My girlfriend and I have been having a very difficult relationship and I have decided to with a heavy heart end the relationship. Now she tells me she is pregnant. I am unsure as to how this could have occurred because we took every precaution.
The main issue is I am spiritually torn as to what to do… If we continue this path it could jeopardize not only my current daughters life (this new child could be used against me in her legal placement) and the two children whom my girlfriend have been fighting the court system to regain legal rights to… It’s all a very complicated story.
In addition, my father has cancer. If he found out anything like this happened I am almost 100% certain the stress alone would kill him (I am being far beyond serious). Thus with a impossibly heavy heart I have considered abortion which is a heinous crime against God. I am even crying as I write this but I have to wonder why I could have allowed myself to enter such a awful situation.
I don’t know what is right… I don’t want to do it (abortion) but I am so terrified of losing my child and the unexplainable stress it would put on my father. I don’t want to lose both of them because of my terrible decision… I need a prayer…
I’m praying for you as you struggle with this very difficult situation. There are other options. Please put your baby’s precious life before anything else.
Here is a link to** Zoe for Life**, an OCA resource for crisis pregnancies. A sample of their nationwide referrals is below, too.
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zoeforlifeonline.org/**
And here is the number for their confidential hotline** 877-436-LIFE (5433)**
Just calling and talking to someone about what you are going through can be a big help.
*There are many organizations that provide information, counseling and assistance to those in need.
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sistersoflife.org
The Sisters of Life is a contemplative/active religious community dedicated to protecting and advancing a sense of the sacredness of all human life- beginning with the infant in the womb and extending to all those vulnerable to the threat of euthanasia. *
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birthright.org
Birthright Helps any girl or woman regardless of age, race, creed, marital or economic status, who feels distressed by an unplanned pregnancy. *
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care-net.org
Care Net is a non-profit organization that supports a network of over 600 pregnancy centers across the United States and Canada. *
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adoptioncouncil.org
The National Council For Adoption provides general information on adoption as well as some guidelines for approaching both deciding to adopt and taking the first steps. After you have gathered that information, we can also provide contact information to adoption agencies and attorneys to assist you further. *
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catholiccharitiesinfo.org
The Catholic Charities network is made up of numerous independent, local Catholic Charities agencies and institutions across the nation. Their community-based programs and services provide help and create hope in need each year, regardless of religious, social, or economic backgrounds. *
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National Office of Post-Abortion Reconciliation and Healing
Founded in 1990, the National Office of Post-Abortion Reconciliation and Healing, Inc. networks researchers and psychotherapeutic professionals working in the field within the U.S. and abroad, consults on the formation of post-abortion support services within secular and religious settings including Project Rachel, provides training for care providers, maintains a national “800” referral line for those seeking assistance in reconciling an abortion experience *
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healingafterabortion.org
Path offers hope and healing for the devastating physical and emotional stress that often surfaces months or even years after an abortion. Their method is personal, compassionate and non-judgmental as they help a woman face her own guilt, anger and isolation. Trained volunteer counselors help bring men and women back into relationship with God and the community. *
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hopeafterabortion.com
Project Rachel is an outreach of the Catholic Church, but it is open to anyone who is struggling after an abortion loss. It is able to help women and men; parents, grandparents, siblings, friends and others whose lives have been impacted by an abortion loss. *
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rachelsvineyard.org
Rachel’s Vineyard weekends for healing are an opportunity a woman to examine her abortion experience, identify the ways that the loss has impacted her life both in the past and in the present. They can help her to acknowledge any unresolved feelings that she may struggle with after abortion. Because of the emotional numbness and secrecy that often surrounds an abortion experience, conflicting emotions both during and after the event may remain unresolved. These buried feelings can surface later and produce symptoms of post abortion trauma. *
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heidigroup.org
The Heidi Group attempts to reach the woman who finds herself in an unplanned pregnancy with the truth about the choice of life, both physical and eternal. *
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thinkaboutitonline.com
Comprehensive information about abortion - Women, Choice and Truth - and what is best for women.
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This is the link to the OCA Martha and Mary House
oca.org/resource-handbook/commservice/martha-and-mary-house-an-orthodox-christian-maternity-home-for-pregnant-wom