I have just messed up everything

[frank2127]

Let me start by saying I am the biggest of all sinners.

Will I be forgiven if I confess or have confessed to the following.

1. I am divorced , My first marriage was on good friday. In a baptist church .
2. I joined the Baptist church because of my ex -wife , Even though I was Baptized a Catholic , I still went into their " dunk tank" and was re-baptized.
3. My marriage ended because I commited adultery .
   I believe I have confessed to a priest who was not of a church I atteneded I was visiting my father and went to the closest catholic church to confess.
4. The last two years I have gone through some form of personal purgatory and hell . Will I ever be forgiven? Will this madness ever stop ?

Perhaps I am being far to hard on myself . THough I feel myself finally at 33 going back to my faith . There has been sin the last two years and I am confessing them as much as I can. Will the anger ever stop? I confessed on this past good friday , My anger issues and guilt issues. Should I just move on ? On start anew since I have been forgiven by the priest ? Is this the point where I begin ?

 

[jmcrae]

You made a good Confession. You have received the Absolution.

All that remains is to get to Mass today, and receive the Holy Eucharist.

Don’t forget to come to Mass every Sunday from now on, and to go to Confession whenever you feel the need.

Welcome back!!

 

[frank2127]

I went to the 730 AM mass today. I listen for messages and recieved them. I then recieved communion.

My question is , I confessed this past friday on my anger issues and my guilt issues. I was forgiven by the priest. Is this where I start anew and leave my sins behind me ?

 

[Jedinovice]

“I have not come to call the righteous but sinners.”

Paul killed Christians.
Peter betrayed Christ.
David who was called ‘friend of God’ committed murder and adultery and did not even have the guts to put the knife in physically.

None of the disciples could stay awake an hour with Christ in his need.

You are in the best of company. You have confessed, you have received absolution. Now go in peace. Your faith has saved you. Let the Holy Spirit now work in you, especially through the Mass and private prayer in working through the pain.

If you feel you don’t deserve forgivessness, you don’t! But it is given from grace and love. So you now forgive those hurt you and do not deserve forgiveness.

Go in peace.
Freely give forgiveness yourself.
Hey, this is what makes Christianity! This is what it is about - forgiveness to those who repent!

 

[jmcrae]

I went to the 730 AM mass today. I listen for messages and recieved them. I then recieved communion.

My question is , I confessed this past friday on my anger issues and my guilt issues. I was forgiven by the priest. Is this where I start anew and leave my sins behind me ?

Absolutely, yes!! (No pun intended.)

Yes, this is where you start over again.

Now, because history itself cannot be erased, there are certain things that you will not be able to do in the future.

For example, unless you receive a Declaration of Nullity for the marriage that you are now divorced from, you won’t be able to get married again. (This would be something to look into at your earliest convenience, if you are thinking you might want to remarry at some point in the future - it’s better not to wait until there’s a girl whose future depends on the outcome, because although they seem to be granted almost automatically in some cases, it’s not true that all cases are granted - some are, in fact, refused. Not many - but you would hate to be “the one” if there were a girl in the picture already.) And of course you are still responsible for the care and upbringing of any children from your prior marriage who are still in need of it.

But, for the rest, yes - you are free and clear to start over again.

 

[Jedinovice]

I went to the 730 AM mass today. I listen for messages and recieved them. I then recieved communion.

My question is , I confessed this past friday on my anger issues and my guilt issues. I was forgiven by the priest. Is this where I start anew and leave my sins behind me ?

Yup! Your feelings may take some time to re-align but that’s normal.

Learn, love, forgive! As you have received so you must give. Let the past go but live humbly in the shadow of forgiveness and be quick to give as you have received.

 

[frank2127]

My marriage was never excepted by the catholic church. So what do I do now? I am dating someone , we have talked marriage but there is no date or even engament. Should I go and ask the priest ? Send an email to my local diosese ?

 

[kangnamdragon]

Let me start by saying I am the biggest of all sinners.

Will I be forgiven if I confess or have confessed to the following.

1. I am divorced , My first marriage was on good friday. In a baptist church .
2. I joined the Baptist church because of my ex -wife , Even though I was Baptized a Catholic , I still went into their " dunk tank" and was re-baptized.
3. My marriage ended because I commited adultery .
   I believe I have confessed to a priest who was not of a church I atteneded I was visiting my father and went to the closest catholic church to confess.
4. The last two years I have gone through some form of personal purgatory and hell . Will I ever be forgiven? Will this madness ever stop ?

Perhaps I am being far to hard on myself . THough I feel myself finally at 33 going back to my faith . There has been sin the last two years and I am confessing them as much as I can. Will the anger ever stop? I confessed on this past good friday , My anger issues and guilt issues. Should I just move on ? On start anew since I have been forgiven by the priest ? Is this the point where I begin ?

God forgives everything you are sorry for. His mercy is infinite. Talk to a priest and make a good confession. Tell the priest you are having a hard time accepting the mercy. Also, looking into Divine Mercy Sunday which is next week. Read about His mercy. His love is infinite, so of course He can forgive anything.

 

[lsusportsfan]

Perhaps I am being far to hard on myself . THough I feel myself finally at 33 going back to my faith . There has been sin the last two years and I am confessing them as much as I can. Will the anger ever stop? I confessed on this past good friday , My anger issues and guilt issues. Should I just move on ? On start anew since I have been forgiven by the priest ? Is this the point where I begin ?

Yes Move on!!! I am a divorced guy myself. That marriage too “failed” because in part of what I did. I dodnt want a divorce but oh well.

I remember in a movie a great Line. I think it is Shawshank Redemption. THe Guy says well we better get on living , or get bsuy dying. That is line always struck me because it is so Catholic. Time to get on living.

Your sins are great but so are everyone elses. People go to communion and take their Lord’s Body and Blood while they are state of Mortal Sin. Heck I have done that and confessed it. Were your Sins any worse than that!!!

Start anew. Do what I shall be doing and attend Divine MErcy Sunday and get all the Graces one can get through that. I spent two years thinking my life was over at 34 if you can belive that. Well, all that got me in was more sin.

It is a brand new Day for you

 

[Jedinovice]

My marriage was never excepted by the catholic church. So what do I do now? I am dating someone , we have talked marriage but there is no date or even engament. Should I go and ask the priest ? Send an email to my local diosese ?

I’m confused. I’m not sure what youre referring to in terms of marriage. If your first marriage was not accepted as sacramental by the Catholic Church then you should be OK to remarry. It sounds like it from what you say. But, yes, you have to talk to your priest. That’s what he is there for!

Also, talking toi your priest is only going to set your mind at rest. Set a date and go and see him and talk things out.

 

[Prayer_Warrior]

I went to the 730 AM mass today. I listen for messages and recieved them. I then recieved communion.

My question is , I confessed this past friday on my anger issues and my guilt issues. I was forgiven by the priest. Is this where I start anew and leave my sins behind me ?

Yep, part of of the Sacrament of Penance is the Penitant committing to turning their back on sin. Obviously, we are all sinners and continue to sin, even though resolve not to, but we have to commit to trying not to sin.

I see a bit of a trust issue with what you have said. You must trust the Lord’s Mercy. He will forgive you if you repent what you have done. It sounds like you have. Now, you have to believe that you are forgiven and move on. We all hope we can learn our lessons from our mistakes… think about what you have learned from yours without hanging on to the guilt. Does that make sense?

You are not alone in messing everything up. We have all made mistakes that are “whoppers”. I committed a sin and out of shame did not go to confession for 5 years and did not go to Church. All because I did not trust the Lord’s mercy and forgiveness. It was only when He (figuratively) blasted an airhorn in my ear and got my attention that I finally faced the confessional. I walked out of there feeling like a ton of bricks had been lifted from my shoulders. I had been carrying guilt for so long.

By the way, I don’t know if you have thought of this but you should work on an annulment. Even if you do not want to remarry. If you have not done this you are still married, in the eyes of the Church.

 

[frank2127]

Yes I am saying my first marriage was not blessed and I was married in a baptist church , I got divorced . I know it will be ok to get married. Though my current girlfriend is not catholic, Though she is open to getting the marriage blessed by the church . I have not even got engaged or anything. I WILL just talk to a priest about it…

 

[jmcrae]

My marriage was never excepted by the catholic church. So what do I do now? I am dating someone , we have talked marriage but there is no date or even engament. Should I go and ask the priest ? Send an email to my local diosese ?

Talk to your priest (get a private appointment), and he’ll tell you the steps that you need to do, who you need to talk to, and all of that.

 

[Jedinovice]

Yes I am saying my first marriage was not blessed and I was married in a baptist church , I got divorced . I know it will be ok to get married. Though my current girlfriend is not catholic, Though she is open to getting the marriage blessed by the church . I have not even got engaged or anything. I WILL just talk to a priest about it…

Smart.

You’ll be fine, I’m sure.
Well done for wanting to do the right thing. Stick at it. God bless.

 

[jmcrae]

I’m confused. I’m not sure what youre referring to in terms of marriage. If your first marriage was not accepted as sacramental by the Catholic Church then you should be OK to remarry.

Keep in mind that this is never just automatic. He still has to have the piece of paper that says there was never a marriage there. (The Declaration of Nullity.)

Until the Marriage Tribunal has actually given its ruling, it’s best not to assume anything about which way they will go.

 

[LeahInancsi]

I’m sure someone will correct me if I’m wrong, but if you were married in a Baptist church to a baptized Christian, the Catholic church recognizes your marriage and you will need to get an annullment before you remarry in order to stay in union with the Catholic church.

Before you act on anything you hear in this forum, you need to speak to a priest about your situation ASAP.

 

[frank2127]

I have already sent an email to my local Catholic church about a meeting . I have to wait on a response is all. I will bring this up.

 

[SeekerJen]

I have already sent an email to my local Catholic church about a meeting . I have to wait on a response is all. I will bring this up.

That’s good. I hope the priest will be able to give you the answers you need.

Welcome back and Happy Easter!

 

[Grace_Angel]

Let me start by saying I am the biggest of all sinners.

Will I be forgiven if I confess or have confessed to the following.

1. I am divorced , My first marriage was on good friday. In a baptist church .
2. I joined the Baptist church because of my ex -wife , Even though I was Baptized a Catholic , I still went into their " dunk tank" and was re-baptized.
3. My marriage ended because I commited adultery .
   I believe I have confessed to a priest who was not of a church I atteneded I was visiting my father and went to the closest catholic church to confess.
4. The last two years I have gone through some form of personal purgatory and hell . Will I ever be forgiven? Will this madness ever stop ?

Perhaps I am being far to hard on myself . THough I feel myself finally at 33 going back to my faith . There has been sin the last two years and I am confessing them as much as I can. Will the anger ever stop? I confessed on this past good friday , My anger issues and guilt issues. Should I just move on ? On start anew since I have been forgiven by the priest ? Is this the point where I begin ?

Hello Frank,
There are many questions you ask but the important one “are my sins forgiven?” those which you confessed have been forgiven. Perhaps there are other issues which you are not confessing.
Your anger is probably related to the “other” issues.
With much respect I ask “why are you sabotaging your life?” because just from what you have written it sounds like sabotage.
Frank just take time out, and begin to slowly reflect on what has happened and what is happening. Pray, go to Mass, ask all of us posters to pray for you and seek peace. Through this chaos of thought you cannot sort through the issues which are causing you anguish.
My suspicion is that you feel guilty that you listened to anothr shepherd (Baptist teaching) and then that other shepherd betrayed you. It is “guilt” which makes us not believe our forgiveness in the sacrament of confession.
You need to understand that your sin is NOT greater than the love of Jesus for you in His sacrifice on Calvary. Remember three days ago He died for you and Sunday He rose for you.
Just say thank you Lord and sorry for my doubting of your love and Mercy.
God Bless you Frank.
Grace Angel.

 

[hosemonkey]

Hello Frank,
There are many questions you ask but the important one “are my sins forgiven?” those which you confessed have been forgiven. Perhaps there are other issues which you are not confessing.
Your anger is probably related to the “other” issues.
With much respect I ask “why are you sabotaging your life?” because just from what you have written it sounds like sabotage.
Frank just take time out, and begin to slowly reflect on what has happened and what is happening. Pray, go to Mass, ask all of us posters to pray for you and seek peace. Through this chaos of thought you cannot sort through the issues which are causing you anguish.
My suspicion is that you feel guilty that you listened to anothr shepherd (Baptist teaching) and then that other shepherd betrayed you. It is “guilt” which makes us not believe our forgiveness in the sacrament of confession.
You need to understand that your sin is NOT greater than the love of Jesus for you in His sacrifice on Calvary. Remember three days ago He died for you and Sunday He rose for you.
Just say thank you Lord and sorry for my doubting of your love and Mercy.
God Bless you Frank.
Grace Angel.

Grace Angel is right on. I would give just one more piece of advice. Take your time. Begining a new relationship before you have put the previous one, with all it’s hurts and emotional baggage to rest is a recipe for failure. Time will give you the opportunity to regain your spiritual and emotional balance. Time will convict you of your Lord’s forgiveness and mercy. Go to Mass regularly, go to confession often. If your new partner is wise, she will give you the space and time that you need to resolve these things. I strongly advise you to approach the marriage tribunal. If your marriage is as you say, you may very well have a favorable case. At any rate, the annulment process is one of discernment and healing. Our prayers are with you.