I hate society...

[coolduude]

… well besides hating society, I hate the occasions of sin it so easily places us in.

For example, I’m trying to stay as true as I can to my girlfriend, and in doing so I’m trying to not lust after other women, look at porn, etc.

So far I’m doing an ok job, I must admit.

But today I was looking on a ‘funny pictures’ website because I was bored and well… some pictures are just funny. Well this site had very, very questionable pictures and ads on the side (women flaunting themselves, exposing themselves though somewhat censored, etc.). This is all very disconcerting to me as I’m still trying to beat the habit of looking at porn and just other women in general.

It’s times like these that I get tempted to go back to my old ways (but something is barely holding me back).

Any thoughts? I kind of just needed to vent, but thoughts are appreciated too.

Coolduude

sorry if this is the wrong forum. I never quite know where to put posts like this.

 

[HeWillProvide]

Is having a small laugh worth risking falling back into your old behavior?
Avoid those websites completely.
Yes, completely.
And, society will always provide temptation - that will never change.
Never, ever.
So it’s up to us to maneuver around it.
And if we knowingly place ourselves in the midst of it, it’s no one’s fault but our own for succumbing to it.

 

[FightingFat]

Avoid those websites completely.
Yes, completely.
And, society will always provide temptation - that will never change.
Never, ever.
So it’s up to us to maneuver around it.
And if we knowingly place ourselves in the midst of it, it’s no one’s fault but our own for succumbing to it.

Top answer. Align yourself with God and turn away from the sin of this world, it’ll never make you happy!

 

[HickmanJosh]

… well besides hating society, I hate the occasions of sin it so easily places us in.

For example, I’m trying to stay as true as I can to my girlfriend, and in doing so I’m trying to not lust after other women, look at porn, etc.

So far I’m doing an ok job, I must admit.

But today I was looking on a ‘funny pictures’ website because I was bored and well… some pictures are just funny. Well this site had very, very questionable pictures and ads on the side (women flaunting themselves, exposing themselves though somewhat censored, etc.). This is all very disconcerting to me as I’m still trying to beat the habit of looking at porn and just other women in general.

It’s times like these that I get tempted to go back to my old ways (but something is barely holding me back).

Any thoughts? I kind of just needed to vent, but thoughts are appreciated too.

Coolduude

sorry if this is the wrong forum. I never quite know where to put posts like this.

Yeah, avoid thouse kinds of sites and pray for strength in combating this vice.

FightingFat:

it’ll never make you happy!

At least never to the degree that God can.

 

[coolduude]

Good advice, and I’ll take it

but now I feel like such a bad boyfriend. I feel like I betrayed both my girlfriend and God. It’s really making me depressed.

 

[Monica4316]

Turn to God’s mercy and rely on His strength… don’t be depressed, but hope in God. Temptation helps us understand our weakness. (as I just learned from St John Vianney )

 

[Shin]

Avoid those sites.

If you have FireFox the AdBlock plugin can be used to block ad sites and frames in webpages.

 

[FightingFat]

Good advice, and I’ll take it

but now I feel like such a bad boyfriend. I feel like I betrayed both my girlfriend and God. It’s really making me depressed.

Best way to deal with those feelings is confession!

 

[HickmanJosh]

Good advice, and I’ll take it

but now I feel like such a bad boyfriend. I feel like I betrayed both my girlfriend and God. It’s really making me depressed.

you see your mistake and you are sorry for it, is that so wrong?

 

[danonwaveland]

Find a nice picture of the Blessed Mother, print it out – maybe about 4" x 6" or so – and tape it near your computer monitor. You wouldn’t dare go to a questionable site with your mom looking, would you? (Although you should ask her help when the flesh is weak.)

God bless,
Dan

 

[Darren69]

Everyone faces such temptations everyday. It’s when we act on the temptations that we are turning against God. I think it is great that you are concerned about looking at the ads etc, to me it says you have strong faith and good intentions. Pray to God and ask for continued strength to remain loyal. If you have doubts as to whether you can remain loyal, then maybe you need to ask of God is there any other reason you are finding this personally challenging.

I admire your honest approach.

Cheers Darren.

 

[Bob_Crowley]

… well besides hating society, I hate the occasions of sin it so easily places us in.

For example, I’m trying to stay as true as I can to my girlfriend, and in doing so I’m trying to not lust after other women, look at porn, etc.

So far I’m doing an ok job, I must admit.

But today I was looking on a ‘funny pictures’ website because I was bored and well… some pictures are just funny. Well this site had very, very questionable pictures and ads on the side (women flaunting themselves, exposing themselves though somewhat censored, etc.). This is all very disconcerting to me as I’m still trying to beat the habit of looking at porn and just other women in general.

It’s times like these that I get tempted to go back to my old ways (but something is barely holding me back).

Any thoughts? I kind of just needed to vent, but thoughts are appreciated too.

Coolduude

sorry if this is the wrong forum. I never quite know where to put posts like this.

We live in a society where such temptations are easy to come by, particularly with the privacy of the internet, where you can access so much stuff from your own room.

I’m also not sure how long you’ve been Catholic, or Chrisitan, or how long it is since you started taking your faith seriously, but in the early stages God seems to make such temptations easy to resist. But after a while He seems to want us to stand on our own two feet.

So the old temptations start coming back again.

You’ll be tempted. There’s no doubt about it. But you’re not the only one.

Now society won’t change, so you have to. Sure from time to time civilisations may go through a “puritan” stage, when sexual temptations may be less obvious or easier to resist. However there is usually some other less obvious social sin in its place. The prim, proper Victorian times were followed by World War I, due in no small part to nationalistic pride.

So just hang in there, go to confession, and if you do “fall”, pick yourself up and start again. Tomorrow is another day.