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I feel like im really struggling in my walk with Christ. Its not just one thing either. I don’t know what to do. I feel like i keep comming back to this place. I want to grow, I want to change.
I feel real weak and ignorant. I dont know how to live right . I dont know what Gods will is, and when I think I do I often fail to submit to it. I get caught up in my head alot though trying to figure it out and cause myself confusion and uncertainty and scrupulosity.
15I don’t understand myself at all, for I really want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do the very thing I hate. 16I know perfectly well that what I am doing is wrong, and my bad conscience shows that I agree that the law is good. 17But I can’t help myself, because it is sin inside me that makes me do these evil things.
18I know I am rotten through and through so far as my old sinful nature is concerned. No matter which way I turn, I can’t make myself do right. I want to, but I can’t. 19When I want to do good, I don’t. And when I try not to do wrong, I do it anyway.
I need help. Would someone talk to me. my e mail is liqwidstyx@yahoo.com
thank you Brethren.
~Yours in Christ
~Matt
 
Brother, I’m praying for you. The first thing you need to do is make a decision to do what is right and repent of your sins through the sacrament of confession. I would then say go directly in front of the Tabernacle kneel, and pray and just listen to God talk to your heart. You can do it! God is a merciful awesome God who never gives up on you. Trust him, his power is so awesome! I overcame a life of serious sin, I mean I was rotten. But Jesus trough the sacraments saved me and gave me hope. He will do it for you also. Also, go to www.ewtn.com under novenas find the one to our Lady of Perpetual Help she will help you. It’s never ever too late! Dont give in to sin. Remember the ultimate reward in Heaven is far greater then any Earthly pleasures.
God Bless You!
 
Ok. Thank you for your prayers bro. But its bit more complicated than that.
 
I do not know what your particular situation is, but I know that confession and prayer are good medicine for whatever ails ya. I will pass onto you some advice one of my favorite priests passed onto me when I converted. Don’t be surprised if you struggle with the same sins over and over again. We all have weeknesses, some people can repent and truely sin no more but for many of us sins are an on going battle, and we fall, but you have to remember to go to confession and try again. If you give up completely, then you can’t get better. Personally, I’ve found that when I look at where I am compared to where I was, God has truely helped me overcome many sins, I still have many to go, but I know that he will not abandon me and he will not abandon you either. Keep searching for him, and pray, it may not happen overnight, but it will happen. Find books that deal with whatever areas you are struggling with, try to find a spiritual advisor, and again pray and go to confession.I hope that helps.
 
Hmm. Something which would help might be narrowing down your one problem (or main problems if there are several) a bit more.

Is it correct to say that perhaps your problem stems from habitual sin? This would make a lot of sense and it corresponds to what we know about habitual sin and vices (the seven capital sins).

Basically, sin begets more sin, because it puts you in a state that disposes you to more easily sin.

The way we combat sin is by deliberately doing things to foster habits of their corresponding virtue at the opposite end of each vice’s spectrum. We could try to get more specific with suggestions if we knew precisely which vices you may be suffering under. Outside of that possibility, you can do your own research on the vices (i.e. Capital Sins), the corresponding virtues that counter them, and how to foster each particular virtue.

It’s also been said that the more you pray and keep yourself busy doing small good works, the less you will sin 1.) because you won’t have the time for even entertaining temptation to the same extent and 2.) because you will be planting and growing seeds of virtue in the process.

Virtue, like sin, becomes habitual. This solves the problem of habitual vices.

You can very well start out small–you don’t have to start out by moving to Calcutta to be the next Mother Teresa. There are smaller ways to get the habits planted when you’re just starting out, so that you don’t get overwhelmed and give up.

How exactly you start to proceed depends on which virtue you want to start working on. Some start to combat lust and greed by practicing small mortifications–let’s say maybe, a day of a bread and water fast here and there, or eliminating sugar or something else you really enjoy. By this, they are fostering the virtue of temperance. Some start to combat anger and envy by starting off practicing small works of charity and humility, even if they start off just praying for people they have the most problems with and acknowledging their own sinfulness and repenting. Some combat sloth by reading their catechism and bible or other holy works. The key is to make the actions habitual, keep as busy as you can with them, and to keep a prayerful state, offering everything you’re doing up to God in the process.

Through the Church’s prayer and blessings, God also can work through small material tokens we call “sacramentals”. They should not be mistaken for magical talismans. Devotion to a particular sacramental works because God, at the Church’s request, grants a favor to the Church and works through the little medal, scapular, holy water, rosary–whatever it may be–to help to predispose you to receive and accept graces. Since it sounds like your problem may be a problem of a lack of the disposition to accept and work with grace, a sacramental might help you.
 
Often times I find it well and good to sit outside at night and just talk to the Lord. Just talk to Him as you would if He were physically standing in front of you. Share with Him your concerns. Share with Him your worries and your troubles Let Him know your hopes and dreams. What kind of person do you want to be?
God some times withdraws grace in order to help us better realize how much we really need Him. Don’t depend so much on the emotional highs of life and don’t dread the emotional lows, for both come and go. Depend all the more Christ Himself, drown your thoughts and emotions in the ocean of His mercy.
You are, after all, His child.
He’s listening. Ask for the grace to listen, in return, to His response.
As Padre Pio would have said, Pray! And don’t worry about anything!
Friend, if you trust in the Lord, you can’t go wrong.
If these things bother you so much, then beg Christ to carry this Cross for you. Recant to the Lord your human weakness and the misery with which you’re feeling.
God gives us cross to make us stronger. But sometimes, we just reach a limit!
Go to Jesus for refreshment! Unite your suffering to the Cross for the salvation of souls. If you ask God to take it, He will.
Also, ask Mary to bring your joy back to you.

I will pray for you!

Mordocai
P.S. I recently went through a similiar low-valley. It wasn’t pleasant at all. But I took solace in the simplicity of these words from Job
The Lord has given
and the Lord has taken away
Blessed be the name of the Lord!
 
if you ever have listened to father corapi’s sermons on catholic radio (every day at 10 am central.) he talks about spiritual warfare. and that warfare could be with the evil one or possibly yourself. i would take the “i cants” and replace them with “i cans.” nothing is impossible with Christ by your side. Ask the Lord for help, pray the rosery, dont worry yourself and have hope. Tell your priest what is going on and go to reconciliation. Remember no matter what, your never alone, the Lord will always be by your side. Trust in him always. You will persevere. We have all sinned and no matter how trecherous the sin, God forgives.

p.s. one of the most important things to do is go do something for somebody. whether that is to stop by an elderly members house or to cut your neighbors lawn. its what life is all about, being a servant as Christ was.

one more thing, what mordocia says is so true, talk to the Lord as if he is by your side, because HE IS by your side right now. he is your best friend and its rediculous how much he loves you. i think its the last chapter of John that gives me utter chills when i read it or think about it. the Lord says “i will be with you untill the end of time.” May the Father, Son and Holy Spirit be with you always.

Our prayers are with you.
 
eveyrone thank you for your concern and for your words. I dont know exactly what it is im struggling iwth. i think i struggle iwth scrupulosity though. Thanks for your rpayers. God bless you all.

~Matt
 
this was taken from catholicculture.org

this was just part of the segment.

The Traditional Pastoral Approach

In order to seek some relief or sense of assurance, scrupulous people often fall into a pattern of constant confession, spiritual direction, or professional counseling. Often the scrupulous person is seeing several people for counsel, each of whom is unaware of the others and is repeating advice and giving direction. More often than not the scrupulous person exhausts the people who are attempting to help. This leads to frustration in the helper and panic in the scrupulous person.

For this reason, a single, trained, patient, and informed confessor remains the best help and hope for the scrupulous person. This approach has as its source no less of an authority than Alphonsus Liguori, bishop and doctor of the Church, patron of moral theologians — and also a person who suffered from scrupulosity and who is known to have worn out the confessors of Naples in his search for relief. Alphonsus teaches, “I tell you that you should implicitly trust in obedience your confessor. This advice is given by all of the doctors of the Church and the holy fathers as well. In short, obedience to your confessor is the safest remedy which Jesus Christ left us for quieting the doubts of conscience, and we should give thanks for it.”

Despite the recommendation of the saint, it is often difficult for a person with scrupulosity, even it he recognizes the wisdom of the advice, to enter into a relationship with a single confessor. It is challenging to find a priest confessor who is willing to commit to this kind of relationship, often because of a feeling of inadequacy. Even if a priest confessor can be found, the scrupulous person is often hesitant to commit to one person to direct Ins spiritual growth because of a fear that he may have chosen someone who is not well trained or who is perhaps too patient and kind.

Regardless of how the scrupulous person might feel, he must force himself to choose this remedy. Not coincidentally, ultimate relief from the affliction of scrupulosity lies in the choice to act against fear and doubt.

Although commitment to a single confessor is of primary importance, another help is available. Understood as supportive and supplementary to the work of the confessor and the grace of the Holy Spirit, membership in Scrupulous Anonymous (SA) is also recommended.

SA has no meetings. It accomplishes its work through correspondence and the mutual prayer and support of its members. The primary vehicle for this correspondence is a monthly newsletter, Scrupulous Anonymous. Edited by a priest director, the newsletter is sent free to all who request it. During the more than thirty-five years that SA has been in existence, its members have demonstrated repeatedly that those who follow the direction of a single confessor and who use the monthly helps and encouragement that are provided in the newsletter can enjoy support and relief in their struggle. Often they are able to escape altogether the torment of scrupulosity.

The SA newsletter, suitable for both those who suffer from scrupulosity and their priest confessors, may be obtained by writing to SA, One Liguori Drive, Liguori, Missouri, 63057. Names and addresses, as well as all correspondence, are confidential.

A spiritual director is a good choice for all people who desire to progress in spiritual growth and development. But for the scrupulous person, such an individual is essential. Scrupulosity is a terrible spiritual affliction that makes it difficult for a person to believe in the mercy and forgiveness of a loving Father. Despite their best efforts and their commitment to moral teaching and the Commandments, scrupulous persons struggle daily on their spiritual journey. Working together with a trained and patient confessor, a scrupulous person can learn to act against his compulsion and slowly come to know the peace and confidence promised to those of good faith.
 
Ok my name’s Matt too… So there’s like three Matt’s posting in a row . woah lol ok thought i;'d throw that in there
 
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