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Ever since Ive started being serious about becoming a Roman Catholic in full communion with the church…I have had periods of time…sometimes lasting hours or days, where I absolutely tell myself I am never going again…and sometimes it involves a deep hatred for our priest, sometimes paranoia…although thats not as bad since receiving 1st holy communion back a few mons ago.
THere is never a good reason for it and although I am not harming anyone…I just need to understand it…
Has anyone out there ever experiences this…
I feel it is a sin to feel this way…but I never bring it up in confession because it truly doesnt represent who I am and its always short lived. Also I dont want my priest knowing this stuff as it involves him.
any advice, or suggestions?
 
It sounds like you are under spiritual attack from the Enemy. It is not uncommon for new converts to expirence this, it is their last chance to change your mind and get you back on the wrong side. You should pray, pray, pray, especially the rosary and to the Archangel Michael who protects us from evil. Never stop attending Mass and receiving Communion.
 
Ever since Ive started being serious about becoming a Roman Catholic in full communion with the church…I have had periods of time…sometimes lasting hours or days, where I absolutely tell myself I am never going again…and sometimes it involves a deep hatred for our priest, sometimes paranoia…although thats not as bad since receiving 1st holy communion back a few mons ago.
THere is never a good reason for it and although I am not harming anyone…I just need to understand it…
Has anyone out there ever experiences this…
I feel it is a sin to feel this way…but I never bring it up in confession because it truly doesnt represent who I am and its always short lived. Also I dont want my priest knowing this stuff as it involves him.
any advice, or suggestions?
The thoughts are not sinful if you do not desire them and they pop into your head. If you nourish them, however, then they can be sinful. It is not unusual for people to have unwanted and even blasphemous thoughts pop into their heads–this has been discussed on these forums many times. It sounds like you are under a spiritual attack because you are drawing close to Christ. I have had unwanted thoughts pop into my mind and recognize them for what they are–an attempt from the enemy to draw me away from Christ. At times it can be a struggle, esp. if you are a new convert or have recently re-committed your life to Christ. When I had a conversion experience (after being a nominal Catholic for years) the spiritual struggle I went through was pretty intense, and I did not expect it, nor did I understand it, but I felt like there was a battle for my soul (which there was). So you are not alone in this.

I have found that the prayer to St. Michael the Archangel is helpful in dispelling these unwanted thoughts. Also the Jesus Prayer and the Hail Mary (Satan absolutely cannot tolerate the Mother of God).
 
I have had this and seem to be going through a mild spell again now.

I have had Sundays where the thought of going to Mass is repulsive! And I am a life-long practicing Catholic.

And as I think back, these times do sometimes come when I am working particularly hard at my faith.

Spiritual attack is a reality. Get yourself some holy water and blessed salt. Attend Mass as often as you can and avail yourself of the sacraments…particularly Confession and the Eucharist.

They’ll get you through. The help of a good Saint (St. Teresa of Avila is my go-to) is wonderful. You might also consider enlisting the help of a spiritual advisor/director.
 
It sounds like what your describing is a series of “Dark Night of the Soul” type of moments. ANd it is actually very common for converts to experience this. Its nothing to worry about. Its sort of just that youre having a hard time taking the ‘leap of faith’. It will pass in time. But between now and then, just keeep going to Mass, Confession, Eucharist, say the Rosary a little more, just whatever you can think of. As they say,…“an idle mind is devil’s playground”. So just make sure youre staying on top of things, and brush up on your faith and what not.

Also a good saint to pray to would be St. Therese of Liseux. She had a similar experience towards the end of her life. Throughout her life however, she often had a childs approach to religion. That is she kinda took things at face value. Much like children at CCD. Many of them dont really question things, at least not as much as us adults. Maybe just try doing that. But definitely look her up, she was/is a pretty cool saint. St. Therese of Liseux

anyway, Ive rambled enough. I hope everything works out for you. 😉
 
You don’t get it? Well, get it.

No,seriously…one suggestion for you is to find a Catholic author that you favor and who “speaks” to you. Get some books from this author and immerse yourself in the reading.

I’m Catholic but I’ve been reading Jewish commentaries for two years, now. The commentaries from the Jewish Publication Society are kind of expensive, but you can really get immersed in a 500+ page commentary on Genesis for example.

Or, you might look at Dr. Scott Hahn or Mike Aquilina or Mark Shea. Dr. Tim Gray is a favorite scripture scholar of mine. I especially liked his fast-moving commentary on Exodus that ran on EWTN a couple years ago.

We are immersed in an anti-Catholic and anti-Religion culture. All the advertising is set up to lure us away and to even change our values and thinking.

I was watching an NFL game this past Sunday, and there was an ad for the upcoming playoffs. There was a video of a roomful of screaming men and women, acting out about what they were watching on a wide-screen TV (a football game). The announcer’s voice said, This is what it’s all about. Well, quite frankly, no it’s not. But, it’s what they WANT you to think.

Then there was an ad for a well-known pizza chain showing a man and a boy eating pizza which was a specialty product with cheese baked in the crust. The man is saying, this is the best day of my life, as he took a bite of the pizza. Well, who knows if that was that man’s best day of his life, but I can’t believe it had anything to do with a pizza.

I’m not into music and I will turn the TV off to turn my attention to a good book – usually a scripture commentary or the Bible itself or a book on spirituality.

Pope Benedict XVI wrote a book called Jesus of Nazareth. It’s a pretty good book, very impressive, but the ideas are not always elementay concepts, such as when he’s talking about how some people incorrectly interpret the Bible.

I understand he has written to more books on this subject, which makes them a short series of top quality books.

If reading doesn’t put you to sleep, there’s a lot of good stuff out there to read and keep your mind busy.

The Mass is a very beautiful, ancient liturgy of the Church. All of its parts are very meaningful, even when you experience them over and over.

It may be good to stay away from controversy, as you might find even here in this website.

Depending on your situation, you might try volunteering for some activity at your parish, such as the worship committee, if you like meetings and working, for example.

I started a thread in the spirituality forum a couple days ago about a Jewish book called Twerski on Spirituality. There’s a lot of good advice for any Jew or Christian about persistence in pursuing one’s own spirituality, which is defined simply as our relationship to God. Twerski emphasizes that spirituality is a matter of TODAY, not tomorrow, not next Sunday or next year. That’s tremendously practical advice to focus on today, because that is all we have is today.

You are responsible for using your God-given faculty of wisdom to develop your relationship with God. Part of Twerski’s advice is to develop your self-esteem and realize your dignity and purpose in life using your free will and the abilities that God has given to you.

You don’t necessarily have to go anyplace, buy anything, etc. unless it supports this goal of your life to develop your spirituality. Jews are fundamentally committed to life-long study of the Torah (God’s instruction – first five books of the Bible, plus all their hundreds of years of commentary on the Bible) – anything else in their life is supposed to be secondary.

He tells the story of a Jewish couple who owned a grocery story. They only worked so long until they earn enough money to support themselves for a day, and then they close, to study the Torah.

He’s not only a rabbi, himself, but he is practicing psychiatrist. He notes that a lot of people react to religion from a compliance standpoint, which is dry and artificial. The real mindset to develop is that you enjoy studying God’s word and doing His commands.

When you start out playing basketball, you might be clumsey and unskillful. But, in time, you hone your skills and it becomes enjoyable. That may be your next goal, to develop yourself so that your faith is enjoyable. You become skilled in it. And, you have the humble satisfaction of pleasing God and improving your relationship with Him.
 
I encountered a lot of interior opposition in the period preceding my period of temporary profession as a lay Dominican. I found myself fantasizing about ways to get out of the Order, get out of my promises and alienate the members of my chapter into the bargain, as vengeance for annoyances, real or imagined, that I had suffered at their hands. The fact that what I was contemplating would have been the height of ingratitude toward people who had been so good to me made me realize that these were temptations. Then, in the weeks preceding the date fixed for my perpetual profession, the temptations were compounded by a series of physical ailments, not life-threatening, but some of them quite painful. I went ahead and made my perpetual profession anyway.

Sometimes the members of my chapter still irritate me; but then, a real family can be irritating at times. No doubt I do more than my fair share of being irritating in my own turn.
 
It sounds like you are under spiritual attack from the Enemy. It is not uncommon for new converts to expirence this, it is their last chance to change your mind and get you back on the wrong side. You should pray, pray, pray, especially the rosary and to the Archangel Michael who protects us from evil. Never stop attending Mass and receiving Communion.
Nicely said. I concur.👍
May the Holy Spirit guide you.
 
Ever since Ive started being serious about becoming a Roman Catholic in full communion with the church…I have had periods of time…sometimes lasting hours or days, where I absolutely tell myself I am never going again…and sometimes it involves a deep hatred for our priest, sometimes paranoia…although thats not as bad since receiving 1st holy communion back a few mons ago.
THere is never a good reason for it and although I am not harming anyone…I just need to understand it…
Has anyone out there ever experiences this…
I feel it is a sin to feel this way…but I never bring it up in confession because it truly doesnt represent who I am and its always short lived. Also I dont want my priest knowing this stuff as it involves him.
any advice, or suggestions?
It sounds like a type of temptation… I’ve had something similar happen to me. I think you should bring it up in Confession, because withholding sins in Confession could make the absolution invalid. When you feel this hatred or paranoia, do you ever dwell on it, or do you instantly and completely reject it? If you choose to dwell on it even for a very short period of time, and even if it doesn’t represent you, that is still a sinful choice. The reason it doesn’t represent you is possibly because these thoughts are not coming from you…so them entering your mind is not your fault. But what you do with them, determines if they are sinful or not. If you completely reject them right when they come up, without entertaining these thoughts at all, then it’s just a temptation, but I’d mention it in Confession anyway because confessing temptations helps us to fight them. If you don’t outright reject it, or if you dwell on it, then it’s a sin.

If you’re worried, you can tell to your priest, you don’t know why you’re feeling this way and it doesn’t represent your actual thoughts on the Church, and that it tends to come and go. I’ve said similar things in Confession and the priest was always understanding/helpful. If you don’t want to tell the priest that it concerns him, (understandable), maybe you could go to another parish and confess there? You could say these feelings/thoughts concern the Church and your parish and a priest you know.

God bless
 
Thanks to all…I suspected it was a spiritual attack…but lately it has been going well…
I am getting more involved in parish life and this seems to help. I have managed to talk myself into going to church even when I have told myself Im never going again.

Peace
 
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