I have learned that NOW, but when you grow up in a bubble, like I did…everyone trying to coddle you…you seriously don’t grow up with this knowledge. It’s really false that ‘women are born to be at home…’ ‘to be homemakers…’ I mean, unless you grew up in a home where cleaning and cooking was taught to you–you really grow up lacking those skills…and therefore, unable to pass them down to your own kids.
I must be from a different planet. When I was old enough to walk I was working on the farm. When I was in 6th grade I distinctly remember bailing hay in 100+ degree weather for hours on end. I also remember spending weeks in the bean fields “walking” beans…(cutting the weeds by hand) I wasn’t paid a dime for it…ALL farm kids know what I am talking about…it was a way of life and taught me how to pull my weight without expecting anything more than a sense of self accomplishment. Why in the world would you pay your kids for helping maintain your household.…I
I told my husband he needs to give them like $50…and he looked at me like I had two heads.
Are there any moms out there like me? My husband did make a quasi good point today though…he said ‘how do you expect him to endure the heat in Florida, during football practice?’ True, I actually get worried thinking about that, too.
sigh…I don’t know if you have read my thinking on it…as to why?
It comes from a life opposite to yours…not everyone was brought up the same way. I also lost my parents at a young age, and people around me coddled me. When one is brought up being paid for chores…it’s easy to pass down.All of our life’s experiences have occurred for what our vocations hold. There is a reason why your life was the it was.sigh…I don’t know if you have read my thinking on it…as to why?
You mean me and the millions of other farm kids and farm kids today (god bless their parents for doing the right thing by making them help out with the god intended life lesson of hard work and taking care of family)
this is why i titled my thread…I NEED HELP. LOL:blush: I need help in changing my thinking on this…and I am slowly coming around, but there is this part of me that doesn’t want to impose on my kids.
I believe in them cleaning up their own messes…totally agree. I had to do that as a kid. But, all this throwing out stuff and packing for our trip…I just don’t want them to resent me. I am really not a “weak” mom…when it comes to grades…I’m very stern about that…about morality, etc…forming their faiths…about studying hard, and preparing for college…While I don’t have kids I still feel I can somewhat relate as like ALL OF US we were once kids and had parents telling us what to do. I was told once by a parent that whatever you do, do it for love. The best thing we can do for our kids is to help prepare them for adult life and that includes a healthy work ethic.this is why i titled my thread…I NEED HELP. LOL:blush: I need help in changing my thinking on this…and I am slowly coming around, but there is this part of me that doesn’t want to impose on my kids.
This is just something that will take some time for me to come around…
There is nothing wrong in my book having the kids help. As far as paying them, I wouldn’t. Are YOU and your husband being paid?…I don’t know why I do this, but I don’t like seeing my kids over extending themselves (physical labor around the house)
We are moving, and my husband has been acting like a drill sargeant. We had a talk about it today, and he was a bit better…but my kids are very tired. I mean, they helped us clean out the garage today. Am I wrong in getting angry with my husband for making them help us? I know, I have brought up similiar issues before…that’s why I need someone to tell me that work for kids is alright. It’s not gonna hurt them.
I told my husband he needs to give them like $50…and he looked at me like I had two heads.
Are there any moms out there like me? My husband did make a quasi good point today though…he said ‘how do you expect him to endure the heat in Florida, during football practice?’ True, I actually get worried thinking about that, too.
Hurry up becuase before you know it they will be grown up. Part of forming faith is the life lesson of hard work.
Whatevergirl, my post was directed at bunnynessuk. I know you are trying to change your way of thinking, but this poster sees nothing wrong with not doing housework… I just don’t understand that way of thinking at all.I have learned that NOW, but when you grow up in a bubble, like I did…everyone trying to coddle you…you seriously don’t grow up with this knowledge. It’s really false that ‘women are born to be at home…’ ‘to be homemakers…’ I mean, unless you grew up in a home where cleaning and cooking was taught to you–you really grow up lacking those skills…and therefore, unable to pass them down to your own kids.
Hello again Whatevergirl,oh…i can’t say i disagree with her.
joke.
Jesus worked hard. Hmmm…I had not thought of that. Yes He did…in various ways. I would imagine, a mobile ministry to start off with…walking miles and miles each day to ‘fish for men…’ Yes, you are right.Hello again Whatevergirl,
Have you listened to the Beatles:
'Can’t buy me Love. , money can’t buy me love…"
substitute Guidance- since we all know you LOVE them like CRAZY
“Cant buy me guidance, money cant buy my guidance”
Not judging you whatevergirl, I just want you all to be happy.
Especially those miracles of God you and your husband raised!
Keep up the good work! Keep Loving them,showing them Jesus who was not afraid of work or suffering , and it will all work out just FINE.
Compassion is sharing in HIS passion. Let them have that GLORY.?
Jesus worked hard. Hmmm…I had not thought of that. Yes He did…in various ways. I would imagine, a mobile ministry to start off with…walking miles and miles each day to ‘fish for men…’ Yes, you are right.
The house packing is coming along pretty well…we’re approaching the home stretch.
well…if you’re not too busy on thursday…
We are all pulling for you, (even though you might rather it be literally!)
It would take me that long to get to you! LOLwell…if you’re not too busy on thursday…
LOL–Well, you know how I feel about paying kids to do just about any chore…ha!
I am sooo in love with mine of course. But, I look forward to the future too and what goes with it like the incidents I have been reading about (“jumper”)LOL–Well, you know how I feel about paying kids to do just about any chore…ha!
Aw…you have a toddler…how sweet. I sometimes miss those days. There were toddlers running around at this bbq today…and they were so adorable…so innocent…
because I think all of life’s stages teach us as parents so much more about God’s love for us as our Father watching us does.Yes…that is so true, Hell. I think that my husband and I have found that following children through the good and bad…is an extension truly of what God does for us–I mean, He is the Ultimate Parent.I am sooo in love with mine of course. But, I look forward to the future too and what goes with it like the incidents I have been reading about (“jumper”)
Mine keeps telling the priest the desire of desires held close, to pray to have a baby sister or brother but please God a sister if you can do it.
