I found the man I'm going to marry; now what?

[mywordshalom]

I don’t expect to live up to a dream, or for it to happen in that way. He doesn’t expect it either, but he just wants his mother’s (name removed by moderator)ut on it- since she was right about the marriage of the oldest son, and since he has had not so par relationships of his own in the past, he just wants to know if she thinks he and I are good for each other.

I won’t try to shape myself up better just to please him or the parents either. not that i know how to shape myself better anyways and fake it- i dont even know how I would do that. I’m comfortable with who I am, and comfortable enough to meet his parents even though I’m awkward as heck with people and conversation. Especially with meeting his parents- i’ve never done such a thing.

He only shared it because he told me he would like his mom and I to spend a little bit of time alone to just talk. And I asked him why, and he told me about the dream. He’s also has had dreams in the past related to this, including a vision of the Blessed Mother telling him about me and for him to be patient and that he will meet me soon.

He didn’t really believe into it a whole lot, he dated a few girls since that. but then he met me, and he said everything just clicked

thanks for the prayers and advice everyone! I’m taking this into consideration, and I’m not sure if it sounds like we are or not, but both of us are still taking this with caution and discernment. He a little bit more than I, since I don’t have as nearly of a hurtful past as he has. I am working on spending less time daydreaming on it, and have been focused on improving myself and my habits and spending time with other people. I’ve been doing so already, but it sounds like I gotta do a little more from what you all are saying, so I shall find more things to keep myself busy with. - that will be easier when college starts in a few weeks

 

[TheLittleLady]

Sounds as if you have found a prince!

I love KC, it is a great town. I hope you can visit the Nelson, it is my favorite museum.

 

[Bigal]

You would like a guarantee? Well that happens after 30 years of marriage.

 

[runningdude]

First step: Congratulations!

Second step: Actually be proposed to, accept, and start looking for a priest or parish ministry to do marriage prep with. There is no need to rush choosing a date, but getting formal guidance may be helpful.

Third step: it appears one both of you will have to relocate (otherwise you would be spending more time in each others company, no?) This should be a major topic of discussion for the next several months.

 

[bmaj]

I would recommend just taking things real slowly to keep getting to know each other and both of your families without being concerned about marriage yet. Sounds like a lot more time spent in person with each other would be excellent to truly become more familiar with all the aspects of each other’s personalities and idiosyncrasies. “A few squabbles” this early in the relationship might be a bit of a red flag warning to delve deeper into the root cause of them to determine if there’s anything significant that might need to be known, especially now before you get too serious. Our Blessed Mother is a wonderful intercessor at times like this, too. May our Lord always be at your side as you simply enjoy getting to know each other more and more. It can be a delightful time - enjoy it for that as much as you can first!

 

[Hawkmaid7]

Shalom my friend!

Yep, speaking as somebody who fell for a guy who lived a distance away, definitely take it in stride. Don’t give up, of course, don’t run away, but don’t dive in too far yet either. Talk it out with him, explore this peace, meet families, etc., but please, please be careful to not let your imagination run away like I did. College helps!