I can't but get close to the wrong women

[AndrewA]

Hey guys.

I’m a junior I’m college, and have been keeping my eye out for a wife. Never really been purposely seeking one out, but always keeping an open mind to it.

Except I can’t help but always fall for the wrong woman.

Recently I was seeing a woman who had a 4 year old, and realized that I really like older women.

After she objected to my morals about sex it ended.

Now, I met a woman in one of my classes who is in her late twenties-early thirties.
We began talking about religion and politics, and she adored my views, and ended up changing her own after 6 hours together.

In the end, she told me she was married and had 2 children.

And yet I still can’t stop thinking about her.

I need advice so I don’t get tempted to try and steal her.

 

[wasmit]

talk to the married woman’s husband, face-to-face. That should stop you from cutting someone else’s lunch.

 

[AndrewA]

I really doubt that will do anything. She has shown me photos of the man.

I have a tendancy to think that I am more worthy of a girl than other guys… I have an issue with vanity in that regard.

 

[ConallCernach]

Well, there are a few things. If you only see pictures of him, you’re not likely to actually think about the real guy, as much as you are going to make presuppositions. Meeting the guy would be better. And remember, this woman has found love in this man, and loves this man as well. God still has plans for you yet, don’t be sad, you probably have made a good friend.


Pax

Conall

 

[warpspeedpetey]

Hey guys.

I’m a junior I’m college, and have been keeping my eye out for a wife. Never really been purposely seeking one out, but always keeping an open mind to it.

Except I can’t help but always fall for the wrong woman.

Recently I was seeing a woman who had a 4 year old, and realized that I really like older women.

After she objected to my morals about sex it ended.

Now, I met a woman in one of my classes who is in her late twenties-early thirties.
We began talking about religion and politics, and she adored my views, and ended up changing her own after 6 hours together.

In the end, she told me she was married and had 2 children.

And yet I still can’t stop thinking about her.

I need advice so I don’t get tempted to try and steal her.

if i could only express my heartache over the women that i have been involved with who were older than i, younger than i, secretly married, etc, i could cry you a river.

it took me until i was 36 to realize that dating inappropriate women had started as a way to avoid intimacy, and ended many years later with being alone, because they had the same reasons to date me, that i had, for them.

to dissuade you from the mistakes i made let me tell you what i did today.

i mailed a valentine to my little girl, who i raised since she was only a week or two old. i spent the last 7 years with her adopted mother, who was older than me, but we got on so well that i didnt care. to avoid a long story we tried off and on all those years to make it work, but it didnt.

now, i havent seen that little girl in almost a year, i can still feel her little arms around my neck, begging to ride my shoulders around the backyard, i miss her terribly.

the consequences of the sort of women you are wanting to be involved with are very real. as good as it seems now, weigh it against inevitable heartache.

take a lesson from me, you dont want your only relationship with your children to be cards sent on birthdays and holidays.

 

[San_Pio]

I really doubt that will do anything. She has shown me photos of the man.

I have a tendancy to think that I am more worthy of a girl than other guys… I have an issue with vanity in that regard.

Just tell the husband that and that should do the trick.

Seriously, pray hard and get your mind off of her. Has she shown you pictures of her kids. That should make you want to seek companionship elsewhere. Instead of two people’s lives you would be effecting, there is four.

 

[DavidFilmer]

After she objected to my morals about sex it ended.

You don’t say exactly what these “morals” are, but the context suggests that you objected to sex outside of marriage, which wasn’t acceptable to her.

In the end, she told me she was married and had 2 children. And yet I still can’t stop thinking about her. I need advice so I don’t get tempted to try and steal her.

The moral position you took with Woman #1 seems perfectly sufficient.

Did you *really *mean to post this in an *Apologetics *forum?

 

[EasterJoy]

Hey guys.

I’m a junior I’m college, and have been keeping my eye out for a wife. Never really been purposely seeking one out, but always keeping an open mind to it.

Except I can’t help but always fall for the wrong woman.

Recently I was seeing a woman who had a 4 year old, and realized that I really like older women.

After she objected to my morals about sex it ended.

Now, I met a woman in one of my classes who is in her late twenties-early thirties.
We began talking about religion and politics, and she adored my views, and ended up changing her own after 6 hours together.

In the end, she told me she was married and had 2 children.

And yet I still can’t stop thinking about her.

I need advice so I don’t get tempted to try and steal her.

Have you tried asking the Lord to find you this wife you want? Have you prayed for her, asking the Lord to give her the strength to stay strong through the difficulties she will face before the day the Lord wills for her to meet you? Have you tried increasing your devotion to Our Lady and to the Blessed Sacrament as a particular help for your future wife and family?

Pray for the woman the Lord wants for you, and in asking for Him to see to her needs, you will inevitably ask for and be strengthened in the graces you need to be ready to meet her, too.

See if that helps, but be ready for your meeting with this woman to be a long ways off. You may find to your astonishment that all along the Lord has had in mind to make your into a priest, instead, but you won’t go wrong. I think, too, that you will not mistake this woman for someone else, when you do meet her.

PS Do not try to imagine what she will be like, whether she will have children or not, etc. Just be open to whomever the Lord sends, knowing that while she may have had even a more tortured a path than you, He will NOT send you a “fixer-upper” when it comes to the faith. If you ask, and if it is His will that you marry, He’ll send you a real wife.

 

[NPS]

Hey guys.

I’m a junior I’m college, and have been keeping my eye out for a wife. Never really been purposely seeking one out, but always keeping an open mind to it.

Except I can’t help but always fall for the wrong woman.

Recently I was seeing a woman who had a 4 year old, and realized that I really like older women.

After she objected to my morals about sex it ended.

Now, I met a woman in one of my classes who is in her late twenties-early thirties.
We began talking about religion and politics, and she adored my views, and ended up changing her own after 6 hours together.

In the end, she told me she was married and had 2 children.

And yet I still can’t stop thinking about her.

I need advice so I don’t get tempted to try and steal her.

I have a tendancy to think that I am more worthy of a girl than other guys… I have an issue with vanity in that regard.

You want it both ways, bro. You want to hold yourself out as morally superior for not lowering yourself into sexual situations but you want the attention and excitement from having females attracted to you.

You have no business flirting with that woman once you found out she was married. There are plenty of times throughout marriages when a man or woman can be tempted away from their partner. You likely have no real intention of a relationship with her—you’re just getting a kick out of her being attracted to you.

You seem to have “I could have her if I want” syndrome. You want the kick of feeling that you could have this woman or that woman but without the strings of the actual relationship.

In short–you are feeding your ego.

You are not willing to fool around sexually with someone because you want to keep yourself “pure”-----but you are all too willing to risk someone else’s marriage.

(No, YOU might not do something with that married woman, but it IS YOU feeding those thoughts in her head. You might drop it before it goes too far—but she will have those thoughts in her head for the next guy she meets at school.)

Picture yourself finally meeting that wonderful woman which you want to spend the rest of your life with. Picture having a couple beautiful children with her. Picture things going wonderfully for several years. Then picture some financial stresses occuring. You start to argue a bit, and you both decide she could go back to school to finish her degree so she could get a better job. Now she’s back at school, where the stresses of daily life can be put aside for a short while. She is having fun interacting with the other students. Then she meets some handsome younger guy who gets his rocks off by getting women to be attracted to him. Remember, that is your wife.

Get over yourself, dude. Start acting like the Christian you are. Trust that God will bless you with the right woman.

There’s certainly nothing wrong with dating an older woman and/or one with children. Nothing wrong, either, with dating a person who is of a different mindset regarding faith and morals. People can change. Just be confident and strong in your own beliefs.

After all, the list of men who have changed because of a good woman is very long indeed.

 

[prodigal-sun]

Hey guys.

I’m a junior I’m college, and have been keeping my eye out for a wife. Never really been purposely seeking one out, but always keeping an open mind to it.

Except I can’t help but always fall for the wrong woman.

Recently I was seeing a woman who had a 4 year old, and realized that I really like older women.

After she objected to my morals about sex it ended.

Now, I met a woman in one of my classes who is in her late twenties-early thirties.
We began talking about religion and politics, and she adored my views, and ended up changing her own after 6 hours together.

In the end, she told me she was married and had 2 children.

And yet I still can’t stop thinking about her.

I need advice so I don’t get tempted to try and steal her.

I don’t get it… you say in one sentence that a woman dumped you because of your high morals with regards to sex and then in the next sentence you talk about stealing another man’s wife.

If you could indeed steal her from her husband that’s one thing but no this you can’t steal her from her marriage. Both you & her would be living a life of sin as you wouldn’t truly be able to marry her. I’m not even going to go into what you would be doing to the children of this family all because you couldn’t think with the correct head.

Gimme brreak and grow up!

Peace!

 

[HAP0623]

Think about it… how would you feel about breaking up a family? That would be terrible not only for her and the husband, but it would be worse for the kids. I know I could never live with that kind of guilt. Your trying to find a wife… right? Well imagine you found this woman that you want to spend the rest of your life with, you have beautiful kids that you love with all your heart, then one day your wife, the woman you love and trust tells you shes leaving you for someone else. Wouldnt you be shattered? You may feel victory for snagging her, or knowing you can have her whenever you want, but at what cost? Plus, why would you want someone who is like this? Nobodys perfect of course, but why would you want someone who is willing to cheat on their husband? So even if she did leave him for you, theres no saying she wont leave you for someone else who comes around… once a cheat always a cheat… I have an uncle getting a 2nd divorce due to this…

Now that I rambled on, other people had it right. My suggestion is to pray. Pray for your future wife, only God knows who she is, and she will come around. Also in the meantime, pray to resist temptation. Temptation is so evil, believe me I know, I think we all have been tempted once in a while. Its difficult to resist, but pray for the temptation to go away.

 

[Holly3278]

Hi Andrew. It takes many tries at dating usually for a man to find his future wife. It is the same with women. I have been dating since my teenage years and have yet to find a husband. I feel that my vocation may be to singlehood but I don’t know for sure. Anyway, I will pray that you will find you a good and faithful wife.

 

[PetersKeys]

Hey guys.

I’m a junior I’m college, and have been keeping my eye out for a wife. Never really been purposely seeking one out, but always keeping an open mind to it.

Except I can’t help but always fall for the wrong woman.

Recently I was seeing a woman who had a 4 year old, and realized that I really like older women.

After she objected to my morals about sex it ended.

Now, I met a woman in one of my classes who is in her late twenties-early thirties.
We began talking about religion and politics, and she adored my views, and ended up changing her own after 6 hours together.

In the end, she told me she was married and had 2 children.

And yet I still can’t stop thinking about her.

I need advice so I don’t get tempted to try and steal her.

Does this woman seem like the type of woman who would cheat on her husband? There could be a chance that this woman is putting herself “out there” on purpose if she is the rebellious type. Did she give you any tip offs while you guys were talking? or was it just friendly talk?

In my opinion, based on what I’ve seen, its pretty easy to spot a cheating wife because they always give the men they cheat with certain tip offs and innuendos that makes it easy to figure out. Harlots tend to be scandalous like that. And if she is, stay away. They always move on to the “next one” once there done anyway. If you like ruining familys and being used as a playtoy tissue then by all means go ahead. But a person of strong faith would avoid it like the plaugue

 

[Shannon9791]

Hey guys.

I’m a junior I’m college, and have been keeping my eye out for a wife. Never really been purposely seeking one out, but always keeping an open mind to it.

Except I can’t help but always fall for the wrong woman.

Recently I was seeing a woman who had a 4 year old, and realized that I really like older women.

After she objected to my morals about sex it ended.

Now, I met a woman in one of my classes who is in her late twenties-early thirties.
We began talking about religion and politics, and she adored my views, and ended up changing her own after 6 hours together.

In the end, she told me she was married and had 2 children.

And yet I still can’t stop thinking about her.

I need advice so I don’t get tempted to try and steal her.

This might get me in trouble on here but you kinda sound like a tool. And I don’t know you, so I’m not calling you one, I’m just going off of what you’re telling us. The story on you and this lady ends when she says, “I’m married.” Period. You need advice so you don’t get tempted and try to steal her? Uhhh, no you don’t. You should know the difference between right and wrong, and if you have to ask then you should probably be able to figure it out. C’mon bro, use the brain God gave you.