I feel God doesn't love that much since I look like a Mexican

[realtiger]

Methinks you may need to rethink your attitude towards Mexicans?

I like Mexicans and do not despise them. But let us be real they are considered to be low and with the problems I have I don’t need to look like one. I don’t know where you live but I am from the Northeast and Mexicans are considered to be the lowest of all Latinos at least judging from my experience here in NJ. If I looked Italian, Puerto Rican or Dominican it would not be much of a problem but Mexicans well we know how Mexicans are seen as.

 

[Lou2U]

I like Mexicans and do not despise them. But let us be real they are considered to be low and with the problems I have I don’t need to look like one. I don’t know where you live but I am from the Northeast and Mexicans are considered to be the lowest of all Latinos at least judging from my experience here in NJ. If I looked Italian, Puerto Rican or Dominican it would not be much of a problem but Mexicans well we know how Mexicans are seen as.

You would do better to accept yourself than to be prejudiced against an entire nationality.

Your problem lies in self esteem, not with genetics.

Lou

 

[realtiger]

You would do better to accept yourself than to be prejudiced against an entire nationality.

Your problem lies in self esteem, not with genetics.

Lou

I am not being prejudiced I am just aware of how Mexicans are seen. If I know blacks are seen as “low” and wish not to look black would that make me prejudiced?

 

[Lynxdk]

Have you read the Bible, and what Christ has to say, about those considered the low and the least of these? Can you not take heart in that?

I understand feelings. People often think feelings can’t be changed, and they ~can’t~ if you focus on just Feeling them, as if they were Facts.

Feelings are Not Facts.

Persistent thoughts can be an issue with emotional problems, but working through those can help, and if you aren’t getting much help from people here, who continue to assure you of these kinds of things, some Bible reading may help distract from your own thoughts, focusing on Psalms or the Words of Christ in particular, relaxing and letting go of the Negative feelings you have, to make room for the Positive feelings God would have you see yourself, and others, with, instead.

 

[Lou2U]

I am not being prejudiced I am just aware of how Mexicans are seen. If I know blacks are seen as “low” and wish not to look black would that make me prejudiced?

Yes, it would. There is no reason for you to be ashamed for the way you look, absolutely none. The best thing for you to do is not complain and be bitter about your looks - it is learning to accept yourself the way you are and improving your self esteem. Again: do something proactive instead of blaming others.

Lou

 

[Lynxdk]

Consider this, too. Many people who have had callings later in life, started with many hurdles and “burdens” that they would not wish upon themselves or others. If you take care of yourself, and overcome these in yourself, you might learn better ways to relate to others who struggle with similar problems to yours.

I have schizophrenia, so I can relate to a great deal the struggles of those I’ve known with high functioning autism. You’re very clear with how you speak online, even if a lot of it is Emotional speaking, so far, you’re still very clear about what you’re asking, and even questioning your own feelings, With that.

It is prejudice? Look at the word, itself, in context.

Pre- coming before, prior to
judice- judgement

The previous judgements of other people, or at least, the prejudgment of Other people, seems to be what you fear.

Fear.

Be Not Afraid, for the Lord is with you.

Understand, too, that you cannot be Brave, unless you’re at first, afraid. That’s part of the definition of Bravery and Courage.

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

Practice! is what makes Perfect. One might even venture to say, that God makes “mistakes” (Us) and practice makes Perfect (in Him)

 

[GEddie]

Complaining about your appearance has no percentage in it.

God nowhere in Scripture or otherwise promises everybody a spouse, and a worthy one is an achievement. Read Proverbs 31:10.

ICXC NIKA

 

[Lynxdk]

It also seem that some folks who post their opinions don’t understand the struggles of those with emotional problems, so would speak in ways that might seem to add a flavor of “guilt” for feeling the way you do, Tiger.

That might be helpful to some extent with people who have a normal balance of healthy emotions, and/or are used to, and more able to take responsibility for how they feel, on their own (often from having had much practice) but too much of that sort of thing, can drag you down, if you get stuck on the Feelings instead of the Spirit they were meant or said in; To Help, rather than to Harm.

I’m sure that’s not their intent, so take care how you read what folks have to say, too. I have often found my feelings get mixed up into the messages of others, and that sometime makes it even more difficult to separate my feelings, from my thoughts, to “facts” and “reality” … Is it Reality? or just Worldly perspectives that would make judgements about who a person is based on how God created them to be?

 

[Augustine]

I still feel God could love me more by not making me look Mexican. It is not fair. I am mixed and I am half Puerto Rican. Why don’t I look Puerto Rican? My sister doesn’t have autism, bipolar, and she is not lonely and she looks white. Why did God have to make my burden stronger by allowing me to look like a Mexican?

You have no right to envy the burdens of others. The burden, or cross, you got is as heavy as you make it, for, just like the Lord had help to carry the cross, you too can count on Him to help you carry your cross. Your problem is not with Him, but with yourself. Now, just man up and call out for His help in dealing with your cross and lighten your burden (v. Mt 11:30).

Pax Christi

 

[Lynxdk]

You have no right to envy the burdens of others. The burden, or cross, you got is as heavy as you make it, for, just like the Lord had help to carry the cross, you too can count on Him to help you carry your cross. Your problem is not with Him, but with yourself. Now, just man up and call out for His help in dealing with your cross and lighten your burden (v. Mt 11:30).

Pax Christi

So… is this how you would treat people with serious depression and thoughts of suicide? Have you been following along with what this fellow is saying? Do you have bi-polar or autism, or some other disability that you could relate to what he’s been trying to express?

 

[Augustine]

So… is this how you would treat people with serious depression and thoughts of suicide?

Yes, as Hippocrates recommended, some slaps on the face are sometimes necessary to break the stupor of depression, especially for men.

Pax Christi

 

[Lynxdk]

Yes, some slaps on the face are sometimes necessary to break the stupor of depression, especially for men.

Pax Christi

I’m sure a psychologist would appreciate your perspective, although not in the same way you do; Similarly, I’m sure Christ will, to, as whatever you do to the least of these, you do to Him, as well.

 

[Lou2U]

Yes, some slaps on the face are sometimes necessary to break the stupor of depression, especially for men.

Pax Christi

Maybe not slaps, but definitely something firm. I’m sorry the OP is struggling with suicidal thoughts and depression, really. I’m trying to be constructive when I tell the OP to do something productive about how he feels instead of blaming others.

OP, I would seriously recommend counselling for you to learn to accept yourself. You can only find happiness with others when you can find it within yourself first.

Lou

 

[Augustine]

I’m sure a psychologist would appreciate your perspective, although not in the same way you do; Similarly, I’m sure Christ will, to, as whatever you do to the least of these, you do to Him, as well.

Such presumption! Just because you don’t agree with my methods, you have no right to judge my intentions.

And I’d recommend counseling for your pious passive-aggressiveness… or some slaps.

Pax Christi

 

[Lynxdk]

Such presumption! Just because you don’t agree with my methods, you have no right to judge my intentions.

And I’d recommend counseling for your pious passive-aggressiveness… or some slaps.

Pax Christi

If by Pious, you mean hypocritical concern, you judge incorrectly.

You might also want to research passive-aggressive vs aggressive vs passive, as I don’t believe you understand the meaning of those terms, either.

Methods used by ancient philosophers and physicians, proven to fail, that shouldn’t be used by armchair psychologists for various reasons that I won’t bother going into with you. Arguments are for people who insist on being right until they defeat their opponents and win, rather than to listen and understand and learn from other peoples perspectives, especially those with more experience.with the subject matter being discussed.

 

[Augustine]

Blah… blah… blah.

Since you’re unable to give it up, this is the last blah I read from you.

Pax Christi

 

[realtiger]

Yes, it would. There is no reason for you to be ashamed for the way you look, absolutely none. The best thing for you to do is not complain and be bitter about your looks - it is learning to accept yourself the way you are and improving your self esteem. Again: do something proactive instead of blaming others.

Lou

I appreciate you helping you me but no it is not being prejudiced. It is merely being scared of having someone being prejudiced against you if one does not want to look like a member of an oppressed group. If someone wants to lose weight because they know how fat people are treated does that necessarily mean they are being prejudiced against fat people?

 

[Lou2U]

I appreciate you helping you me but no it is not being prejudiced. It is merely being scared of having someone being prejudiced against you if one does not want to look like a member of an oppressed group. If someone wants to lose weight because they know how fat people are treated does that necessarily mean they are being prejudiced against fat people?

Ah, okay - I can see where you’re coming from with not wanting to be prejudiced against.

Honestly though, you can’t change your looks. You need to accept yourself, because lamenting about how you want to look will only make you angry and bitter. Counselling will be the best option for you to move forward.

Lou

 

[Augustine]

It is merely being scared of having someone being prejudiced against you if one does not want to look like a member of an oppressed group.

Look, a 30 something colleague at work is also from Puerto Rico, looks Mexican, has a thick accent, long hair, rides a motorcycle, packs heat, works hard, owns a home and a rental property, has a beautiful wife who’s expecting their first baby.

You write your own history and its tone is the one you choose.

Pax Christi

 

[Lou2U]

Look, a 30 something colleague at work is also from Puerto Rico, looks Mexican, has a thick accent, long hair, rides a motorcycle, packs heat, works hard, owns a home and a rental property, has a beautiful wife who’s expecting their first baby.

You write your own history and its tone is the one you choose.

Pax Christi

You don’t have to accept the stereotypes placed on you. You can choose how you view yourself, but everyone will view you from that. Don’t view yourself as beaten down by stereotypes, don’t think of yourself as hard done by. Everyone else will see what you portray. Accept yourself for who you are.

Lou