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feelinglost1
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My fiancé had anl emergency over the weekend. He has high BP. It’s been extreme since before I met him.
finances are very bad & even dropped his health insurance. He also stopped taking his BP meds because of the expense.
He is trying hard to work out more to get it down, but it is still VERY high most days he takes it.
Commonly he claims having a heart attack. This weekend, we’re driving w/my child in backseat— & he tells me he’s sick. He stops & says he is very confused. His heart rate is 160 on watch.
I tell him to pull over so get him to a hospital. He says no. He fights me & I demand he pull over. He pulls into parking lot and keeps driving around. He’s still confused.
I tell him I’m taking him to a hospital. He said to take him to a good one. Then 5 minutes later he says he is fine. He says he doesn’t have insurance so he doesn’t want to deal with the bill. But his speech is slurred.
I tell him I am taking him. He tells me that I am causing him more stress and he will NOT go. that I’m trying to kill him because I won’t listen. He says to take him home & that if I go to a hospital he will refuse treatment — that i’ll ‘look like a fool’ and he’ll uber home.
I don’t know what to do.
I am stopped at stop sign again and his heart rate goes up again. I say too bad, we are going. He then tells me he feels very strange. He can’t keep his thoughts — he thinks he is dying. I try to hold his hand. He tells me no.
He says he’s cold and dying. He says “it’s time…I want to go”. He says he needs to text his kids. I’m racing to the hospital. I try to talk to him and he tells me to STOP TALKING.
He’s leaning back & says he feels no pain. “death is close”. “I have peace. I want to go”
We get to the hospital. His BP is 235/130. I told the ER I felt he was having a heart attack or stroke. they test him. No heart attack. But high blood pressure. They did all the tests.
He then tells me “I saw heaven”. “they were waiting for me…I saw lots of people happy waiting for me. I died for a minute there”
He never lost consciousness. He never died (from what I can tell)
As we were driving home he said he would “laugh from heaven at how I dealt with having a dead body in the car —“ he imagined that I would be screaming & panicking and he would be laughing.
today, I told him I was sad about how all that unfolded. That he seemed to not care about me — & that the joke about the dead body in the car was hurtful. I tried to do the best I could to take care of him.
He said it was just a joke and I like to make everything about me.
He has told me all day he still doesn’t feel right. he says he has ‘felt in the air’ for a couple of weeks. He says he can’t explain it but he still has a sense of confusion. (obviously he is a drama king so it’s hard to determine what’s up)
I have noticed he’s just not right. He doesn’t seem right. He isn’t doing anything OUTRIGHT obviously wrong….but he just seems ‘lost’…as he puts it. He isn’t saying inaccurate things. I just don’t know what to think.
They put him on new BP meds (he’s on 2) and he took it tonight and it was still 202/105. HIGH.
What would you do… am I too close to this situation?
Thanks
finances are very bad & even dropped his health insurance. He also stopped taking his BP meds because of the expense.
He is trying hard to work out more to get it down, but it is still VERY high most days he takes it.
Commonly he claims having a heart attack. This weekend, we’re driving w/my child in backseat— & he tells me he’s sick. He stops & says he is very confused. His heart rate is 160 on watch.
I tell him to pull over so get him to a hospital. He says no. He fights me & I demand he pull over. He pulls into parking lot and keeps driving around. He’s still confused.
I tell him I’m taking him to a hospital. He said to take him to a good one. Then 5 minutes later he says he is fine. He says he doesn’t have insurance so he doesn’t want to deal with the bill. But his speech is slurred.
I tell him I am taking him. He tells me that I am causing him more stress and he will NOT go. that I’m trying to kill him because I won’t listen. He says to take him home & that if I go to a hospital he will refuse treatment — that i’ll ‘look like a fool’ and he’ll uber home.
I don’t know what to do.
I am stopped at stop sign again and his heart rate goes up again. I say too bad, we are going. He then tells me he feels very strange. He can’t keep his thoughts — he thinks he is dying. I try to hold his hand. He tells me no.
He says he’s cold and dying. He says “it’s time…I want to go”. He says he needs to text his kids. I’m racing to the hospital. I try to talk to him and he tells me to STOP TALKING.
He’s leaning back & says he feels no pain. “death is close”. “I have peace. I want to go”
We get to the hospital. His BP is 235/130. I told the ER I felt he was having a heart attack or stroke. they test him. No heart attack. But high blood pressure. They did all the tests.
He then tells me “I saw heaven”. “they were waiting for me…I saw lots of people happy waiting for me. I died for a minute there”
He never lost consciousness. He never died (from what I can tell)
As we were driving home he said he would “laugh from heaven at how I dealt with having a dead body in the car —“ he imagined that I would be screaming & panicking and he would be laughing.
today, I told him I was sad about how all that unfolded. That he seemed to not care about me — & that the joke about the dead body in the car was hurtful. I tried to do the best I could to take care of him.
He said it was just a joke and I like to make everything about me.
He has told me all day he still doesn’t feel right. he says he has ‘felt in the air’ for a couple of weeks. He says he can’t explain it but he still has a sense of confusion. (obviously he is a drama king so it’s hard to determine what’s up)
I have noticed he’s just not right. He doesn’t seem right. He isn’t doing anything OUTRIGHT obviously wrong….but he just seems ‘lost’…as he puts it. He isn’t saying inaccurate things. I just don’t know what to think.
They put him on new BP meds (he’s on 2) and he took it tonight and it was still 202/105. HIGH.
What would you do… am I too close to this situation?
Thanks
