I committed soul death last night...

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yea…

I gave into temptation and has pre-marital sex.

Even though I promised months ago, when I converted, not to do it again.

The writing was on the wall, I was slowly falling into bad habits again. Masterbation, erotic images… I felt out of control, and couldn’t stop it. But that’s no excuse.

Sometimes you have no idea how much I hate this world… I’m talking the temptations and exposure to things that end up harming me.

I’m not a strong person in some areas, and the guilt of falling is absolutely decapitating.

Of course, I’ll confess. I just hate myself right now, crying as I type this.

Damn you Satan. Damn me.
 
Please don’t hate yourself. We all try and fail, you are not alone.
 
Have mercy on us O Lord.
For we have sinned against you.

Lord show us Your mercy.
And grant us Thy Salvation.

Don’t beat yourself up. Go to confession. Go explain your situation to a priest. Confession is where dead souls are resurrected. Go do the penance, and resolve not to do it again.

The resolution will probably break. That’s common. We’re weak. But don’t give up! God still loves you, and He will give you a way out, sometime! Just keep fighting it! And keep hanging with other Catholics for support!
 
Remember you are a child of God & He loves you. We are all sinners; but God in his infinite mercy & love forgives our sins & welcomes us back with open arms every time. Go to Confession & receive the graces of God’s mercy, forgiveness & love.
 
I understand your pain. I “slipped” seven months into abstinence, and felt awful right after. (it was my first time **trying ** to be chaste after my return to Catholicism)

Just keep strong. What helps me keeping abstinence (8 months in now!) is avoiding situation of sin. Hate the sin, abhor it, despise and loathe any situation that will tempt you. You have to become disgusted of even remembering that such pages/images (pornography) exist, so whenever you feel tempted you’ll also be equally disgusted of his influence over your body.

Also, pray. Pray a lot. Have a rosary close to you at all times, and pray to Mary to help you on this. She is great at keeping the ugly one at bay 😉

And remember that God loves you, and understands your pain right now - He forgives you. Do not hate yourself over it, it won’t help you at all. Love yourself even more now, and work to protect you and your body from further harm!
 
Hey buddy look. I know you feel pretty low right now, but man, at least you know what you did wrong and have a way to fix it. Some of us don’t have that luxury. Some of us screwed up so bad that there is really no going back. Ever. So please don’t feel like some real loser–you want to know a real loser? That’s me. You want to know why? Nah, I didn’t think so. So take care of yourself and feel good. Breathe deep man. You’re a good guy and I am in awe that you would be so good to yourself that you’d seek out help right away. Like I should have. Like I really wished I had.

Peace.

-Trident
 
God created you and loves you!

He waits for us to return to Him when we fall. He is waiting with open arms. Jesus is the remedy that we need. He is there for us through the struggle. Do not give in to despair. Rosary will help much!

Accept His Mercy!
 
The Lord forgives you…and priests have gone up to the pulpit and have said the sin they hear most in the confessional…repeatedly…are sins of the flesh against purity.

We look at our culture…it is a death culture…of free sex…the visuals, the words…the culture of flesh permeates everywhere…attacks everyone…including priests themselves.

Have confidence in the Lord’s mercy…gain strength in frequent confession…choose a patron saint…wear the Brown Scapular in your commitment to being Mary’s son…learn to develop good habits…

Never forget the Lord loves you so much and He has come for us who need Him.

Keep you in prayer…with Blessed Mother and most chaste St. Joseph
 
It’s not how many times you fall, but how many times you get back up! ease up and try harder.
 
Our Lord Jesus told St. Faustina, “Do not lose heart in coming for pardon, for I am always ready to forgive you. As often as you beg for it, you glorify My mercy.”

We are all sinners. Do not lose hope. Glorify our Lord, and seek His mercy in the sacrament of reconciliation as soon as you can.
 
God is far more forgiving than you are of yourself. Hating and pitying yourself every time you slip up will take up a lot of your time. Do what you must (confession, etc.) then move on.
 
Offer this to Jesus, He wants to take these burdens off your shoulders.
Go to confession. God bless you.

Our Father, Who art in heaven
Hallowed be Thy Name;
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
Like a others here have said; God loves you, remember his mercy! You will fall from time to time, especially in the beginning. The good news if that if you remember God, confess, do all the things you are supposed to as a Catholic, the space between those falls will get further and further and eventually with the grace of God you will be able to control this.

You are not the first nor the last to have fallen to this temptation, I’m sure many of us writing you can tell you this. Don’t hate yourself, remember his mercy. He wants you to come home.
 
Want everyone lese said.
also, never never ever say the words “damn me”.

You are a child of God.
Don’t let yourself despair.
We’ll pray for you.
 
Don’t despair. Pray a lot, even though you think “well, I’m in mortal sin, so I might as well do what I want anyway.” Meditate on this:
As long as the natural life is in your body, it will do a lot towards repairing that body. Cut it, and up to
a point it will heal, as a dead body would not. A live body is not one that never gets hurt, but one that
can to some extent repair itself. In the same way a Christian is not a man who never goes wrong, but a
man who is enabled to repent and pick himself up and begin over again after each stumble—because
the Christ-life is inside him, repairing him all the time, enabling him to repeat (in some degree) the
kind of voluntary death which Christ Himself carried out.
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That is why the Christian is in a different position from other people who are trying to be good. They
hope, by being good, to please God if there is one; or—if they think there is not—at least they hope to
deserve approval from good men. But the Christian thinks any good he does comes from the Christ-
life inside him. He does not think God will love us because we are good, but that God will make us
good because He loves us; just as the roof of a greenhouse does not attract the sun because it is bright,
but becomes bright because the sun shines on it.
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Source: C.S. Lewis’s Mere Christianity, found here: google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.dacc.edu/assets/pdfs/PCM/merechristianitylewis.pdf&ved=0CHAQFjAPahUKEwjuttWM-a7HAhWLjg0KHRPOBiA&usg=AFQjCNG2Z5rC-IGYQ70XZPmnGkj-_UUhiQ&sig2=DjvEFbs-LKPjQUgZlwlwzQ
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Avoid the occasions of sin, which includes computers and girls.

Don’t despair. Pray a lot.

Don’t despair. Pray at lot.

Oh, and go to Confession as soon as possible. I highly recommend calling up ahead of time to meet one-on-one with a comfortable and orthodox Priest while seeking Confession. The internet is impersonable; when meeting with a person, he can help you contemplate practical actions that fit your current situation, as well as appeal to your person.

We are weak creatures, and we need others to help us. However, when we are at our weakest, we often drift away and hide. Just look at the original sin: what did Adam and Eve do after the deed? They hide themselves from God’s presence. Don’t do so. Enter the light instead: “I am the Light of the World.”

Christi pax,

Lucretius
 
Mr_Friscus said:
yea…

I gave into temptation and has pre-marital sex.

Even though I promised months ago, when I converted, not to do it again.

The writing was on the wall, I was slowly falling into bad habits again. Masterbation, erotic images… I felt out of control, and couldn’t stop it. But that’s no excuse.

Sometimes you have no idea how much I hate this world… I’m talking the temptations and exposure to things that end up harming me.

I’m not a strong person in some areas, and the guilt of falling is absolutely decapitating.

Of course, I’ll confess. I just hate myself right now, crying as I type this.

Damn you Satan. Damn me.
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Damn Satan, yes; damn you, NO. When you have calmed down some, look over what happened and figure out what actions (yours and hers) led you to mess up and make sure that next time you avoid that situation. It’s going to be ok. ❤️
 
Mr_Friscus said:
The writing was on the wall, I was slowly falling into bad habits again. Masterbation, erotic images… I felt out of control, and couldn’t stop it. But that’s no excuse.

Sometimes you have no idea how much I hate this world… I’m talking the temptations and exposure to things that end up harming me.

I’m not a strong person in some areas, and the guilt of falling is absolutely decapitating
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Indeed the writing was in the wall. The Church in her wisdom teaches about habits. They can be virtuous or vicious. Habits are formed through repetition and are hard to break. But we can break them. It may take time but we can succeed. Right now the path of these sins is well trod and easy for you to take. But you apparently had some success. It is important to recognize this success just as much as you recognize the failure. Just keep trying.

I tend towards perfectionism. When I fail I’m really hard on myself. I view this ultimately as a problem with pride. To conquer this I have to learn to celebrate my successes even when they are small and surrounded by failures. This is especially so because I easily fall prey to thinking in for a penny, in for a pound.
 
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