need_helpp]

Do * Sorry i Like to Do Things Solo

 

[Whitacre_Girl]

Introversion is a natural human trait, and there is nothing wrong with it. Not everyone is introverted, not everyone is extroverted. There is no call for you to surround yourself constantly with people, but you do need to always love people. There are many ways God can use an introvert! My husband is an introvert and serving God!

To think one is sinning by being introverted is like saying someone is sinning for liking skittles. It’s just a natural preference that God uses to craft each of us into who we are. It’s only bad when it becomes an obsession. (like hating all people, or eating ONLY skittles!)

Lastly, you don’t need to capitalize the first letter of each word. Just the letter that starts the sentence and proper nouns. (like “I” for example). Just FYI Makes for easier reading!

 

[i_need_helpp]

So, introversion is not bad? i don’t know i do Not judge, i don’t hate people

i like People but, i’m Not really a big Social Person

i’ll Do good deeds and help people but i just like being alone

i don’t know , i haven’t been to confession yet

i really never feel happy with myself

So, this doesn’t make Me an evil person ? im not a big “Social” type i dont talk much im more of a thinker i guess

 

[stuart12]

I am the same as you. Everyone is different. I regularly get irritated over the petty and trivial matters so many people around me focus their energy on, and I would rather be apart from that. I don’t ‘hate’ people either, just get annoyed with small talk.

 

[jonpd]

There is nothing wrong with being introverted, it is a normal condition. I am also introverted. The problem is the majority of the world is extroverted and judges us. Sort of like being Catholic in a secular world

As you get older you will develop some strategies for coping, you can learn enough techniques for carrying on conversations. For example I try to be up on what my local sports teams are doing for those water cooler conversations.

I have found that many introverted people are capable of deep conversations such as about religion. Still waters run deep. Hopefully you can find people that you can have real conversations with. I am lucky to have a wonderful spouse who is even more introverted that I am, with whom I can have these conversations.

 

[Whitacre_Girl]

So, introversion is not bad? i don’t know i do Not judge, i don’t hate people

i like People but, i’m Not really a big Social Person

i’ll Do good deeds and help people but i just like being alone

i don’t know , i haven’t been to confession yet

i really never feel happy with myself

So, this doesn’t make Me an evil person ? im not a big “Social” type i dont talk much im more of a thinker i guess

This isn’t something you need to confess, though.

I am wondering, are you in college or school at all? If you ever get the chance, try to take a psychology class. It’ll help you learn a lot about what is normal, and what isn’t. Introversion is very, very, very much part of a normal human personality trait. It is set in stone with us at birth. There is nothing anyone can do about being introverted or extroverted. I am an extrovert. It drives my husband crazy because when I am stressed, I want to invite people over, or go out with people. When he is stressed (and usually these two are at the same time!) he wants to just get away from everyone and relax. I can’t make him destress around people because his brain isn’t wired that way. Now if only someone would tell him the same about me! Forcing me to be alone when I am stressed is really torture to me! This is why I cruise the forums! hehe

Oh, and I think I saw someone talk about being judged for being intoverted. If someone is judging you for that you should just be laughing it off! I mean, that is just ridiculous! It’s like judging someone for having blonde hair. Yeah, there may be a few less of you, but there isn’t one single thing you can do about it and it is just a personality trait that makes YOU interesting and unique!!

 

[Maeglin]

My gf is extroverted, and I am introverted so I have observed the same things you have Whitacre_girl.

Unfortunately, introverts are at a definite disadvantage in the secular world. Business and relationships seem much easier for those who are extroverted. It’s easier to make presentations, network, meet a potential spouse, date, make friends (and avoid loneliness), and generally make a good first impression if you are extroverted. It seems like it would be harder to climb the corporate ladder as an introvert (if that is your path). The world relies on human interaction, and that places an introvert at a disadvantage.

Introversion has some advantages, in that it is far easier to be at peace without requiring companionship of others and it’s easier to focus on tasks without getting the itch to chit chat with someone. Introverts seem to be much happier delving deeply into subjects via reading and study and that is probably why they often seem to be so analytic and “deep”.

Morally, I don’t think there is anything wrong with being an introvert or an extrovert. It just seems that worldly success is geared toward extroverts.

I don’t mean to sound so down on introversion. Introverts have to make an effort to step outside their comfort zone. If they do so, and realize that some social interaction is a healthy thing, it’s easier to succeed. It’s still challenging though.

 

[CDNowak]

i Like to Thing’s Solo, i Don’t Really Like Going Place’s if i Do, i Wanna be alone. It’s Not That i hate People, i that i think im an introvert because i Don’t Mind being alone & Being at Home.

i Really Don’t Know

For Example:

i Think i’d Rather Be on an Island alone Than Being with People.

i Don’t Know if i’m an Introvert Really Even if i Am, is This a Sin?

Thanks, i appreciate it.

I would suggest doing a little reading on personality and “typing”. Introverts make up about 50% of the population, so certainly a normal variation of human behavior.

As an “anti-social” introvert myself, I have had a good bit of fun in self discovery aided by personality theories (here’s a small selection of quizzes based on various theories). I found MBTI to be among the most accurate, and the extrapolations both from the purer theory behind it (cognitive processes) and the front end “type-watching” have been useful in examining family dysfunction.

Vaguer systems, such as the classical temperaments or ennegram may be fun, but are generally offer little insight into how you think (or feel:thumbsup.

 

[jesuspsr]

Naa theres nothing wrong with being an introvert, all my life people including my family have told me how wierd, differnt, strange, loner I am. Chucks I like being what I am this is how God made me. Some of your great thinkers were introverts.
I need to remember what people think of me is not my business. I love God, myself and all people. I believe thats what God wants us to do if i’m correct.

Peace and God bless you.

JG

 

[white_sheep]

I’m an introvert and I think you have it backwards. It has always seemed to me that extroversion is a mental disorder. I mean really, what makes someone stand there and jack their jaw all day about absolutely nothing and then get upset when I don’t want to listen to it.

There have already been several inaccurate statements about introverts in this thread. Introverts are around 30% of the population, not 50%. Introverts have no difficulty with work or promoting in the workforce and usually do better than extroverts as they don’t run off at the mouth all day making themselves look like idiots.

Introversion cannot be an obsession. Being introverted is never a sin. It does not mean you hate people. Not yet mentioned but still true: it doesn’t mean you are shy.

While a relatively small portion of the population, a marked majority of those with high IQ are introverts. We are also more represented among professions seen as being intellectual such as professors, scientists, etc.

Introverts and extroverts DO have difficulty communicating with one another and misconceptions and misinterpretations abound. It is not because introverts are somehow defective, it is because there is a difference in communication style. However, the onus is on you to learn how to deal with their rampant emotionalism if you want them to stop running around with their feelings hurt all the time, because they are unlikely to ever make the effort. The difference in psychological types and the nuances associated with dealing with each one is too detailed a topic for an extrovert.

Lastly, there is nothing wrong with you and you can’t change the fact that you are an introvert. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I love being an introvert.

 

[Whitacre_Girl]

I’m an introvert and I think you have it backwards. It has always seemed to me that extroversion is a mental disorder. I mean really, what makes someone stand there and jack their jaw all day about absolutely nothing and then get upset when I don’t want to listen to it.

There have already been several inaccurate statements about introverts in this thread. Introverts are around 30% of the population, not 50%. Introverts have no difficulty with work or promoting in the workforce and usually do better than extroverts as they don’t run off at the mouth all day making themselves look like idiots.

Introversion cannot be an obsession. Being introverted is never a sin. It does not mean you hate people. Not yet mentioned but still true: it doesn’t mean you are shy.

While a relatively small portion of the population, a marked majority of those with high IQ are introverts. We are also more represented among professions seen as being intellectual such as professors, scientists, etc.

Introverts and extroverts DO have difficulty communicating with one another and misconceptions and misinterpretations abound. It is not because introverts are somehow defective, it is because there is a difference in communication style. However, the onus is on you to learn how to deal with their rampant emotionalism if you want them to stop running around with their feelings hurt all the time, because they are unlikely to ever make the effort. The difference in psychological types and the nuances associated with dealing with each one is too detailed a topic for an extrovert.

Lastly, there is nothing wrong with you and you can’t change the fact that you are an introvert. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I love being an introvert.

Trying not to be offended by the things said about extroverts on this thread. Just like you guys don’t like being called anti-social losers, we don’t like to be called shallow, anti-intellectual, or unable to focus on school or work because of “slack jawing.” Being an extrovert means that you recharge by being around people, and think about things better through social interaction, or by vocalizing thoughts. I do my best thinking when bouncing ideas off people or even “talk” to myself to think things through. By the way, my dear hubby states often that while he is the introvert, I am the academic/deep thinker in this relationship.

A little mutual respect here, please!

 

[white_sheep]

Trying not to be offended by the things said about extroverts on this thread. Just like you guys don’t like being called anti-social losers, we don’t like to be called shallow, anti-intellectual, or unable to focus on school or work because of “slack jawing.” Being an extrovert means that you recharge by being around people, and think about things better through social interaction, or by vocalizing thoughts. I do my best thinking when bouncing ideas off people or even “talk” to myself to think things through. By the way, my dear hubby states often that while he is the introvert, I am the academic/deep thinker in this relationship.

A little mutual respect here, please!

I’ll do my best. I’m sorry you feel that way. This exemplifies the type of emotional response I was talking about, none of what you say I wrote is actually in my post. I say a few harsh things(mostly in jest) about extroverts and get an emotional, feelings hurt response, yet with all the harsh things said about introverts none of us jumped in with such a response. There is a fundamental difference for you.

 

[Whitacre_Girl]

I’ll do my best. I’m sorry you feel that way. This exemplifies the type of emotional response I was talking about, none of what you say I wrote is actually in my post. I say a few harsh things(mostly in jest) about extroverts and get an emotional, feelings hurt response, yet with all the harsh things said about introverts none of us jumped in with such a response. There is a fundamental difference for you.

So because I am offended that you said things such as (and I quote)

The difference in psychological types and the nuances associated with dealing with each one is too detailed a topic for an extrovert.

And

However, the onus is on you to learn how to deal with their rampant emotionalism if you want them to stop running around with their feelings hurt all the time, because they are unlikely to ever make the effort.

(suggesting that we are egotistical maniacs demanding people to change because we are unwilling to even try to understand)

not to mention:

Introverts have no difficulty with work or promoting in the workforce and usually do better than extroverts as **they don’t run off at the mouth all day making themselves look like idiots. **

You think I am just some hyper-emotional being? You insulted my very intellegence based on a personality trait that you confess no one has any control over!! I don’t think it’s hyper emotionalism, I think some people just don’t appreciate being walked on and will use words to vocalize their frustration, as is typical in normal, healthy, human relationships!

What makes you think you have any right to insult people like this, and then brush it off saying “They’re just hyper emotional anyway.” I’ll let your deep and penetrating mind puzzle over that for a while, since apparently my pathetic extroverted mind is too shallow for such intellectual thought.

 

[white_sheep]

Wow. Ok, Whitacre, first learn how to spot a joke or when someone is using a little sarcasm. That what these things do–>

Second, no I wasn’t molly coddling extroverts any, but that doesn’t mean you should get yourself all worked up over what is apparently a joke. Again, and this is the fourth or fifth specific you’ve distorted, please show where I did this:

You insulted my very intellegence based on a personality trait that you confess no one has any control over!!

I never insulted your intelligence. I didn’t even insult the intelligence of extroverts in general. I did poke fun at their behavior.

Anyway, sorry I bothered you, hope we helped the OP.

 

[mo2169]

In Matthew 18:20, The Bible states: "For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them."

This is where we see that it’s important to “Pray” together.

Personally, I also spend lots of time physically alone - Reading the Bible and other relevant Books. This does not at all mean I am alone.

May Jesus our Lord help you find comfort in your heart.
Marcus.

 

[Topaz1128]

So, introversion is not bad? i don’t know i do Not judge, i don’t hate people

i like People but, i’m Not really a big Social Person

i’ll Do good deeds and help people but i just like being alone

i don’t know , i haven’t been to confession yet

i really never feel happy with myself

So, this doesn’t make Me an evil person ? im not a big “Social” type i dont talk much im more of a thinker i guess

Listen, there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. I am an introvert and quite happy.

I was involved in a cultish Protestant group at one time. They considered it a sin to be introverted. I was always being yelled at and “corrected” for being quiet. Luckily I finally found the courage to leave that group.

God loves you and can use you to glorify Himself no matter what your personality or character happens to be.

 

[CradleCath]

i Like to Thing’s Solo, i Don’t Really Like Going Place’s if i Do, i Wanna be alone. It’s Not That i hate People, i that i think im an introvert because i Don’t Mind being alone & Being at Home.

i Really Don’t Know

For Example:

i Think i’d Rather Be on an Island alone Than Being with People.

i Don’t Know if i’m an Introvert Really Even if i Am, is This a Sin?

Thanks, i appreciate it.

It is definitely NOT a sin, it is a personality trait that God gave many people. Think about the monks of the middle ages & their desire for solitude in order to be closer to God.

I think that my own love of solitude, though it’s always been part of me, was heightened by the many years I spent in my store. I was surrounded by people all day & often, when I finally went home for the evening, my phone rang continuously with calls from my employees.

I am now retired & happiest when I’m alone in my flower gardens. Luckily, my husband understands. He is a blessing.

 

[mo2169]

Listen, there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. I am an introvert and quite happy.

I was involved in a cultish Protestant group at one time. They considered it a sin to be introverted. I was always being yelled at and “corrected” for being quiet. Luckily I finally found the courage to leave that group.

God loves you and can use you to glorify Himself no matter what your personality or character happens to be.

I guess we need to define the level of introversion or the amount of time one likes being alone.
The Bible teachings are pretty clear that Jesus wants us to “Love one Another”, “Pray Together”, “Help the less fortunate”, “Bring His Word to Others”, amongst other things.

I personally like to listen more than speak. But I am conscious of that and try to participate more on the important things I feel my Father would like me to.
I always try to remember that I am here to serve my Father with as much obedience as I can possibly have. It’s not about what I like, but what He likes.

My humble 2 cents.
God Bless.
Marcus.

 

[CDNowak]

I guess we need to define the level of introversion or the amount of time one likes being alone.

Introversion & Extroversion are largely biological and significantly genetic traits. They are part of the particular human nature, and we are not called to deny who we are.

There have already been several inaccurate statements about introverts in this thread. Introverts are around 30% of the population, not 50%.

I haven’t seen any studies that put it anywhere other than an even split, albeit most of what I have seen is based on the Jungian systems and definitions (MBTI resources apparently give 50-60% Introverted). Looking for the numbers, I find the web references tend to go in a circle, with a possible terminus at a site that gives an unscientific study of bipolar and depressed readers (~80% I’s, btw)

FWIW Eysenck counted extroversion as a risk factor for severe mental illness, I disagree (see above), but there it is.

Introverts and extroverts DO have difficulty communicating with one another and misconceptions and misinterpretations abound. It is not because introverts are somehow defective, it is because there is a difference in communication style.

I think most people are acquainted with introverts and extroverts that while there are minor issues, they are readily resolved. Other aspects of personality (going from the Jungian/MBTI/Kiersey approach) such as Sensing vs Intuition or Thinking vs Feeling are far more disruptive to communications, and there is a greater statistical bias.

Lastly, there is nothing wrong with you and you can’t change the fact that you are an introvert. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I love being an introvert.

While you can’t change your preference, you can learn to cope better outside of it.