I crashed and burned today

[cheeto1]

Anger is the daughter of offended pride that cannot bear contradiction, and of selfishness that seeks its own comfort and convenience.

Awesome quote Stephanie C.

Who better than ourselves to judge if our anger is out
of our own comfort and conveniece? No one else can know.

 

[kellyb32]

You pull the car over and silence is enforced before you go again. Not just polite conversation…silence, and I don’t care whose “fault” it is. It takes two to have a fight. Maybe it is just my kids, but sitting in stone silence in the car with a mother who isn’t going to be doing you any favors any time soon is not their idea of a good time.

When our kids fight over a toy, they can wave that “bye” for awhile. If they fight during an activity, there is a moratorium on that activity for awhile. If there is taunting, the taunter is banished to examine his thoughts for awhile. This is particularly enforced at mealtimes and in the car.

The proportions in Bill Cosby Himself are correct when talking about my house…I paraphrase him all the time “Parents aren’t intrested in justice! We just want quiet!”

When I watched that as a kid I laughed. When I recently watched it again as a parent of 4, I almost peed myself becuase I am just like he described his wife. Sometimes when I’m talking to myself like he describes his wife, I stop when I realize what I’m doing and I can’t help but laugh at myself.

I crash and burn on a daily basis, continually crying outloud to God for patience. When I do that my kids know they are skating on thin ice and start to calm down. They don’t want mom to yell directly at them for something.

When I blow and the kids (and husband) scatter to avoid me, I take that time to cool off and go to them to apologize for things I may have said or how I reacted. Then I make sure that if the kids got in trouble, they know that mom may have messed up too but that doesn’t mean they are off the hook

 

[Island_Oak]

By my count of your signature line you are responsible for the welfare of 47 living creatures–not including yourself. I’m amazed you don’t just pull the covers over your head and hide each morning.

Not a single one of us escapes parenthood with out inflicting a few bad days on our kids. Turn the “negative” into a teaching opportunity–by being humble enough to admit your mistake, offering an apology and then moving on.

 

[KatieD]

I have to echo what everyone else is telling you - many of us have gone through the same thing. When my kids were little, my husband traveled a lot for his job. My mom had passed away, so I was responsible for helping out my grandparents who lived nearby. Believe me, we had more than one day where I yelled in the house and car! Now my kids are all in college, and we’re all close - they can see how difficult it was at times when they were arguing in the car (now we get imitations of their old “he’s looking at me funny, his foot’s on my part of the car!”). Pray to God for patience - but don’t keep beating yourself up!