I hate when people ask me if I'm OK

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That’s probably true, although the OP indicated that in most cases, she is perfectly fine. So, taking her at her word, one has to assume that her body language or facial expressions are communicating an unintended sense of discomfort.
 
I feel like I was asked this several times a day every day in junior high. It really must have been due to the faces I was making. I wasn’t mad, just confused about why this kept happening. My face must have improved, because I’m rarely asked. For a while I almost missed it.
 
Oh goodness just the title makes me think…I’ve tried to cultivate one of those! It reminds me of having random dudes tell me I’d be prettier if I smiled or something.
 
I don’t have that problem. I’ve never been told that I have a resting b**** face. Quite the opposite actually- I’ve been told that I’m always smiling. I’m just talking about the few times that I’m not in a good mood and can’t hide it and then set questioned about it and how this frustrates me that the few times I’m not my usual, smiley self I have people ask me about it, which in turn makes me feel worse and more self-conscious.
 
It’s not a real thing. It’s just a parody to lighten the mood. I think it’s just when someone is deep in thought, they aren’t always cognizant of their facial expressions and if they happen to be thinking of something annoying or irritating, they make other people think they are annoyed at them when they really aren’t, or at the very least, that they aren’t paying attention to what the other person is saying. (which might well be the case!) Like I said before, there’s lots of appropriate responses. “I’m fine.” “I was just thinking.” “Sorry. I was distracted by something.” However, if this is something that happens to you a lot (like more than once or twice a week) you might want to try to be more aware about it, particularly if you are at work and you know you are in a bad mood, because most people aren’t actually going to say anything to you about it, but that doesn’t mean they don’t notice it and it doesn’t effect how they perceive their interaction with you.
 
PS- If someone actually came and told you that you had resting b&#*$ face, I would recommend taking their advice on appropriate social interaction with a grain of salt!
 
I’ve always felt like there’s a reasonable middle ground between having a Cheshire cat grin and a perpetual scowl. I’ve had interactions with people (mostly in the service industry) on occasion where I had to say, “Hey, have I done something to offend you?” because they were “mean mugging” me to the extent I was worried they were going to spit in my coffee or something. I think we do have somewhat of a moral obligation to not intentionally go around making people feel like dirt. Sometimes when people don’t feel well or are upset over something they might not come into the room like they’re a Mousekateer, but when people are making eye-contact with others they should at least not be glaring and scowling at them.
 
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which in turn makes me feel worse and more self-conscious.
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I understand that you don’t have a serious problem with this but some people do. When I was young I was extremely self conscious to the point of being virtually paralysed and mute even with cousins and uncles etc that I was unfamiliar with. It ruined my education and my young adult life. As I aged I gained experience which led me to learn that my fear of rejection was unfounded, but it took long and painful years before I overcame it. I do have flaws in my appearance but anecdotally I find that most people become less self conscious as they get older. Why? Did everyone change how they thought about me? I don’t expect so in fact I may look even less attractive and acceptable now than I did when I was young, I changed what I thought about me, I accepted my perception of myself and all that pain eventually disappeared.
These days I try to remember to concern myself with Our Heavenly Father and fidelity to Him, I look outside of myself. As long as I’m clean, tidy and presentable I ignore the rest.
 
I would assume “this person cares about me”.

If I do not want to give details, I would answer “You know, I could use your prayers these days. Thank you for asking.”
 
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