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BuffaloNickels
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No one believes me when I say that I am called to do something. I was called to the Catholic church since middle school. Years and years of small things reaching out to me and calling me to the Church. I went through RCIA in '04-'05 after finally finding a church that seemed warm and welcoming. (I grew up in a small town so if I went to sit in on Mass I got the cold shoulder for not being Catholic)
As the years went by I realized that there was more to my calling than just for myself. My daughter has dreams and visions of Mary, and when my husband insisted we were done with our family after two kids, I told him no we weren’t. Andrew was still waiting for us. He laughed me off for a couple of years and I never really pushed it, but just kept saying that God was going to send us a little boy. Sure enough - we were blessed with a little boy next. My husband is in the military and I didn’t figure I could handle homeschooling when he was deployed. So we enrolled my daugther in Catholic school. I made it clear that I was bringing her to a Catholic school because of her special devotion to Mary and I was looking for a place that would nurture that in her.
I have since been told by the principal that we are not able to hear God, not able to take instruction directly from Mary or God, and that I am not allowed to practice pre-vatican II ways “because we don’t do that anymore” (ie covering at mass)
It was even taken so far as I was yelled at by the priest and told that I’m teaching my child to disobey authority, the Church,and God because I let her cover and he doesn’t want us too.
All she wants is to be like Mary. She’s only 7 and tries so hard every day to live a prayerful, simple, loving, charitable life. I’ve never seen the likes of it even in any adults that I know personally.
We also had a Mass this past summer where one of the associate priests SCREAMED from the pulpit on how wrong the church is in it’s practice of male-only priests/bishops/popes. He said we no longer live in a patriarchal society, thus the male-only leadership is outdated and out of place.
I’ve also been told by the priest and the nun who teaches the RCIA class that they’re “ok with birth control in marriage” after all, you can only afford so many kids, right? and NFP isn’t effective… ya know?
I want to try to seek out a new parish but frankly we’ve all had our hearts and spirits broken. I haven’t taken communion since August, and I have never been to confession. (embarrased because I don’t know what to do - they refused to cover it in RCIA even when I asked)
We want to live a simple prayerful life in conservative Cathoic ways. We (girls) only leave the house in long skirts/dresses, and we LIKE traditional husband/wife roles in the family. I stay home and tend the house and children and my husband works and makes the final decisions for our family. But I feel chastized by my priest for still maintaining a patriarchal household. Not to mention my poor baby girl who just wants to be Mary-like gets yelled at for covering.
This flock of lambs just want to come “home”
As the years went by I realized that there was more to my calling than just for myself. My daughter has dreams and visions of Mary, and when my husband insisted we were done with our family after two kids, I told him no we weren’t. Andrew was still waiting for us. He laughed me off for a couple of years and I never really pushed it, but just kept saying that God was going to send us a little boy. Sure enough - we were blessed with a little boy next. My husband is in the military and I didn’t figure I could handle homeschooling when he was deployed. So we enrolled my daugther in Catholic school. I made it clear that I was bringing her to a Catholic school because of her special devotion to Mary and I was looking for a place that would nurture that in her.
I have since been told by the principal that we are not able to hear God, not able to take instruction directly from Mary or God, and that I am not allowed to practice pre-vatican II ways “because we don’t do that anymore” (ie covering at mass)
It was even taken so far as I was yelled at by the priest and told that I’m teaching my child to disobey authority, the Church,and God because I let her cover and he doesn’t want us too.
All she wants is to be like Mary. She’s only 7 and tries so hard every day to live a prayerful, simple, loving, charitable life. I’ve never seen the likes of it even in any adults that I know personally.
We also had a Mass this past summer where one of the associate priests SCREAMED from the pulpit on how wrong the church is in it’s practice of male-only priests/bishops/popes. He said we no longer live in a patriarchal society, thus the male-only leadership is outdated and out of place.
I’ve also been told by the priest and the nun who teaches the RCIA class that they’re “ok with birth control in marriage” after all, you can only afford so many kids, right? and NFP isn’t effective… ya know?
I want to try to seek out a new parish but frankly we’ve all had our hearts and spirits broken. I haven’t taken communion since August, and I have never been to confession. (embarrased because I don’t know what to do - they refused to cover it in RCIA even when I asked)
We want to live a simple prayerful life in conservative Cathoic ways. We (girls) only leave the house in long skirts/dresses, and we LIKE traditional husband/wife roles in the family. I stay home and tend the house and children and my husband works and makes the final decisions for our family. But I feel chastized by my priest for still maintaining a patriarchal household. Not to mention my poor baby girl who just wants to be Mary-like gets yelled at for covering.
This flock of lambs just want to come “home”
Changes to canon law took out the Church’s ability to tell women they had to wear a veil/hat at Mass, but DID NOT ban them. Remember, women are still supposed to wear veils when meeting the Pope; why shouldn’t they wear them when recieving the Savior of the World and Creator of the Universe?!?
. I don’t think the parish you’re going to now will provide a good example to your daughter of what Catholicism really means and teaches.
