I don't know what to do

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I am really lonely. It is nothing new. I am bad at talking to people, at making friends, and at keeping friends. I’m not close to my family. Through a series of unfortunate events, I don’t really have anyone in my life anymore. I don’t see anyone after work or on the weekends, and I don’t ever use my phone. I can’t understand why I even have it.

I can’t seem to find a way to grow in holiness through my loneliness. I seem to always be fleeing from it. I try to make myself busy. I lie to people so that they won’t realize I spend every moment outside of work by myself. I can’t think about it without crying. I pray a lot, but I don’t seem to make any progress. The more I am alone, the more painful it becomes to be around other people.

I’m not actually Catholic yet. I’m in RCIA. I am too shy to try talking to a priest. I am on the verge of dropping out of my class, even though I want to become Catholic so much, because I don’t know anyone who could be my sponsor and I’m afraid of talking to the priest who runs the class about it. This probably all sounds silly, but I don’t know what to do. Please pray that I can find a sponsor and a friend.
 
Forget yourself and start caring for another being, be it a cat, a dog, a flower, or anybody. Make another creature happy every day. Don’t be afraid of what others may think of you. Just trust in God and in yourself. Sow care and interest for the good of another. You will just discover as the days pass by that what you sow you will harvest hundredfold.
 
Lord, I know that You never leave us or forsake us. You are always with us, and I pray at this time Lord that You will let your presence be felt by Anniegirl. Lead her with your wisdom to find people who will help her bring closer to you so that she will have true friends around and be happy. I believe in my heart that you are calling her to be with you, to be a catholic. Give her a sponsor Lord. Give her your peace right now and ease her loneliness.

I ask these in Jesus name. Amen.
 
Anniegirl said:
I am really lonely. It is nothing new. I am bad at talking to people, at making friends, and at keeping friends. I’m not close to my family. Through a series of unfortunate events, I don’t really have anyone in my life anymore. I don’t see anyone after work or on the weekends, and I don’t ever use my phone. I can’t understand why I even have it.

I can’t seem to find a way to grow in holiness through my loneliness. I seem to always be fleeing from it. I try to make myself busy. I lie to people so that they won’t realize I spend every moment outside of work by myself. I can’t think about it without crying. I pray a lot, but I don’t seem to make any progress. The more I am alone, the more painful it becomes to be around other people.

I’m not actually Catholic yet. I’m in RCIA. I am too shy to try talking to a priest. I am on the verge of dropping out of my class, even though I want to become Catholic so much, because I don’t know anyone who could be my sponsor and I’m afraid of talking to the priest who runs the class about it. This probably all sounds silly, but I don’t know what to do. Please pray that I can find a sponsor and a friend.
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The advice that agangbern gave is GREAT advice.

But I am guessing that you are afraid to try new things.

Look up on the internet the number of times that great people that have failed in some of their efforts, yet they keep trying…you will never know how far you can reach unless you fail at some things and then pick yourself back up and try again.

My point…don’t be afraid to try something new…if you make a mistake or fail…it will only make you stronger.

I will say a prayer that the right person comes to you.
 
Hey Annie,

I kinda went through the same thing… as a convert I didn’t know how to talk to a Priest and I didn’t know anyone who was Catholic to even talk about being Catholic… all I can tell you is that after a LONG time I finally asked for help to a few people at Mass and they were happy to help me… and they remain friends of mine (some of my ONLY friends) to this day.

You’re doing the right thing… take it slow… PRAY… and trust that the Lord and the Church will help you.

Ask Pope John Paul II to help you… HE WILL HELP YOU!

Peace,
Scott
 
Overcome you shyness and talk to a priest. I’ve known many of them and know that they will be eager to help you. I’m sure they will help you find a sponsor. Keep praying and hang in there. God loves you. I am praying very hard for you!
 
Anniegirl said:
I am really lonely. It is nothing new. I am bad at talking to people, at making friends, and at keeping friends. I’m not close to my family. Through a series of unfortunate events, I don’t really have anyone in my life anymore. I don’t see anyone after work or on the weekends, and I don’t ever use my phone. I can’t understand why I even have it.

I can’t seem to find a way to grow in holiness through my loneliness. I seem to always be fleeing from it. I try to make myself busy. I lie to people so that they won’t realize I spend every moment outside of work by myself. I can’t think about it without crying. I pray a lot, but I don’t seem to make any progress. The more I am alone, the more painful it becomes to be around other people.

I’m not actually Catholic yet. I’m in RCIA. I am too shy to try talking to a priest. I am on the verge of dropping out of my class, even though I want to become Catholic so much, because I don’t know anyone who could be my sponsor and I’m afraid of talking to the priest who runs the class about it. This probably all sounds silly, but I don’t know what to do. Please pray that I can find a sponsor and a friend.
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Praying for you, Annie. Joining a garden club, book club at the library, or something else you’re interested in could be a good way to meet people in a low stress environment. You do not have to make much small talk, just go a few times and people will start to aproach you and ask you simple questions about yourself like; what part of town do you live in, where do you work, how much gardening do you do?

One new friend will have her own friends, who you can meet later. Then your circle increases!

Adoration at a Catholic chapel, if you have it available nearby, can help with that lonliness too. Can you tell some of us have been there ourselves? 🙂
 
J†M†J
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

God Bless
In Jesus through Mary
Steve
 
For years I have lived by the motto- to have a friend, I first must be one. There are many, many people who are lonely enough for you to practice on in nursing homes, disabled, living alone, children, who will never notice that you are a novice. Dive into the world and out of yourself, and you will return to find a much-improved version of yourself.
Praying…
 
Anniegirl said:
I am really lonely. It is nothing new. I am bad at talking to people, at making friends, and at keeping friends. I’m not close to my family. Through a series of unfortunate events, I don’t really have anyone in my life anymore. I don’t see anyone after work or on the weekends, and I don’t ever use my phone. I can’t understand why I even have it.

I can’t seem to find a way to grow in holiness through my loneliness. I seem to always be fleeing from it. I try to make myself busy. I lie to people so that they won’t realize I spend every moment outside of work by myself. I can’t think about it without crying. I pray a lot, but I don’t seem to make any progress. The more I am alone, the more painful it becomes to be around other people.

I’m not actually Catholic yet. I’m in RCIA. I am too shy to try talking to a priest. I am on the verge of dropping out of my class, even though I want to become Catholic so much, because I don’t know anyone who could be my sponsor and I’m afraid of talking to the priest who runs the class about it. This probably all sounds silly, but I don’t know what to do. Please pray that I can find a sponsor and a friend.
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:hug1: I will be your friend. Well online of course. I too am looking for new friends of my same faith. So here I am. I am super shy too. But, I am taking a chance, and so did you by writing here.

As for friends you can actually see in person, try volunteering. Do you have any likes? I love animals so I do volunteer shelter work. I also love to read, and am considering helping out at my local library for extra socializing and fun. 🙂

Don’t be afraid to talk to your priest. I used to be too. It can be intimidating, until you realize that they are human too. 😉 But, now it’s a piece of cake, well almost, still shy of course. 😛

God love you dear. I really do want to be your friend. We’re in this together. That’s what being catholic is all about. When you are hurting so are we. There is a private message system on these forums, I kind of “happened” across it myself. 😛 So, you can write me on there or here. Doesn’t matter. Hope to hear from you soon. 😃
 
Hi Anniegirl. You know what? You’re not alone. I’m feeling very lonely lately. As in very. I have some friends whom I haven’t talked to or seen for a long time.

The thing is, now I am looking for zealous Catholic friends. I can’t find any, in person. Not yet. I’d like to be your online friend, if you like.

I pray the Morning Offering prayer, so I offer up my penances and sufferings, including feelings of loneliness and sadness, to God for many intentions, esp. the conversion of sinners, the holy souls and the salvation of the dying. It eases my loneliness a bit, knowing that your sufferings aren’t in vain.

I will pray for you. Remember that your Guardian angel is always with you and is the best friend you could ever have. Invoke his help always. Pray to Our Lady and to the saints.
 
Praying for you Anniegirl…you got some very good advice from these prayer warriors…they’re awesome. Hang in there, and pray to the Holy Spirit for guidance.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
Anniegirl said:
I am really lonely. It is nothing new. I am bad at talking to people, at making friends, and at keeping friends. I’m not close to my family. Through a series of unfortunate events, I don’t really have anyone in my life anymore. I don’t see anyone after work or on the weekends, and I don’t ever use my phone. I can’t understand why I even have it.

I can’t seem to find a way to grow in holiness through my loneliness. I seem to always be fleeing from it. I try to make myself busy. I lie to people so that they won’t realize I spend every moment outside of work by myself. I can’t think about it without crying. I pray a lot, but I don’t seem to make any progress. The more I am alone, the more painful it becomes to be around other people.

I’m not actually Catholic yet. I’m in RCIA. I am too shy to try talking to a priest. I am on the verge of dropping out of my class, even though I want to become Catholic so much, because I don’t know anyone who could be my sponsor and I’m afraid of talking to the priest who runs the class about it. This probably all sounds silly, but I don’t know what to do. Please pray that I can find a sponsor and a friend.
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It does not sound silly. I can relate a bit.

Lord I pray for her that she finds a close friend and becomes fulfilled by you oh lord. Keep her strong in faith and love. Heal her heart.
 
Praying for you,I’m alone so much,but I use that time to enrich my spiritual journey,please reach out and talk to a priest,it has helped me so much,I did that and now he calls me often,and I consider him my spiritual advisor.
 
Annie Girl
I start a 9 Day Novena today(17th.Dec.)and it ends on Christmas Day.I’ll include you in my prayers.
 
Our beloved John Paul II gave us a wonderful advice that said:“Do not be afraid”. He encouraged us to be strong as our Lord was strong when he was accused and put to death.So, you too my friend in Christ must be strong. Ask God for that strength that only he can give. Talk to your priest do not be afraid. I’ll pray for you. Join a parish group, volunteer in a nursing home or a hospital. There you may find friends that may have things in common with you…GOD.
God bless you and I’ll be praying for you…:gopray2:

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Hail Mary, full of grace.
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
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