I had a disagreement with my girlfriend

[dochawk]

Be careful in having relationships with women who are prone to anger. It can escalate into abuse faster than you realize.

Having dealt with this as an attorney, and observed many studies over the years, and in no way diminishing the horror of male on female violence . . .

This particular type of violence (female on male) is so horribly underreported that noone really has any idea how common it is.

Men have been conditioned not to hit back, sometimes to the point that they won’t even try to defend themselves. Add to that that they don’t want to admit that a female beat them up, and you have a staggering number out there.

It only gets worse each time a male who calls for help gets arrested. I won’t go into other cases, but I’ve dealt with the aftermath of a man who had been beaten bloody who was automatically arrested when the police came out on the DV call.

And that aside, for the OP, there’s a serious question of whether someone who beaches as described is ready or mature enough for any relationship . . .

hawk

 

[AlbertDerGrosse]

Without even touching on whether she’s correct or incorrect in her opinions, her reactions to differences of opinion are really over the top. She disagreed with the priest over soteriology and didn’t even bother to give him a chance to nuance his answer, she just up and walks out of the room? And then turns the issue into a shouting match with you? How “recently” did you “fall in love” with her and how typical is this behavior of hers with even more mundane things like, say, where you two are going to have dinner?

 

[chessnerd321]

Should we live unhappy because everything we do is a sin?

I don’t think we should either be happy or unhappy. We should be joyful. We should be grateful. We should trust in God. I don’t know about happy. Many Christians were miserable, yet they found the joy of the Lord–a mystery to ponder.

Obviously everything we do isn’t a sin. But I’m in the camp that thinks people go to too great of lengths to avoid calling something “mortal sin”. We are called to be genuinely sorrowful for our sins. Not in a depressive and self-hating way, but hating sin is a good exercise.

I think there’s a lot of temptation to see just one side of these things. People like black and white answers, but the church colors with many many shades of grey. Yes forgiven, but yes saddend by our sin. Yes God takes our interior disposition into account, but yes some actions are gravely evil. Etc etc.

 

[Servant31]

I tend to agree somewhat. We must follow the truth, we don’t get to make it up as we’re go. Often in our culture this turns into permissiveness, but it can go the other way and become too burdensome as well. So ultimately the cathecism understood well is the way to go. This can take both time but also some research. I’ve heard some pretty amazing opinions on what Catholics believe, sometimes from other highly vocal Catholics…