I can't stop cleaving to my parents

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Hello, I am a 30 year old male that lives on his own. I cannot stop to cleave to my parents, I need to call them numerous times per day. It seems when I’m always alone, I feel weird. I am not married. Can anyone help,
 
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Hello, I am a 30 year old male that lives on his own. I cannot stop to cleave to my parents, I need to call them numerous times per day. It seems when I’m always alone, I feel weird. I am not married. Can anyone help,
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Have you seen a professional therapist?

Have you had any good friendships?

What do you do for work?

Have you had any romantic pursuits?
 
I think it’ll help you a lot if you go for counseling. Such anxiety and attachment issues can be helped there imo. Nothing to be ashamed of at all!
 
to answer all your questions, no I live a sort of loner life. I dont have romantic pursuits and I have few if any friends. I guess I’m just bored which is why I contact them so often.
 
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to answer all your questions, no I live a sort of loner life. I dont have romantic pursuits and I have few if any friends. I guess I’m just bored which is why I contact them so often.
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Great!

You have an easy solution.

Seek out good counsel from a professional.

You’re a guy, so it’s probably easy to find a church group of men–the Knights of Columbus!!

You can also try sites like meetup.com to find secular activities.

And hey, it takes a friend to be a friend. You may find that there are folks at work hungry for a friend or mentor.
 
I talk to my father every day but more for his benifi0than anything else. If he doesn’t hear from anyone every day he gets it in his head that no one cares about him.
 
my kids sometimes fb me or phone a few times a day, sometimes once a week.

i think it depends how much they have to say.

do you have any interests? or could you get involved with one of the ministries at your parish, to develop a bit of skill in interacting.

it can be so hard for introverted people to get involved.
 
Having a strong bond with your parents is a blessing.
 
sounds like you don’t like to be alone and need people around you and social interaction. May I suggest building friendships or getting involved in parish activities (young adult groups) try dating maybe. Another idea is getting a roommate maybe you don’t like living alone Basically live a more social life to fill that emptiness.
 
I agree, posters suggesting counselling for speaking to your parents everyday is odd…
 
According to Ven. Fulton J. Sheen, there is a condition in counseling. That is the counselor cannot help you unless he or she lives an upright life that is ordered to pursue a fuller Gift of Wisdom from the Holy Spirit.

Cardinal Desire-Joseph Mercier in his Origins of Contemporary Psychology makes the case that the science is not science at all but that it has its origins in atheism.
 
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Great post Hymin!

I agree with Ven. Sheen, one can not go to counselor who does not have the Gift of Wisdom from the Holy Spirit.

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Amen. Who can truly progress unless they are stepping toward God, avoid more occasions of sin, and growing in sanctification in a mode to share it with others? We need God!
 
Here’s a website that offers a search for local Catholic therapists in many countries: www.catholictherapists.com

If contacting a therapist is too big a step right now, think about making an appointment with a priest to talk about the situation and get some guidance. If talking to your parish priest is not an option for one reason or another, try contacting a Newman Center near you if one is available, as the priests in a University setting will be experienced and open to talking with a young person in a situation like this. God bless you!
 
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