i don't get it

[Delphinus85]

I have read a lot of literature about how God blesses NFP couples, and ABC couples are condemned (basically). I require the pill for medical treatment, and have been on it since before I was married. How can God bless me in my marriage then? This issue really bothers me, and it’;s making it really hard to be catholic, when I hear that “all contraceptive users are gunna have cruddy marriages.” I didn’t exactly choose this, and it’s causing a lot of pain for both me and my husband.

 

[yessisan]

I have read a lot of literature about how God blesses NFP couples, and ABC couples are condemned (basically). I require the pill for medical treatment, and have been on it since before I was married. How can God bless me in my marriage then? This issue really bothers me, and it’;s making it really hard to be catholic, when I hear that “all contraceptive users are gunna have cruddy marriages.” I didn’t exactly choose this, and it’s causing a lot of pain for both me and my husband.

Is the pill a necessary treatment? Are there any alternatives? Otherwise, I believe (though I am not 100% sure) that the CC allows it for **medical **reasons only. But if you are using the pill to contracept, then that’s another thing.

 

[Catholig]

I have read a lot of literature about how God blesses NFP couples, and ABC couples are condemned (basically). I require the pill for medical treatment, and have been on it since before I was married. How can God bless me in my marriage then? This issue really bothers me, and it’;s making it really hard to be catholic, when I hear that “all contraceptive users are gunna have cruddy marriages.” I didn’t exactly choose this, and it’s causing a lot of pain for both me and my husband.

I think they are talking about the mindset of many contraceptive users, which is selfish in that it has no place for god’s plans and want only the pleasure experienced in sex opposed to that of those who see sex as a way to let god into their life and bless them with a child if he so chooses. I don’t think that one falls into the former category (contraceptive users) simply by using the birth control pills - but by using them as “birth control”. You’re using it for a medical reason - and that is allowed by Humanae Vitae. You are not doing it to prevent children.

Catholig

 

[yessisan]

I just found this. It touches on humanae vitae, so as Catholig said, you are not doing it to prevent children. The site above (the one I posted) can be seen as a good source or a bad source for what I’m trying to say, but as long as you’re not intending to contracept, then the CC allows this.

BTW, congratulations on your recent wedding! I believe you married 2 wks ago, right?

 

[Delphinus85]

yes it was. we are trying to observe a week of abstinance, but it’s getting rather painful for both of us. After 3 years of saying o for good reason, saying no to each other this week is causing some insecurities, and given the weight gain from the honeymoon, it’s even worse for me lol. I can’t lie, being catholic has been a lot of pain for me. I’m still waiting for a payoff, even though it know it’s not about that. I lost my friends, was alienated at school, half my famiky won’t talk to me, and in trying to follow rules as best we can, there is a bit of pain and a lot of confusion in my marriage. Its weird, we both want kids so bad (when the time is right) but people seem to insist that because we use the pill for my reason, we can’t possibly be okay.

 

[juliamca]

Hang in there !!! Marriage is hard anyway under any circumstances. Just try to take one day at a time. take each day it as it comes.Please remember marriage is between you and your husband and God. Your family should not know your private busniess. God see and know all your intentions.He sees your sacrifice and will honor it at the proper time.I have been married 35 1/2 years.We tried to have children for 10 years.god bless us with 3 gorgaous girls. He does honor all our sacrifices.
Marriage comes in waves.some time its great and everything is good, and then it can not be so great, not enought money or time or whatever the problem is. You will get though it all togather. you your husband and God.Just the 3 of you. that is all you need.Remember Mary is the mother of us all. She can guide you though all of this. God bless you!

 

[ElizaE]

I am wondering what medical problem you have to use the pill. Is it PCOS, irregular periods?

I just finished a pediatric endocrinology rotation and the pill is being used for almost anything including cramps, PCOS, and irregular periods. I had a girl who had hirsutism and irregular periods (not sexually active) and she was put her on the pill. They later found that her prolactin level was elevated which could possibly be due to a pituitary tumor (a prolactinoma which could cause all those symptoms). All this to say that some physicians will use the pill just to get their patients off their backs and “control” their symptoms not offer a cure. I will not give you medical advice on here but if you want you can PM me. You never know, perhaps NFP is just what you need to actually treat your problem and aid in your later fertility.

I want to be a ped endocrinologist. Can you tell that this was not the treatment that I thought most of these girls needed? Maybe Dr. Hilgers will let me do a fellowship specifically dealing with hormones (not OB/GYN- I didn’t feel it was my calling )

 

[puzzleannie]

I have read a lot of literature about how God blesses NFP couples, and ABC couples are condemned (basically). I require the pill for medical treatment, and have been on it since before I was married. How can God bless me in my marriage then? This issue really bothers me, and it’;s making it really hard to be catholic, when I hear that “all contraceptive users are gunna have cruddy marriages.” I didn’t exactly choose this, and it’s causing a lot of pain for both me and my husband.

we must read different sources because I have not heard it put that way.

if you search on the use of pills to treat medical conditions, it has been discussed here recently, including on AAA, and should put your mind to rest.

 

[quiet52]

I have read a lot of literature about how God blesses NFP couples, and ABC couples are condemned (basically). I require the pill for medical treatment, and have been on it since before I was married. How can God bless me in my marriage then? This issue really bothers me, and it’;s making it really hard to be catholic, when I hear that “all contraceptive users are gunna have cruddy marriages.” I didn’t exactly choose this, and it’s causing a lot of pain for both me and my husband.

If you absolutely need a BC pill for medical reasons, please make sure it does not include an abortifacient.

The website “One More Soul” lists NFP doctors in various areas. Perhaps there’s an NFP doctor in your area, who can give you some solid advice according to Catholic teachings.

omsoul.com/

 

[Teakafrog]

I just finished a pediatric endocrinology rotation and the pill is being used for almost anything including cramps, PCOS, and irregular periods.
All this to say that some physicians will use the pill just to get their patients off their backs and “control” their symptoms not offer a cure.

SO TRUE. Most doctors are just plain lazy when it comes to anything having to do with hormones. They see the pill as a “shut 'em up” measure, and it gets prescribed for absolutely any reason that may possibly be hormonal. It would be too difficult to do hormone checks properly, i.e. at certain days in the cycle, etc. It took me 8 years and at least 5 different doctors to finally get a diagnosis and treatment for my PCOS. And no, the BCP is NOT treatment. It simply covers up the symptoms, leaving the cause of the problem still there. I advise ANY woman who is prescribed the pill for medical reasons to get a second opinion, preferably from a doctor trained by the PPVI, www.popepaulvi.com . Dr. Hilgers does it right. It was a NP trained by him that finally figured me out.

 

[ElizaE]

SO TRUE. Most doctors are just plain lazy when it comes to anything having to do with hormones. They see the pill as a “shut 'em up” measure, and it gets prescribed for absolutely any reason that may possibly be hormonal. It would be too difficult to do hormone checks properly, i.e. at certain days in the cycle, etc. It took me 8 years and at least 5 different doctors to finally get a diagnosis and treatment for my PCOS. And no, the BCP is NOT treatment. It simply covers up the symptoms, leaving the cause of the problem still there. I advise ANY woman who is prescribed the pill for medical reasons to get a second opinion, preferably from a doctor trained by the PPVI, www.popepaulvi.com . Dr. Hilgers does it right. It was a NP trained by him that finally figured me out.

Please read my post… I completely agree with you. I see doctors who will not do any hormonal testing and put their patients on the pill when in fact there could be something wrong on a hormonal level.