I like to Judge

[pwlj_christ87]

Ok, im going to try to keep this as short and simple for the time being as I need to get some rest however, my thing is, I like to judge people and I dont know why. I think that when you are a practicing catholic and you know your in the right with God, and that you observe and keep his commandments, have good moral stature and make right decisions, that you come across people that dont look to be the same or doing the same and I seem to judge them to a certain degree.

Sometimes, it drives me. Sometimes when I hear someone talk and such, i get the impression there not a good tree. Is this the right thing here? is this God giving me the discerning skills that he wants, that i prayed for?

I mean surely, going through life as a Christian, there are alot of non-christians, and those that are enemies to God, I feel that if i put on an approach where “every body is good”, than I deceive myself in thinking everyone is saved and thus theres no point to my good works, church attendance, and prayer.

On the other hand, if I judge everyone critically I seem to eat away at myself and I get guilty for not bieng a good person as well, nor a good christian.

And this is the very troublesome dilemma I have here living in North America where I am trying to discern people, love them, and also not judge them wronglly, yet I do want a moral and religious compass and guildeline so I dont injure myself, nor fall into a trap or snare…

 

[Art321]

Ok, im going to try to keep this as short and simple for the time being as I need to get some rest however, my thing is, I like to judge people and I dont know why. **I think that when you are a practicing catholic and you know your in the right with God, and that you observe and keep his commandments, have good moral stature and make right decisions, that you come across people that dont look to be the same or doing the same and I seem to judge them to a certain degree. **

Sometimes, it drives me. Sometimes when I hear someone talk and such, i get the impression there not a good tree. Is this the right thing here? is this God giving me the discerning skills that he wants, that i prayed for?

I mean surely, going through life as a Christian, there are alot of non-christians, and those that are enemies to God, I feel that if i put on an approach where “every body is good”, than I deceive myself in thinking everyone is saved and thus theres no point to my good works, church attendance, and prayer.

On the other hand, if I judge everyone critically I seem to eat away at myself and I get guilty for not bieng a good person as well, nor a good christian.

And this is the very troublesome dilemma I have here living in North America where I am trying to discern people, love them, and also not judge them wronglly, yet I do want a moral and religious compass and guildeline so I dont injure myself, nor fall into a trap or snare…

It truly depends on what you mean by “judge”. If as you say you are in good standing with God, you should always proclaim the Truth with clarity and mercy to everyone. This would be called admonishing the sinner. There is a huge difference between this and thinking that someone is not right and wishing ill on them.

Many Christians twist the message of Christ when he said “He who is without sin cast the first stone!” And while this is certainly true, many use this message to rationalize their ways as being ok with God when many times they are not.

It is also important to remember the next important phase “Go and sin no more”. And so, proclaim the Truth with clarity and mercy. If sadly, people refuse to change, pray for them. Many times that is all we can do…

 

[Sneaux]

That’s human nature, everyone likes to judge. The problem is, you can’t make certain assumptions or think that you’re better than them, we’re all just sinners. It’s wrong to say “Oh, that girl wears dark makeup and clothes, I think she’s goth, she’s probably a satanist, I’ll pray for her.” however, if you see someone dressed in an Atheist shirt, I’d say, yes, they’re probably an atheist, go ahead and pray. What you have to remember when you judge in anyway is, you’re also a sinner, you’re trying to get to heaven, and take others with you.

 

[eazyduzit]

We are not to compare ourselves with others. This is not wise(2Cor10:12). We should judge all things including ourselves by the standard of scripture.

Shalom

Jerry

 

[RCIAGraduate]

Not the best advice-giver and definitely unqualified to be a counselor but I’ll give my
two-cents :twocents: .

I think I can kinda relate, for me it’s finding problems with my parish. I know what my parish can potentially be, but what it is leaves me disappointed.

Remember, correcting others can be considered a spiritual work of mercy. It just has to come from the right place, with humility, with sincerity, with pure intention, and most definitely charity (if you are concerned about not being that way, strive (and pray for purity of intention and heart, God is understanding and knows our hearts and our efforts).

I mean surely, going through life as a Christian, there are alot of non-christians, and those that are enemies to God, I feel that if i put on an approach where “every body is good”, than I deceive myself in thinking everyone is saved and thus theres no point to my good works, church attendance, and prayer.

People are both good and evil. Remember, there’s really no black and white in everybody, but shades of grey. Don’t also forget God’s Grace, it’s He who saves us and reaches out and inspires us to do good, such as good works and prayer (which can be medicine).
Holy Communion is nutrition and Confession is a fount of mercy for us.

On the other hand, if I judge everyone critically I seem to eat away at myself and I get guilty for not bieng a good person as well, nor a good christian.

I think it’s a good thing to both recognize the plank in our own eyes, as well as the sawdust in our brothers and sisters. We can work on leading others and ourselves to the right path.
In respect to the guilt, I’m going to give you the advice someone else here, told me.
Be Peter, he fell three times by denying Christ, but he repented and came back to Christ. He accepted God’s Love and trusted in His Mercy (here’s the link to read it for yourself).

And this is the very troublesome dilemma I have here living in North America where I am trying to discern people, love them, and also not judge them wronglly, yet I do want a moral and religious compass and guildeline so I dont injure myself, nor fall into a trap or snare…

Honestly, you seem to be on the right track,understand there are times when we can give others a hand-up, and then there are times when we stumble and fall ourselves;here are some words from Padre Pio to help encourage you, understand that life can be a journey. Another thing, pray for others, prayer has an impact.

**Pray hope and don’t worry. -Padre Pio **

Also, make sure to get enough rest, I find enough sleep and rest as a good way to cope with problems and deal with issues.

Peace, Love, Goodwill and a Happy Advent to you. :hug1:

 

[Trident_H]

Ok, im going to try to keep this as short and simple for the time being as I need to get some rest however, my thing is, I like to judge people and I dont know why. I think that when you are a practicing catholic and you know your in the right with God, and that you observe and keep his commandments, have good moral stature and make right decisions, that you come across people that dont look to be the same or doing the same and I seem to judge them to a certain degree.

Sometimes, it drives me. Sometimes when I hear someone talk and such, i get the impression there not a good tree. Is this the right thing here? is this God giving me the discerning skills that he wants, that i prayed for?

I mean surely, going through life as a Christian, there are alot of non-christians, and those that are enemies to God, I feel that if i put on an approach where “every body is good”, than I deceive myself in thinking everyone is saved and thus theres no point to my good works, church attendance, and prayer.

On the other hand, if I judge everyone critically I seem to eat away at myself and I get guilty for not bieng a good person as well, nor a good christian.

And this is the very troublesome dilemma I have here living in North America where I am trying to discern people, love them, and also not judge them wronglly, yet I do want a moral and religious compass and guildeline so I dont injure myself, nor fall into a trap or snare…

The best way to stop judging is to get a good healthy dose of judgment heaped on yourself. Especially if it’s not true. Or fair.

How? Just keep your eyes open. And keep cruising the Internet. A couple of blurry Youtube comments made in the heat of the moment should do the trick.

I mean a guy like me’s got it easy. Because I’m so low down on the ladder I don’t dare judge anyone. I’d get my hand stepped on in that. I’d get my hand stepped on reaching up for the first rung.

Peace pwlj. I hope you don’t judge my comment too harshly.

-Trident

 

[Techno2000]

Ok, im going to try to keep this as short and simple for the time being as I need to get some rest however, my thing is, I like to judge people and I dont know why. I think that when you are a practicing catholic and you know your in the right with God, and that you observe and keep his commandments, have good moral stature and make right decisions, that you come across people that dont look to be the same or doing the same and I seem to judge them to a certain degree.

Sometimes, it drives me. Sometimes when I hear someone talk and such, i get the impression there not a good tree. Is this the right thing here? is this God giving me the discerning skills that he wants, that i prayed for?

I mean surely, going through life as a Christian, there are alot of non-christians, and those that are enemies to God, I feel that if i put on an approach where “every body is good”, than I deceive myself in thinking everyone is saved and thus theres no point to my good works, church attendance, and prayer.

On the other hand, if I judge everyone critically I seem to eat away at myself and I get guilty for not bieng a good person as well, nor a good christian.

And this is the very troublesome dilemma I have here living in North America where I am trying to discern people, love them, and also not judge them wronglly, yet I do want a moral and religious compass and guildeline so I dont injure myself, nor fall into a trap or snare…

I find that in order to not be a Hypocrite, I look at my past sins and this helps me to not judge others so much because its painful to look at my past sins.

 

[Contra_Mundum_1]

I think that we have all fallen into this weird obsession of not making any kind of judgements about a single thing. But this is secular thinking in which there is no right or wrong, just whatever feels right for people.

The church teaches that we must not assume things about the state of people’s souls. But the church teaches that there is right and wrong and that we must distinguish between the two.

So we are right to conclude that some people’s behaviour is objectively sinful, but should leave the judgement of their soul to God. We don’t know and He does and perhaps it is best to leave it at that.

 

[Techno2000]

I think that we have all fallen into this weird obsession of not making any kind of judgements about a single thing. But this is secular thinking in which there is no right or wrong, just whatever feels right for people.

The church teaches that we must not assume things about the state of people’s souls. But the church teaches that there is right and wrong and that we must distinguish between the two.

So we are right to conclude that some people’s behaviour is objectively sinful, but should leave the judgement of their soul to God. We don’t know and He does and perhaps it is best to leave it at that.

Right, because we don’t know all the facts.

 

[fred_conty]

I don’t know that a person can help but judge, but that doesn’t prevent someone from loving them. In fact, it should make a person love them all the more if it is seen they need help.

It is helpful to judge for the right reasons and harmful to judge them from the wrong reasons. If judging is to determine if they can help them or handle a situation, then that is good. If judging just makes one feel superior to them, then it is wrong.

I think it is very much like anything else we do, we need to look at our intentions and motives.

But I get the impression that to judge someone is usually taken to mean we judge them for hell and condemn them.

 

[multitude]

I could hardly say that this subject won’t come up again. I dislike judging people, I really do, I’d rather see the best in everyone, but it’s imprudent not to sometimes. Won’t be presuming the status of anyone’s souls, but past sins, although forgiven and absolved, do tend to shape us to the point where you have to know who or what to avoid, and who to learn from instead. One of the easiest ways in finding yourself landing in Hell, is keeping bad company.

 

[St_Francis]

You say you like to judge and you don’t know why. What do you get out of it? When you judge people, what is the happy result for you?

 

[Blessedwithfive]

Ok, im going to try to keep this as short and simple for the time being as I need to get some rest however, my thing is, I like to judge people and I dont know why. I think that when you are a practicing catholic and you know your in the right with God, and that you observe and keep his commandments, have good moral stature and make right decisions, that you come across people that dont look to be the same or doing the same and I seem to judge them to a certain degree.

Sometimes, it drives me. Sometimes when I hear someone talk and such, i get the impression there not a good tree. Is this the right thing here? is this God giving me the discerning skills that he wants, that i prayed for?

I mean surely, going through life as a Christian, there are alot of non-christians, and those that are enemies to God, I feel that if i put on an approach where “every body is good”, than I deceive myself in thinking everyone is saved and thus theres no point to my good works, church attendance, and prayer.

On the other hand, if I judge everyone critically I seem to eat away at myself and I get guilty for not bieng a good person as well, nor a good christian.

And this is the very troublesome dilemma I have here living in North America where I am trying to discern people, love them, and also not judge them wronglly, yet I do want a moral and religious compass and guildeline so I dont injure myself, nor fall into a trap or snare…

Hey, are you my daughter?
You sound just like her

 

[pwlj_christ87]

i dont get anythingout of it, im just applying things ive learned to other people, its a hard subjeft

and no im not your daughter im a male lol