I hate grief !!!!!!!!!!

[JRKH]

You’ll be amazed at how sudden and quick it will all seem, at the end. I was in that situation, too.

I was actually quite happy and relieved when my father died, because I knew he was in a safer, happier place - but man, do I ever miss him!

I had to deal with this with my parents. It was hard.

I think the hardest part was the relief I felt when Mom, then Dad, died. I was finally able to go to the store without a cell phone. My stomach didn’t flip when the phone rang. My family could actually go on vacation. It was a great relief. But how bad of a daughter must I be to be, well, relieved that my parents died??? That took a while to get over. My head understood, my heart not so much.

I think everyone needs to understand that everyone grieves. It is totally natural. And many times it begins before the family member dies. We also need to understand that if you don’t have enough support from your friends and family there are professionals that can help. There is no sin in asking for help.

Yea - I think that there is this weird sort of dynamic that goes on when wee know a loved one is dying. We do all that we can for them, and hopefully they are as ready as possible for their trip - sanctifies in the Sacraments of the Church. And we often times feel that we are ready for them to go. After all, we believe they will be in a better place.
But the when the thing actually occurs, we realize how “unready” we really are.
All the emotions, sorrow, relief, sadness, etc all come flooding out. Then we have to spend some time sorting these things out and getting use to this “new” reality…

For myself, I feel I have a pretty good handle on it. I have lots of good family support, hospice is involved and they are great, church is just around the corner…yep - I’m in as good a shape as I can be right now.
That said though is is good to be able to vent - so I’m glad that cmscms started this thread so we could all share with each other.

god bless you all

Peace
James