I love a Hindu girl

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Let me be very blunt. Very few people marry their first love

Enjoy her company and being in love, but don’t elope.
You are far to young to make the life long commitment.

If you are still dating in 4-5 years, you’ll have figured it out.
 
I know very few people marry their first love. I love her company and I love her more than anything else. She and I had a fallout and all my friends told me it is young love ideology and all that. But we started being honest with each other and she is my best friend now. She saved me from hurting myself. She makes me feel like a person and she feels the same way about me. I love her and she loves me. I want to get married into the Catholic Church with her, I would observe Hindu feasts and prayers but I wouldn’t participate in prayers, etc. I have already made a life long commitment to her. We have talked and her dad is coming back to her home in 2019 and she said we would probably stop talking then. After talking to her, she promised me that she would never stop talking to me because of her love for me.
 
Yes it can be done,but there will be possible challenges such as will there be disagreement about which religion the children will be raised?
Will your wife accept them being raised as Catholic?
It is “permitted” in the Catholic religion to marry someone of a different religion but it is better to talk to a priest because you will get different opinions on this forum.
 
God speaks to us best in the depth of our being, i.e. in the heart.

He loves the girl, and so he needs to follow his heart and not the hatred expressed in here because she follows a pagan religion.

Jim
 
A false reglion like Hinduism is pagan and let us remember St. Paul said that the gods of pagans are demons.

It would be dangerious for a Catholic to marry a pagan
 
So it is wrong for me to be in love with someone who cares for me the same way I do for her because she is a different religion. I would be lying to myself and to her if that were the case. I talked to my mom and she said it can cause problems but if you love the person then marry her. I am a devout Catholic and she a devout Hindu, I don’t mind observing Hindu feasts and prayers(not participating in them). It is dangerous, but it is worth it. She believes her faith is truth. She doesn’t think of them as demons. I know they are, but she doesn’t.
 
If you were to marry, your primary obligation is to make sure your kids are raised with the Catholic faith, and are taught about Catholic morality and enforced by you to the best of your ability. It would be hard if only one parent is doing that. But that’s what a parent’s job is and you will be held accountable by God at your personal judgement (not to scare you or anything but it’s true).

Discern what God’s will is for you. Do you think He would want you to marry a Hindu or a Catholic?
 
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God would want him to marry the best woman for him, regardless of what religion she belongs too

Both are very young and still living at home.

They have a how lot of life ahead of them before they think about marriage.

My guess is that her parents are more objectionable toward him than the Catholics in here are objectionable toward her. 😃

Jim
 
I understand; love is a powerful emotion. But I think God would rather have two devout Catholic parents than one. Marriage is ordered toward having children and their souls are of utmost importance. They might be confused being taught two different things labeled as Truth.
 
Thank you! That helped! Especially with the video. Preety(her name) and I both help each other with religions. She tries to understand mine and I her. I would never start practicing Hinduism, but it doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t read about it and try to understand it.
 
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I understand; love is a powerful emotion. But I think God would rather have two devout Catholic parents than one. Marriage is ordered toward having children and their souls are of utmost importance. They might be confused being taught two different things labeled as Truth.
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This. 1000 x 100%. The whole thing, but especially the last two lines.

The Evil One wants people’s souls. One way he is working is by telling people that all religions are the same.

No.

There are martyrs who paid the price with their lives rather than renounce the Christian religion. It is one reason why I am still Catholic today, as I doubt hundreds would die for what they knew to be a lie.
 
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God want’s him to have a wife that will help him to be a good Catholic, even if she’s a Hindu, Jew or Buddhist.

A bad Catholic wife would not be what God wants.

Anyway, marrying a non-Catholic isn’t necessarily against God’s will.

Jim
 
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How would you deal with kids? You’ll have to be practical about this and maintain a united front for their sake. Is she willing to have the kids be raised as Catholics?

I was in a relationship with a non Catholic when I was your age. It lasted a few years, but it was precisely the practical issues like this that made us realize we couldn’t continue. He would not budge and neither would I. I later met and married my Catholic husband, while he married a girl of his own faith.

She sounds like someone who has been a good influence in your life, but realize that if you do go into marriage, you should do so with a good dose of practical wisdom.
 
Do you know what the primary ends of marriage are?

How does the Catholic Church define them?

Most people think that marriage is first based on romantic love and emotional feelings. Thing is, that is icing on the cake, and not every single cake has icing and no cake has icing on every crumb.

Marriage is for having children, for raising these children. It is for the good of the spouses and it is for a relief from concupiscence.

Romance and feelings are not primary ends of marriage.

So, children. Kids are smart, you were smart a few years ago when you were a kid, right? You knew there is right and wrong and that two opposing things cannot BOTH be true.

When we marry someone of a different religion, or even of a different sect within a religion, your children will have to be taught that

Mommy is right, there are uncountable numbers of gods so daddy is wrong
Daddy is right, there is one God in three persons, so mommy is wrong
Mommy and Daddy believe opposite things so we know that nothing in religion is true, it is like a flavor of ice cream that everyone can choose what ever they like.

It is good to have friends who help through bad times, it is good to have friends of different faiths. What is not good is to believe that emotions are more important than truth.
 
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