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flyingfish
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Are you confessing or showing off your ability to date attractive women? 
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dakotagirl
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Dang. You mean that rating the opposite sex is wrong? I heard that men make a frequent habit of it, so now I do it all the time. 
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KostyaJMJ
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That is what I was thinking at first but he did say a 7. Go over to hotornot.com and take a look at the men and women that get a rating of 7.Are you confessing or showing off your ability to date attractive women?
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FiberZilla
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I may catch some flack for this but here goes:
Physical attraction is very important when it comes to selecting a marriage partner. Nearly all of us guys did that to one degree or another as teenagers. The danger comes when we allow beauty to blind us to examining the qualities in the other person that will be helpful in sustaining a marriage that is designed to last a lifetime. These are love of God, integrity, faithfulness, character, loyalty and a shared value system. Common interests are also helpful.
I would suggest that if you find a person physically unattractive, you may be wasting your (or their) time dating them. Above all, you have a moral obligation to protect the feelings of others when it comes to declining a date for this reason.
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Middleman
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I see nothing wrong with only dating women you find attractive. Having an official scale is a little structured and odd, but I doubt if itâs a sin. Maybe from now on evaluate each woman individually, considering the sum total of her person. But, I for one wouldnât want to be with an overweight woman, no offense to anyone here who is overweight. Thereâs nothing wrong with seeking a healthy looking, attractive mate.
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sanctamaria17
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Itâs only overweight if her DOCTOR describes her as such. I know many plus-sized âoverweight lookingâ women who eat healthier and exercise more than skinny girls. Actually, a good portion of skinny girls I know eat as much junk as they can (because âthey canâ), drink too much, smoke too much, and hide it all with makeup.
Honestly, a bigger woman whoâs in shape, who glows with health and obviously takes care of herself is a lot prettier than a skinny girl who isnât and has the look of fast food, cigarettes, and alcohol radiating from her skin.
So letâs dispel the skinny = healthy, big = unhealthy. Not true.
), drink too much, smoke too much, and hide it all with makeup.Honestly, a bigger woman whoâs in shape, who glows with health and obviously takes care of herself is a lot prettier than a skinny girl who isnât and has the look of fast food, cigarettes, and alcohol radiating from her skin.
So letâs dispel the skinny = healthy, big = unhealthy. Not true.
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Rascalking
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You said exactly what I wanted to sayâŚonly in a much clearer way.I may catch some flack for this but here goes:
Physical attraction is very important when it comes to selecting a marriage partner. Nearly all of us guys did that to one degree or another as teenagers. The danger comes when we allow beauty to blind us to examining the qualities in the other person that will be helpful in sustaining a marriage that is designed to last a lifetime. These are love of God, integrity, faithfulness, character, loyalty and a shared value system. Common interests are also helpful.
I would suggest that if you find a person physically unattractive, you may be wasting your (or their) time dating them. Above all, you have a moral obligation to protect the feelings of others when it comes to declining a date for this reason.
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whatevergirl
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I donât disagreeâŚI think physical attraction (mutual between two people) is important, but itâs one of many characterstics one should seek. I think that it only goes so far, of course, if the person is shallow, rude, doesnât have God in his/her life, etc. Looks by themselves is of course, not enoughâŚis what I mean. But, I think the OP runs the risk of becoming shallow if a girls looks is paramount above everything to him in choosing a mate. But, good points.I may catch some flack for this but here goes:
Physical attraction is very important when it comes to selecting a marriage partner. Nearly all of us guys did that to one degree or another as teenagers. The danger comes when we allow beauty to blind us to examining the qualities in the other person that will be helpful in sustaining a marriage that is designed to last a lifetime. These are love of God, integrity, faithfulness, character, loyalty and a shared value system. Common interests are also helpful.
I would suggest that if you find a person physically unattractive, you may be wasting your (or their) time dating them. Above all, you have a moral obligation to protect the feelings of others when it comes to declining a date for this reason.
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RobnBobA1
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Keep in mind also however that men and women look at different things when that initial attraction occurs between a man and a woman. A man looks first and foremost at physical appearance and finds love later through the emotional aspect or personality. A woman is attracted first and foremost to the emotional or personality aspect and later learns love by being attracted to the physical want and attributes of a man. I would say that you may have taken it a little more to an extreme in downright denying getting to know a woman personality based on her looks, but there are faults in all of us.
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whatevergirl
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*AlsoâŚwomen like attractive men. My hubby lifted weights a lot when we were datingâŚI liked his muscles. 
Nothing wrong with chemistryâŚitâs very important, I think. But, the OPâs rating system seems to be more along the lines ofâŚhe doesnât give someone a chance unless she fits a certain âârating,ââ so againâŚI just caution that type of behavior. *
Nothing wrong with chemistryâŚitâs very important, I think. But, the OPâs rating system seems to be more along the lines ofâŚhe doesnât give someone a chance unless she fits a certain âârating,ââ so againâŚI just caution that type of behavior. *
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Rascalking
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Oh, I agree with you that women like attractive men, having said that-I think men value attraction more than women do. Perhaps women value power, money, etc.*AlsoâŚwomen like attractive men. My hubby lifted weights a lot when we were datingâŚI liked his muscles.
When you see a beer commercial, or a commerical geared towards men, there is bound to be a cute girl. When you see a commercial based towards women, you probably wonât see a shirtless man.
Of course there are exceptions.
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flyingfish
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Iâm a woman and I completely agree with this. I wouldnât think twice about a man I didnât find physically attractive no matter what other qualities he had. If heâs a great person heâs a great candidate for a friend, physical attraction is simply required for me to want to take it to the next level.I may catch some flack for this but here goes:
Physical attraction is very important when it comes to selecting a marriage partner. Nearly all of us guys did that to one degree or another as teenagers. The danger comes when we allow beauty to blind us to examining the qualities in the other person that will be helpful in sustaining a marriage that is designed to last a lifetime. These are love of God, integrity, faithfulness, character, loyalty and a shared value system. Common interests are also helpful.
I would suggest that if you find a person physically unattractive, you may be wasting your (or their) time dating them. Above all, you have a moral obligation to protect the feelings of others when it comes to declining a date for this reason.
Physical attraction on its own is not enough though, but itâs just foolish to deny its importance. Your spouse is someone youâll be having sex with and being physically close to, if theyâre not attractive you wonât want to do any of it and your marriage will suffer.
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whatevergirl
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*A good Catholic woman values a good Catholic manâŚwho has values, works hardâŚetcâŚbut having muscles doesnât hurt.
I think shallow women go after money and powerâŚit doesnât seem like ââvaluesââ a Catholic person should look for in anotherâŚbut, I get your point. lol Personally, when I was datingâŚI looked for strength in men. In their looks and demeanor. My dh is a very strong manâŚI think womenâs definition of attractiveness might different from that standpoint.The one thing I have noticed is a move towards more menâs magazines showing very fit men on the coversâŚI mean, when I am in the magazine section of say the grocery storeâŚthey are filling up the stands as much as womenâs magazines, showing fit women on the cover. My son who is 17 said there is pressure for guys to look good out thereâŚnot just for women. *
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whatevergirl
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*Yes, I agree. I donât think anyone would dispute that thoughâŚfinding oneâs spouse physically attractive, etc. *
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whatevergirl
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*I donât think anyone is disputing this thoughâŚthat physical chemistry between two people is important. *
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flyingfish
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This was probably more true in the past than now. I remember reading something about how modern educated/professional women are as likely to be interested in appearance as men, whereas their uneducated and poor counterparts value a manâs earning power.
It makes sense in a society where women are uneducated/donât have good jobs to care about finding a man whoâll be able to provide for her and the children. If a woman makes good money herself, itâs no longer an issue.
I donât think itâs too fair to call women in a society where women arenât educated/successful shallow for wanting a man with money, it makes perfect sense for them to want this because a manâs money would determine how well their children are raised.
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flyingfish
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Some men seem to be under the impression that their looks donât matter! (And then they wonder why their wives have headaches more often than not.)
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whatevergirl
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*Yes, I donât know why that notion is pervasive on here, anyways.
Regarding the shallow commentâŚI meant it more along the lines of the women Trump married, for example. Women who are not looking for companionship, or loveâŚjust want a guy to take care of themâŚthat is shallow, to me. My sister is attractive and successfulâŚdivorced. She said that Iâd be surprised how many men out there in their 50âs who are divorced, are now looking for a woman to take care of them! She said itâs a huge turnoffâŚshe doesnât want a man to take care of her, but she certainly doesnât want to support a man, financiallyâŚI donât blame her! She should have stayed married, but that is a thread for another time.
All that asideâŚI think that itâs important for a man to be fiscally responsible. When thinking of marrying someoneâŚif a man canât hold a job down, is irresponsibleâŚis lazyâŚhe could look like a model would not matter lolâŚthat would be a turn off. Looks can get a person only so far. *
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flyingfish
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I agree with this. Laziness is a huge turnoff.
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CountrySinger
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AMEN! I ran a marthon last October, and most of my skinny friends canât even powerwalk down the block.Itâs only overweight if her DOCTOR describes her as such. I know many plus-sized âoverweight lookingâ women who eat healthier and exercise more than skinny girls. Actually, a good portion of skinny girls I know eat as much junk as they can (because âthey canâ
Honestly, a bigger woman whoâs in shape, who glows with health and obviously takes care of herself is a lot prettier than a skinny girl who isnât and has the look of fast food, cigarettes, and alcohol radiating from her skin.
So letâs dispel the skinny = healthy, big = unhealthy. Not true.
Iâm one of those weird people that in order for me to lose weight, I have to eat practically nothing.
When I was in Nashville, my diet was diet pills, cigarettes, alcohol, and energy drinks. Yep, that is healthy, because I was a size 4 (but still too fat according to my manager).
No matter that my hair was falling out, I was sick all the time, and was lighted headed. I had no energy, and once when I was singing, I actually forgot what I was doing in the studio. 
<---- me. But Photoshop does miracles, and in pictures, I looked good. But as my mom said, I looked like death. And she would try to feed me, and I would scream and kick the table over. Yep, super healthy there. Even salads were forbidden. It couldnât be chugged, popped, or inhaled, so it was out.So it ticks me off when someone says that all overweight girls are unhealthy. Sure, there are some overweight people who sit around and eat all day, but I know a lot of skinny people who do the same thing.
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