I might be in trouble with the church

[cheeto1]

This may sound daft i’m only 25 and kind of the black sheep in the family(none of my family are serious about the church) they would go mad at me if i moved in alone.my girlfriend pays rent money to her parents and wouldn’t be able to afford that aswell as paymments to our house. We don’t have alot of money, that is why i feel that i need to take this house offer.

You said 2 different things here.
#1 - Your parents would be mad if you moved in alone. –
This isn’t a very good concern compared with the concern
that God may be mad if you moved in with Her. Can your
parents get you to heaven? No matter how happy you make
them, they can’t get you to heaven, God can. If you have to
choose between making God happy or anyone else happy,
always choose God.
#2 - You say your girlfriend couldn’t afford to pay both her rent
and mortgage payments on the house. Are you saying
that you can’t afford the house unless she helps you pay
for it? If so, you are starting out on a bad foot here. A
mortgage is a big responsibility, they usually last about 30
years. If you already know that in order to pay for this
“good deal” that you both must be working, then what will
happen to your children? Have you thought about children?
They often come along shortly after you are married and
they must be loved and cared for by somebody, a task that
is typically not possible while at work. Is it fair on
purpose and ahead of time to make them spend their
young lives in a daycare just so you can have a “good deal”
on a house?

There is only the 2 of you right now. You need to find a better
deal that you can actually afford. A two bedroom would be fine.
Who knows? You may get so much money at your wedding,
you can afford to buy a bigger house. If you don’t though, you
won’t have your life tied up in a responsibility you can’t afford.

Just my :twocents:

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

Actually, my son and his wife had the similar situation. They bought the house in May, but were not getting married until October. So, he moved in, but she remained living at her parents house, but still helped pay the monthly mortgage bill.

Jim

I would have to agree that this is the best solution offered right now. Living together in the same house, to me, would be too tempting, too much of a near occasion of sin. It would be easy to just say…“well we are in the same house, we can just lay next to each other, nothing sexual” and before you know it you are sleeping in the same bed. One thing could lead to another and before you know it, things become more of a convenience to you and it makes it easy to forget all the reasons that you moved in together in the first place. Just a thought.