I need advice with this..passive aggressiveness

[someperson555]

so long story short i have a friend and she was mean to me a while back. but now shes trying to reconnect with me. but im still angry with her. so i deliberately ignore her on facebook and skype. i really hate feeling this way towards her, but i also want her to know that she offended me and that she hurt my feelings. would it be a sin to tell her this? to let her know that i am angry with her and that i want to her to apologize? is it a sin to demand an apology?

 

[Chantal25]

I can understand the power of pride and the fear to be hurt again.

Here is what i will remind you. Think of the passion of Jesus, he forgive easily and effortless the one that condemn him and put him to death without requiring an appology from them.

If we want God to forgive us, we must also practice this act of mercy. Our human side wants to be right and feel justify but sometime, we need to allow Jesus to come in our heart and allow him to transform us.

If anything, i would apologize to her for resisting so much.

Forgive, you will feel so much better. It isn’t about what she does right because you aren’t in charge of her will but you are in charge of your will. You can pray for her, but you cannot hold a grunge. If she isn’t trust worthy and do armful thing, then keep your distance but at least let her know that you don’t feel comfortable with her but don’t forget to pray for her. It is our duty to pray for others and especially the one that hurt us.

All the best!

 

[dshix]

so long story short i have a friend and she was mean to me a while back. but now shes trying to reconnect with me. but im still angry with her. so i deliberately ignore her on facebook and skype. i really hate feeling this way towards her, but i also want her to know that she offended me and that she hurt my feelings. would it be a sin to tell her this? to let her know that i am angry with her and that i want to her to apologize? is it a sin to demand an apology?

There are a lot of factors which play in to what you should do. My first inclination is to say that now that she is trying to reconnect, it is your obligation to forgive and forget.

However, that depends on a few things.

How bad was the offense she did to you?
Has she made any expression of remorse between what she did and now?

I think an apology is in order, but if it was a small spiteful offense it would probably be better for you to just forgive. What you must make sure you do not do is hold a grudge.

 

[Joe_5859]

Being passive-aggressive is seldom a fruitful course of action.

“Demanding” an apology doesn’t strike me as the best approach (after all, if you demand an apology and she gives you one, won’t it feel a bit forced to you regardless of whether or not she was sincere?).

It might be appropriate to let her know that her actions hurt you. Or else you might simply let go and move on.

Either way, holding a grudge isn’t good for you. I’ve heard it described as drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick. It just doesn’t work that way. It only hurts yourself.

 

[Lady_Love]

Sometimes it is good to clear the air but I suggest forgiving her from your heart before talking to her. It is definitely o.k. to address your hurt with her but you have to be ready to let it go before talking to her. Pray for her and yourself and everything will be fine. All things work out for good for those who love God.

 

[someperson555]

There are a lot of factors which play in to what you should do. My first inclination is to say that now that she is trying to reconnect, it is your obligation to forgive and forget.

However, that depends on a few things.

How bad was the offense she did to you?
Has she made any expression of remorse between what she did and now?

I think an apology is in order, but if it was a small spiteful offense it would probably be better for you to just forgive. What you must make sure you do not do is hold a grudge.

thank you. well, its just that she was inconsiderate. and she didnt even realise that what she was doing was hurtful. but i just want to tell her that. ofcourse i will forgive her. and ill be her friend again i guess, i just want her to know that she wasnt being very nice in the past. anyway thank you all for the advice.