The weird irony of the Catholic Answers Forum is that the most crap I ever caught over how to do my job was from Catholics on a Catholic internet forum. It’s one thing if it’s your parishioners who see you on a weekly basis. It’s another thing if it’s strangers from a few time zones away opining about “how it ought to be.”
I get it, I used to be like that. When I was about 19, the age at which you knew everything, I had a pretty clear vision of what it was going to look like when I got to the priesthood, how I would do everything, how I would say Mass and administer the sacraments. When I actually got there and got some “combat experience” so to speak, I figured out that I was right about 20% of what I had projected was “how to be a priest,” 20% had to be modified extensively (people fail to realize how flexible the Church has always allowed the clergy to be when it comes to certain liturgical and canonical realities; the principle of charity seems not to ever find a hearing on internet forums), and the other 60% of what I projected was just completely wrong.
I should add, I’m what you might consider more “conservative” when it comes to liturgical preferences and how I govern my parish. I’m certainly theologically “conservative.” I hate using those political designations, but that’s what connects these days, unfortunately. I’m not one who’s opposed to rules and law and whatnot, I think they’re necessary, and not even all that difficult to follow most of the time, much as people will throw a tantrum about having to have godparents who actually practice the faith and other such things. But I also recognize that rigidity does not equal piety, and rigorism does not equal holiness.