I have a question

[Gisella]

No, it means that he cannot climax that way. Foreplay is OK.

Oral sex on a female is no more or less sanitary than on a man. I used to feel the same way you do. It was a product of my youth and inexperience. Some people never get to the point where they want to do that… some do. It’s a matter of preference, but it should be discussed before you marry. Any sex act that you are completely opposed to and WILL NOT do, he has a right to know that before he commits his entire sexual life (along with the rest of it) to you.

Probably no one would marry me. lol

 

[newbetx]

The reason I posted this question was because an RCIA student that I know is engaged and has become quite depressed because at one of the RCIA classes she got the idea that sex is allowed only for procreation - that’s why it is reserved for married couples. She has said she doesn’t want to deny her husband after the wedding, but she hates feeling like it is “just a duty” not to be enjoyed. I am trying to put her mind at ease, and she reads the forums too.

Please, please, please. Read for yourself. Or have her and her fiance read.

The awfullest thing I can imagine is feeling it’s just a duty. I’ve recommended Christopher West’s “The Good News About Sex and Marriage” many times as have other posters. In fact, the engaged couples get a copy at my parish when they first meet with the preist! Highly recommended to clear up any misunderstandings about the Church teaching and a good starting point to discuss the role sex has in a person’s marriage.