I feel ashamed to confess the same sin

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I just went to confession after Sunday mass, and at that day I didnt receive holy communion, so i did spiritual communion instead. I was not sure if I was in a state of mortal or venial sin but i was sure that it was my fourth time to fall in that sin, which is viewing hentai. Even if i didnt touch my body, I would still get reactions because of how sensitive it is. After I view hentai I would feel very ashamed and resolve to confess my sins to a priest, but now I dont really feel like doing that anymore because sometimes it feels pointless if I know that I’ll fall into the same sin. I confessed the same sin 4 times already and last night was my fifth time of falling into the same sin. Please pray for me. I am asking for the grace of chastity and purity. If you could offer a mass for my intentions or anything like a rosary or a short prayer that would be of great help. I am trying to do the first fridays, but i am being discouraged by this particular sin that I always seem to fall into. Thanks and Godbless you always…
 
If you ‘know’ that you will commit the same sin over and over again are you not misusing your free will? Most sins are made out of choice. Try harder not to make the wrong choices and keep going to confession.
 
From my experience hentai contains sexual explicit content and promotes perversions so its just porn. Its as bad as watching porn. Even though character arent real, they are mainly young girls? Its disgusting.

Its shameful for ourselves. And it hurts our pride because we cant win it without God. Remember that He doesnt reject anyone but you also must work.
 
i’ll try going to mass and confession later, thanks for the advice.
 
4 years and i have been committing the same sins continuosly.

I must have been to confession over 100 times in those 4 years. Maybe more. Same sins!

It has / is, very hard indeed. We are weak. Our flesh is weak. But, however many times i fall, i will do my utmost to turn to God who i know is all loving and all forgiving.

Dont be afraid. You are not the only one who sins the same sins daily, weekly or monthly. We have confession. We have Jesus. Be determined not to sin those sins again. Like me, if you continuosly fail, get up and turn to God once more.

God bless you
 
I’ll skip the real theological talk, presuming that you know the right and wrong already, if not you wouldn’t even be here seeking out answers. Now, we all have a Cross (mine is Lust) or multiple Crosses in life to carry on our shoulders. You can be the sickest individual or the holiest one, yet you will stumble and fall at some point in life like even the Saints that made it to Heaven. That is why you first have to understand the essential purpose of Confession, rather than it becoming just a religious act for you. After all, we are all wretched sinners who need the Savior, our Lord Jesus Christ.

Confession:
  • It’s nothing magical
  • Fixes up the most important broken relationship in your life, it’s making up with God (using words like Confession/Reconciliation might feel too sophisticated, hence impersonal, for some people) It also welcomes you back into the spiritual communion with the rest of the body of believers
  • Nourishment for your soul and spirit
  • Spiritual, emotional, psychological, moral and even physical encouragement for your daily life
Therefore, you have to keep going back and face God, the priest and yourself. However, you must remember that this is valid, good and useful to you as long as you are being true to God and to yourself. In other words, do NOT fall into the trap whereby this becomes your new self-invented solution to your sinful cycle. Yes, it is a tough training, but Jesus is always there to forgive you and get you back in the race which we are all running and striving for the finish line. Do not give up, just fight the good fight, and know how to get back up when you stumble.

Contrite heart & willing mind, the rest is nothing but His Grace, Amen ✝️
 
Also, i wanted to share something intimate for a brotherly encouragement to you:

I am one of the most lustful men out there who has lived all of the filthiness of the Miami life-style for many years. And I prayed for many years but nothing happened, i did not feel anything holy etc. But guess what? Somehow It’s been 9+ months and i haven’t laid with a woman, and in fact it’s been a few months i haven’t even touched myself… And so, it is possible! SO do i think i will not fall again some time until i get married? I doubt it, in fact i’m sure i will stumble and fall at some point. But i go one day at a time, and as long as I come back to the Lord with a sincere and genuine heart/repentance, i know He will be there to welcome me back home, that is my confidence in accordance with the Scripture and the Church’s teaching. Meanwhile, my heart and my mind get transformed for the better. Believe in what you preach, be open to receive His Grace and be filled with the Holy Spirit. However, you must spend a bit more time with the Lord, just give Him a chance please.
 
Much appreciated LL,along with prayer is offering up …you might already do this when the going is tough,if you don’t I really recommend trying to keep anothers trials in mind and uniting your struggle to stay pure with Jesus suffering on the cross to help people.It’s how I get through life’s ups and downs.
God bless,and keep on keeping on :pray:t4:
 
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“LawrenceLigouri said:
. I was not sure if I was in a state of mortal or venial sin .
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You say that you were not sure if you were in a state of mortal or venial sin .

If that was the case I cannot see how you could have been in a state of mortal sin .

The Catechism teaches , " For a sin to be mortal, three conditions must together be met: Mortal sin is sin whose object is grave matter and which is also committed with full knowledge and deliberate consent."

You did not have full knowledge of the mortal or venial nature of the sin , so one of the conditions for the sin to be mortal was absent . Mortal sin presupposes full knowledge of the sinful character of the act .
 
I don’t think one can go wrong by if in doubt go to confession .
 
LawrenceLigouri said:
… sometimes it feels pointless if I know that I’ll fall into the same sin…
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First, you do not know the future with certainty. Second, grace gives us strength which reinforces each act of will to good. Jesus said he remains with us.

Gospel of Matthew 28
20 Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and behold I am with you all days, even to the consummation of the world.
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Gospel of John 14
17 The spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, nor knoweth him: but you shall know him; because he shall abide with you, and shall be in you.
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Pray for forgiveness and the strength to overcome the temptation to commit the same sin again. 🙏🙏🙏
 
OP: As someone who has / does struggle with a Pornography addiction I want to firstly encourage you to keep fighting the good fight as they say. No matter how long it takes you can be free of this and you will be if you preserve in Christ.

I would encourage you to think tactically about the situation. What device or place do you usually give into the sin? On your phone or computer? Place pictures of the Blessed Virgin Mary as your background or have pictures of her near that. In addition perhaps a picture of the Lord being scourged. That way when you are about to give into the sin you see these reminders.

I would also greatly encourage you to make the daily saying of the Rosary a priority in your life as this is a great help. Perhaps also start wearing the Miraculous Medal or Brown Scapular as well. All are wonderful steps forward.

Don’t give up!
 
Dude, priests don’t care. They’re happy that people are coming to Confession. The salvation of souls is the buisness of priests.

Also, in terms of staying strong and keeping away from porn, there are a few things that have hepled me…
-fast frequently- take cold showers, sleep in the floor, cut down on carbs- if you can say no to yourself in small matters, you’ll b better able to say no in important ones.
-Say the Rosary, every day, especially during your ‘trigger times’. For me, that’s when I am in bed falling asleep, so I pray mysel to sleep with the Rosary every night
-A strong prayer life, reading the Bible and oher spiritual readings.

The bottom line is

NEVER EVER GIVE UP. GOD WILL ALWAYS TAKE YOU BACK​

 
Listen to all the good people on this CAF message board. There is a lot of good advice.
I myself went back to confession after a 40-plus years absence.
There is no sin too bad to confess. There is nothing that should stop you.
Shame and pride are the tools of the devil.
Move forward. Do the correct thing.
 
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