I don't know if this is a sin or not

[reader16]

Hi,

I am 17 I turned 17 on Saturday, and was thinking about thing. My brother is 27, and he comes back over here to our house (Mom, Dad) and sometimes he would come in my room with me at night to walk TV. We didn’t do anything sexual. But sometimes he would fall asleep in my room, and I couldn’t get him out and he would sleep in my bed at night if he fell asleep. Other times we would both fall asleep. But if he couldn’t wake up I would just let him sleep there in my bed. But I would be able to wake him up and he would leave and go back to sleep on the fold-out-bed. he is married now. Was this a sin I commited? We didn’t do anything sexual or anything, he would just fall asleep cause he would get up early the morning for work or his classes for his job. I don’t know if this is a sin or not, and I have been thinking of confessing this to my priest this Saturday. There was also another thing that happened years ago I had a friend he was a boy, and I don’t know if we were swimming or something. But we were naked, but we didn’t do anything sexual. Is this a sin I have commited? And there was this one time that a friend she was teaching me how to have sex, this happened years ago too. And I practiced on a big teddy bear. Was this a sexual act I commited? When I went to my first confession I confessed that I have masturbated, because one friend thought it was an act of masturbation. Do I need to confess this again if it was a sexual act? Sorry if I am boring people, but I am scruptulous, and I just think that these are mortal sins. Please can someone help me? I am desperate!

 

[dove51]

Your brother sleeping in your room because he’s tired is most definitely not a sexual act or in any way wrong, in my opinion. As for the other cases–I think as long as you confessed and repented of masturbation (and perhaps lust?) you are fine. And of course you know better now. Chillax!

 

[Leopard]

…I am 17 I turned 17 on Saturday… And there was this one time that a friend she was teaching me how to have sex, this happened years ago too…(

Amy,

I don’t know if you still have contact with this friend, but if so, it may be advisable for you to seriously consider if this person is a good influence on you, and to be willing to cut off this relationship if the answer is negative.

Nobody has any business teaching a girl age 15 or younger “how to have have sex”. This is sexual abuse. Your parents have a duty to teach you about sex in an appropriate manner as you grow up, but this is not the same thing.

 

[reader16]

Amy,

I don’t know if you still have contact with this friend, but if so, it may be advisable for you to seriously consider if this person is a good influence on you, and to be willing to cut off this relationship if the answer is negative.

Nobody has any business teaching a girl age 15 or younger “how to have have sex”. This is sexual abuse. Your parents have a duty to teach you about sex in an appropriate manner as you grow up, but this is not the same thing.

No I don’t have contact with her anymore, but we didn’t get naked or anything. No I am practicing abstinance, until I get married. I am still a virgin aren’t I if I did do that when my friend taught me how to have sex?

 

[hamburglar]

No I don’t have contact with her anymore, but we didn’t get naked or anything. No I am practicing abstinance, until I get married. I am still a virgin aren’t I if I did do that when my friend taught me how to have sex?

I would say you are still a virgin. If you feel truly sorry for this, and think it might be a sin, you can go to confession and ask what the Priest thinks. There’s no harm in telling the Priest, so it might be good for you to do that.

 

[wcknight]

IF at the time of the confession you felt you were being completely honest with the priest, you do not need to go back and re-confess, even IF later on you think you may have mispoke or misnamed a sin.

Even if you forget to confess a sin at the time of a confession, it is still forgiven. As long as you do not “intentionally” deceive or leave, you are covered.

When the priest gives you absolution it is for all your sins up to the point of that confession. We usually say we are sorry for ALL of the sins of my past life, so that includes those that we did not mention either because they were minor or because we forgot about them.

Sounds like you are doing the best you can, that’s all God asks from any of us. You should not feel guilty about anything. IF there is no sinful intent, there is no sin. A sin requires deliberate willful action (or inaction in failing to do something) on your part.