I love a Hindu girl

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I know very few people marry their first love. I love her company and I love her more than anything else
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In 4-5 years, you’ll have figured it out.

Just focus on the present and don’t fixate on the problems with getting married or being together forever.
 
I can appreciate your dilemma. The only advice you should take from here is discuss it with your priest. This is an Internet forum, and by its nature, while we all mean well, there are very few of us that are as smart as we think we are myself included, and NONE of us are omniscient. Neither is your priest, but it is he who is closer to you than we are, and it is he that is trained in these matters.
 
You’re 16 years old? My advice would be to enjoy your friends, work hard in school, make a bunch of mistakes, gain some wisdom then revisit this question.
 
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Everyone makes mistakes and we learn from mistakes. Unless one lives sheltered in a bubble.

If the word mistake is too vague, substitute it for “learning lesson.”
 
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I would suppose everyday we make tiny mistakes. Every time we go to Confession we’re admitting that we’ve come up short.

However, there are Major Mistakes that are definitely serious and shouldn’t be repeated or attempted. Many of my coworkers are fine examples of “What Not To Do”.

Here’s a Few Things I’ve Learned From Them
  • Don’t Drink and Drive
  • Don’t Do Drugs
  • Don’t Have Premarital Sex
  • Don’t Drop Out of School
  • Don’t Stop Learning
  • Don’t be a Doormat for Others
  • Don’t be an Underachiever
  • Don’t Burn Bridges Unnecessarily
 
There are plenty of people who do marry their first love. I thought about this last night and many in my family, including my parents, one set of grand parents and great grandparents, many uncles and aunts, and cousins married their First Loves. But my godfather married for the first time at 40! He and his wife had a great marriage anyway. I married later than most in my family to someone I believe God sent me.

Sometimes First Love is the right love. But most people have negative experiences with their first loves, for a lot of reasons, immaturity being one often with a load of hurt, and that is why they didn’t marry. They are often the ones that say ‘Why would you plan to marry your first love’ ? 'Especially when another will be along? Like buses or that phrase ‘plenty of fish in the sea’! Well, if it was a terrible or even lackluster romance, then those phrases are a true comfort. Not everyone has a good early experience. Trying again with someone new is a very good thing in that case!

Your original question was more about marrying someone outside the Faith. Many of us (me as well) took the tangent about your age. Keep close to Christ and His Church. Pray, work towards your education and career, whatever you are called to do and do it well. Seek advice from your parents, be obedient to them, they know you and love you.

I’ve suggested this a few times here at CAF, find a patron saint. When I was older than you by seven (!!!) years I asked St. Joseph for help in finding a career and a spouse. Don’t wait that long to ask for Heavenly help!
 
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Paul, as I told you, over the years became more devout Catholic. For me it used to be, his truth, her truth, their truth…my truth – no. There is one truth. I will pray for you, Paul. Give yourself time to learn your faith before you make any decisions. The video is good, follow that Fr. more he has other topics. I hope that over time you move from these videos to actually meeting with a priest and reading on your own.
 
What you are feeling is puppy love. New love is like this, that’s okay. I’m not saying it’s bad later. But there are three types of love can develop into. Sometimes new love can developed further. I think you can want and wish at this stage and it seems like forever. Here are the stages of love in the Bible: What are the three types of love in the Catholic Bible? - Quora

Which of the 3 do you believe you are in? And allow yourself the idea that something better can still be there, otherwise you may miss it not giving yourself a chance. Be careful.
 
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Paul14 said:
We have talked and her dad is coming back to her home in 2019 and she said we would probably stop talking then. After talking to her, she promised me that she would never stop talking to me because of her love for me.
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Have you met this girl in person or from online?
 
And you know this how ?

Can you hear what the person hears in his heart ?

JIm
 
Hey, I have some advice:
Okay so,

1:
SHE needs to promise that the children will be brought up in a CATHOLIC manner, any hint of Hindu influence with all of the different Gods etc will not sacrifice.

2:
Inter religious marriages are WAY more likely to fail, or a least the bonds and family will not be as tight.

3:
Will the children go to church every Sunday? Pray as a family? CATHOLIC pictures and crucifixes in the house with NO Hindu IDOLS in the house?

4:
Hindus will most likely go to hell when they die, nothing you can do to stop this apart from converting them, this is what the Church has taught us throughout the ages. For the sake of your future children souls, her soul AND your soul, I would either:
a) Convert her FULLY
b) Leave her for the greater good of future children’s souls and your soul

Either way pray to God for what is right, also it cont be good long term for both of you when you feel like you cant talk about your faith.
This may sound harsh but its the truth of it, I don’t think it would be a good idea at all. Remember THIS IS YOUR SOULS SALVATION WE ARE TALKING ABOUT HERE, this stuff cant be taken lightly. I don’t think it would be fair that the children’s souls would suffer. Also how old are you? If you don’t mind 😛

CHAZER2222
 
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If you are afraid to share your Christian faith with her, then your foundation for a future life together is shaky from the start. My advice is to talk to your priest and do what he says.
 
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