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[JesusSaves17]

I would say I’m a pretty scrupulous person, can someone please help me on an internal struggle I’m having about mortal sin. Sunday, I was playing cards with some buddies and having terrible luck all day. I lost my last hand (with 3 jacks) and got up and left. As I walked out, my non-Catholic friend said “how was Church this morning?” I immediately replied “Sucked” as I was in a very bad mood and not wanting to be talked to. Then I said “Obviously it didn’t help me in poker today.” And I left. Immediately I regretted what I had said. I had just been to confession the day before and already I started thinking “here we go, another mortal sin.” I come home and do a little research and I can’t decide if this is blasphemy or just a venial sin. Someone, anyone, PLEASE tell me what you think. I seem to go through this every week where I go to confession and then after committing what most people consider venial sins, feel I’m in mortal sin and want to go to confession “to be safe.”

 

[Test_Tube]

In all seriousness, you might just be over-scrupulous. Everyone says things they don’t mean. You’re sorry, which is fine. “Today is the first day of the rest of your days, so lighten up squirt.”

 

[JesusSaves17]

thanks TestTube, appreciate the reply.

 

[parvenu74]

I would say I’m a pretty scrupulous person, can someone please help me on an internal struggle I’m having about mortal sin.

I don’t need to read any more in order to tell you this: if you’re scrupulous then you need to seek out an experienced priest who can guide a scrupulous soul. Asking a bunch of arm-chair moral theologians for advice is a spiritual death-wish. We here on the forums can pray for you – and I’m adding you to my Rosary intentions – but that’s about all we can do. You wouldn’t call a plumber if you needed brain surgery; please apply the same diligence to your immortal soul. Our prayers are with you.

 

[BeeSweet]

You need to have more forethought than you describe for a sin to qualify as mortal. You have to be intentionally offensive to God. What you described was just a circumstance in which you didn’t react appropriately. This is the sort of thing I think is taken care of by a blessing with Holy Water and reciting the Confiteor and an Act of Contrition. Follow up with a Spiritual Communion. In other words, pray! Honestly, a mortal sin really needs to be very deliberate, you know when you’ve done it. I don’t think your intention was mortal, it sounds much more like venial sin to me.

Don’t forget to trust in the Lord’s mercy. Pray the Divine Mercy chaplet, it may help with your scrupulosity.

Check out Scrupulous Anonymous.

 

[Spirithound]

As I walked out, my non-Catholic friend said “how was Church this morning?” I immediately replied “Sucked” as I was in a very bad mood and not wanting to be talked to. Then I said “Obviously it didn’t help me in poker today.”
I come home and do a little research and I can’t decide if this is blasphemy or just a venial sin.

A mortal sin requires a grave matter, full knowledge, and full consent. Since this is a spur of the moment sin, you cannot have fully consented to it. Leave it till your next regularly-scheduled confession.

 

[JesusSaves17]

I don’t need to read any more in order to tell you this: if you’re scrupulous then you need to seek out an experienced priest who can guide a scrupulous soul. Asking a bunch of arm-chair moral theologians for advice is a spiritual death-wish. We here on the forums can pray for you – and I’m adding you to my Rosary intentions – but that’s about all we can do. You wouldn’t call a plumber if you needed brain surgery; please apply the same diligence to your immortal soul. Our prayers are with you.

I realized that before I posted that I wouldn’t be getting the same advice as I would from a priest. It just helps though to at least “put out feelers”, you know? I’ll keep praying about it. Thanks for the replies everyone. I’ll pray for you all.

 

[parvenu74]

I realized that before I posted that I wouldn’t be getting the same advice as I would from a priest. It just helps though to at least “put out feelers”, you know?

I understand, but if you’re really scrupulous, all we can do is confuse you with the different advice you would get from a priest – and that’s counter-productive for the scrupulous. It’s precisely out of concern for your soul, and my sincere desire to see you in heaven, that I’m suggesting that maybe you shouldn’t be asking for advice from the egalitarian masses if your specific challenge includes scrupulosity.

 

[JesusSaves17]

well I’m not like diagnosed or anything like that, I have done a lot of research on the scrupulous and I’m nothing like what the really serious condition sounds like. I think, if anything, I’m just a very conservative Catholic who aims to please the Lord and avoid all sin, not just mortal. I think that’s why I feel so guilty about venial sins.

 

[puzzleannie]

I I started thinking “here we go, another mortal sin.” I e."

did you deliberately plan and carry out an action that was gravely wrong, with intent to commit a grave evil, with full knowledge of its gravity, in defiance of a commandment against that action? If not, you did not commit a mortal sin. If you had to look it up to find out if it was even wrong, obviously you did not have full knowledge. Every careless action, even if harmful, is not necessarily sinful, although they could be warning signs of bad habits that need to be controlled.