I dont know how to help her!?!?

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So my girlfriend has some head issues, depression and anxiety really badly and thinking nobody loves her etc. She lives with her mom who thinks I’m a terrible person for no reason whatsoever and will not let her talk to me. Her only way to talk with people is via text using WiFi and her mom turned it off. The night before that happened my giirlfriend had a meltdown and told me how she felt suicidal and didn’t want to be alive. Her mom doesn’t believer her and will not help her or get her the help she needs and she doesn’t want to accept help from anybody else because she doesn’t expect anyone to want to and she said she wouldn’t accept help even if they did. I know for a fact that at least 10 people love her and would help her any way they could including me of course but she won’t accept it. And now she thinks that the only way for her to get better is to “lay everything down and serve him” him being God and everything being talking with/being in a relationship with me. I’m so scared that something is going to happen to her because she’s already tried to kill herself but I was able to find her before it happened. I don’t know what to do but I’m not about to give up trying.
 
No, she was raised Baptist and respects that I’m Catholic but thinks its not for her.
 
perhaps your parents can give you advice, or a talk with your pastor. how old are each of you?
 
well, you’re both adults. she needs serious counseling, more than you or i can offer.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

Prayer to Our Lady of Mental Peace

O Lady of Mental Peace,
Mother of Tranquility
and Mother of Hope,
look upon keblash’s girlfriend in this time
of weakness and unrest.

Teach her searching heart
to know that God’s Love
for her is unchanging and
unchangeable, and, that
true human love can only
begin and grow by touching
His Love.

Let your gentle Peace -
which this world cannot give
  • be always with her.
    And, help her to bring this
    same Peace into the lives
    of others.
Our Lady of Mental Peace,
  • Pray for us!
    Amen.
Jesus, Help Me!

In every need let me come to You with humble trust,
saying:
Jesus, help me!
In all my doubts, perplexities, and temptations:
Jesus, help me!
In hours of loneliness, weariness and trials:
Jesus, help me!
In the failure of my plans and hopes, in disappointments,
troubles and sorrows:
Jesus, help me!
When others fail me, and Your Grace alone can assist me:
Jesus, help me!
When I throw myself on Your tender Love as Savior:
Jesus, help me!
When my heart is cast down by failure, at seeing no good
come from my efforts:
Jesus, help me!
When I feel impatient, and my cross irritates me:
Jesus, help me!
When I am ill, and my head and hands cannot work and
I am lonely:
Jesus, help me!

Always, always, in spite of weakness, falls and short-
comings of every kind:
Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, help me and never forsake me!

Amen

†
 
Gracious and merciful Father, please come to her assistance.

Our Father, who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end.
Amen.
 
my apologies, i didn’t realize we were in the prayer intensions forum.

O my Jesus, forgive us our sins, save us from the fires of hell, and lead all souls to heaven, especially those in most need of Your mercy, amen.
 
**Blessed are you,
Mother of my Lord,
For you have believed the Word of God.

In faith and love,
You have pondered the Words and actions of God
In your life and the life of God’s people.

With Jesus we call you mother.
Pray for us,
And ask your Son to lead us to the Father.

Amen.**
 
I know she needs counseling and she knows it to but she has no money or job to help herself and her mom will not help her and in fact is going to kick her out and she has nowhere to go because she won’t let anyone help her. She’s also angry at God because she says I’m the first person to really love her for who she is and she thinks he is telling her to stay away from me and everyone else who wants to help.
 
hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you. blessed are you, and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus. holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners, now, and at the hour of our death, amen.
 
keblash said:
So my girlfriend has some head issues, depression and anxiety really badly and thinking nobody loves her etc. She lives with her mom who thinks I’m a terrible person for no reason whatsoever and will not let her talk to me. Her only way to talk with people is via text using WiFi and her mom turned it off. The night before that happened my giirlfriend had a meltdown and told me how she felt suicidal and didn’t want to be alive. Her mom doesn’t believer her and will not help her or get her the help she needs and she doesn’t want to accept help from anybody else because she doesn’t expect anyone to want to and she said she wouldn’t accept help even if they did. I know for a fact that at least 10 people love her and would help her any way they could including me of course but she won’t accept it. And now she thinks that the only way for her to get better is to “lay everything down and serve him” him being God and everything being talking with/being in a relationship with me. I’m so scared that something is going to happen to her because she’s already tried to kill herself but I was able to find her before it happened. I don’t know what to do but I’m not about to give up trying.
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You need to call a crisis line and get her some help. Someone that is this depressed and says the things she says might not be a very good spouse prospect later on. I think you still need to be a good friend to her but long term prospects might not be very wise. It is difficult to be married to someone that has severe mental illness like this which is what depression and suicide ideation are.
 
keblash said:
So my girlfriend has some head issues, depression and anxiety really badly and thinking nobody loves her etc. She lives with her mom who thinks I’m a terrible person for no reason whatsoever and will not let her talk to me. Her only way to talk with people is via text using WiFi and her mom turned it off. The night before that happened my giirlfriend had a meltdown and told me how she felt suicidal and didn’t want to be alive. Her mom doesn’t believer her and will not help her or get her the help she needs and she doesn’t want to accept help from anybody else because she doesn’t expect anyone to want to and she said she wouldn’t accept help even if they did. I know for a fact that at least 10 people love her and would help her any way they could including me of course but she won’t accept it. And now she thinks that the only way for her to get better is to “lay everything down and serve him” him being God and everything being talking with/being in a relationship with me. I’m so scared that something is going to happen to her because she’s already tried to kill herself but I was able to find her before it happened. I don’t know what to do but I’m not about to give up trying.
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Gosh! Terrible! Awful! 😦

What to do…

I’m not even sure how I’d approach a situation like that.

Yeah, sometimes, people with some mental problems can turn to religion and misinterpret it, cause themselves even further problems.

It is of concern about the part about being suicidal, and that it’s not being taken seriously.

Okay, I wish there was more I could advise, but this is a bit of a tough case.

Here’s one resource for people who are suicidal. This is for you: suicidepreventionlifeline.org/gethelp/someone.aspx

This is for her: suicidepreventionlifeline.org/gethelp/yourself.aspx

Here is something about support groups for people with mental illness and their families.

nami.org/

However, she really does need treatment if she is like you have described. She sounds like she could really benefit from counseling and/or medication.

I don’t know what else you can do until your girlfriend is willing to get some help.
 
keblash said:
I know she needs counseling and she knows it to but she has no money or job to help herself and her mom will not help her and in fact is going to kick her out and she has nowhere to go because she won’t let anyone help her. She’s also angry at God because she says I’m the first person to really love her for who she is and she thinks he is telling her to stay away from me and everyone else who wants to help.
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call the crisis line and they can direct you to places to get help since she has no money.
 
Our Father who art in Heaven,
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done
on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
Amen. :signofcross:

Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women,
and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen. :signofcross:
 
Some places offer counseling on a “sliding scale” according to one’s income.
 
St. Jude, friend to those in need, I am weary from grief, without joy, without hope, struggling to find the light I know is in my soul. I turn to you, my most trusted intercessor. Take away this emptiness and the pain of my broken heart. In your compassion, help my tears to lead me to a place of peace in my heart. Too long have I forgotten the goodness of God’s world. Heal me. I yearn to feel light, to feel joy. Envelop me in brightness, and do not hold back. And I promise, if I receive these gifts, I will share them always in your name. Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Prayer of St. Dymphna

Lord, our God, you graciously chose St. Dymphna as patroness of those afflicted with mental, emotional, and nervous disorders. She is thus an inspiration and a symbol of charity to the thousands who ask her intercession.

Please grant, Lord, through the prayers of this pure youthful martyr, relief and consolation to all suffering such trials, and especially Keblash’s girlfriend, for whom we pray.

We beg you, Lord, to hear the prayers of St. Dymphna on her behalf. Grant her patience in her sufferings and resignation to your divine will.

Please fill her with hope, and grant her relief and a cure. We ask this through Christ our Lord, who suffered agony in the garden. Amen.

:crossrc:

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  • Good Saint Dymphna, great wonder-worker in every affliction of mind and body, I humbly implore your powerful intercession with Jesus through Mary, the Health of the Sick, in my present need. (Mention it.) Saint Dymphna, martyr of purity, patroness of those who suffer with nervous and mental afflictions, beloved child of Jesus and Mary, pray to Them for me and obtain my request.
Our Father, Who art in Heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Hail Mary full of Grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed are thou among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus. Holy Mary Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death Amen.

Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Ghost.
As it was in the beginning, is now and ever shall be, world without end. Amen. +
 
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